Merry Hanakah and Happy Christmas!!! DONELLE

[Guest guest]

Dear Donelle

Thanks for taking the time to tell us about Glenn and yourself, it was

absolutely riveting

and not long at all!

I am glad you have the financial side sewn up.

Now just relax and spend the time left wisely.

At least if the dinner is crap tomorrow it wont be your fault.<g>

Best wishes to all of those who have been plucky enough to bare their lives on

this board

and to others who have done their best to find honest answers to some very

difficult

questions.

Chris

ancer_support , Grandmommyandme@a... wrote:

>

> Hi everyone!!

>

> Just checking in to let everyone know that Glenn got all his Christmas

> shopping done from his lazy boy!! LOL I shopped for his children and my

> grandchildren for him. And my sister shopped for me for him!! Think I'll try

that

> approach next year!

> I hate shopping of any kind, except online!

>

> I can't even begin to remember when I actually posted, so if this is

> repetitious, please forgive me. Glenn's Mom and brother came from Ill. to

visit and

> all went very well. His sister, , came from Texas. It was a short

> visit, but went well also. Our friend from TX came for the week and that was

fun

> and she was very helpful to me and loving to Glenn. Tears, of course, are

> shed as each one leaves.

> His best friend and his wife from IL are coming next week. His children and

> estranged wife-y are coming Sun. All of a sudden wife-y wants to visit....

> isn't that sweet?? No, it's not...she wants to see a copy of the Will.

> Well, my darlings, she will not see it. The Will that Glenn has is very

> simple...wife-y gets the house in VA and all its contents. The condo we live

in is

> mine and so are all its contents, including Glenn's things!! We have a

> timeshare, which becomes mine. She gets most of the life ins. and that's all

she

> needs to know. She is disabled with severe kidney problems and can only work

> part-time, but she can shop FULL-TIME!!! She has 4-5 toasters in boxes at

> any given time!! Among other things she buys constantly. If she uses her

> life ins. $ wisely, she will be fine, but she won't. I never anticipated

> having to deal with these things, but should have b/c Glenn has always said

for

> her, it's all about the money.

>

> The children used emotional blackmail on Glenn telling him they would not

> visit him if Mommy couldn't come. After my anger subsided somewhat, I agreed

> for them to come, but they aren't ruining our whole Christmas Day, so they

> won't arrive until about 4 p.m. They are bringing dinner!! I will try to

make

> it the nicest day possible for Glenn...and if wife-y starts anything, I will

> show them the door!! God has given/is giving me the strength to see this

> through, for Glenn's sake. He will also give me the strength to let the

> " children " (ages 23 and 29) know that their use of emotional blackmail on

their

> dying father was really very mean and uncaring. I absolutely could not take

the

> chance of denying Glenn the opportunity to see his children!!

>

> I was able to get Glenn to his company Christmas party with help from a

> couple co-workers. We only stayed for dinner, but Glenn did very well....and

it

> was very good for him to see his co-worker friends. They all made him feel

> very special.

>

> Glenn is getting weaker....he fell again last night and I had to call 911 to

> get them to get him up off the floor. He landed flat on his butt, back and

> head, but seemed to be o.k. Will probably be achy again today. He is a

> little more yellow, in color, from the liver failing. He is sleeping most of

the

> time, but still comes to the livingroom sometimes and sleeps in his lazy

> boy. He will eat most of the time, but food is starting not to taste right.

He

> thinks he wants something that he normally loves and then it doesn't taste

> good. He's also requesting things I've never known him to eat before, like

> Strawberry Malts. He's having a little more break-through pain. The liver

> can radiate pain to any organs in the body and it does!! But, so far, this

is

> managed with Oxicodone in addition to the pain patch. The diarrhea has been

> somewhat manageable, except for several occasions when there is just no

> control on Glenn's part. He is becoming somewhat disoriented at times, can't

> think of words, and is scared to death of how the end will come. I just keep

> telling him he will just go to sleep...and a peaceful journey is what I'm

> praying for!! It's been way too slow for him with such pain and debilitation

> continuing for over 1.5 yrs. Enough is enough!! We don't need a climatic

> ending!!

>

> Six weeks ago, I never thought Glenn would live to see Christmas...now I'm

> praying he does. Hoping you all have the merriest of Merry Christmases and

> the happiest of Happy Hanakahs that you possibly can have...enjoy every

single

> minute and let NO ONE take away your joy!!! Peace in the knowledge that

> loved ones gone on are spending Christmas with Jesus and they want us to

share

> their joy, even though we miss them terribly!!

>

> Which reminds me, we are starting a new tradition this year...we are all

> missing Mom/Nana so badly... my suggestion... I've ordered and will pick up

18

> helium filled balloons and we will let them all ascend to the heavens in

honor

> of my Mom and also my nephew, with little notes attached if each person

> cares to do that!!

>

> Off to buy scotch tape, so I can finish wrapping!! (my son with

> custody of 3 little ones...8, 5, 3) and I went shopping Thurs. evening for

his

> kids...I went yesterday for my sons and Glenn. Now just need to wrap it all.

> Was just about to go get tape last night when Glenn decided to fall down-go

> boom!! Thanks for all your prayers for both of us!!

>

> Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 12/24/2005 11:44:52 AM Eastern Standard Time,

chrischristoph@... writes:

At least if the dinner is crap tomorrow it wont be your fault.<g>

I even swallowed my pride and complimented wife-y on her moist turkey...LOL

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn