RE: Re: Trick or Treat/Ingrid

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In a message dated 10/29/2005 10:21:08 PM Eastern Standard Time,

lowenco@... writes:

My problem is I think I am feeling at 100 percent. Then I try to do

something and get really down because I am not like I was before the

surgery. I try to do too much and when I get to feeling down I get my

reminder that I am still healing. Just think it will get better in

time. Ingrid

You ARE still healing, Ingrid...please do not overdo!!! Don't they say a

year after major surgery before you are totally healed?? Not sure where I

heard that, but major surgery or illness of any kind takes a major toll on

one's

body...including yours, sweetie!!! LOL

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

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Len:

YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a survivor.

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>>>Have others here also heard anything about it taking a year to heal

after major surgery? I am almost four months out of my two surgeries

and am basically feeling good. Just get fustrated sometimes when I

still do not feel 100 percent. Ingrid

>>>

Yes. It was told to me that it can take up to two years to completely recover

from a common hysterectomy.

Now, add to that the burden of cancer, treatments, etc....yep.

I know what you mean about being frustrated. I get so mad at myself sometimes.

Then I have to settle down and " give myself a good talkin to:) "

nancy

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Actually I had my major surgery on 8/22 and when I went in 10/12 he had no

restrictions on my lifting but I still try to be careful. I feel well just

tired a lot or lazy:) Still have to stay close to bathroom and guess I always

will. This second resection is so much different then my first one. It took me

well over a year to feel decent and then still not up to par. Of course after

that one I had infections and staph along with the striture that developed. I

think we are all differnt. I am a diabetic but don't seem to have any trouble

healing. Tonight I am still up because of bathroom problem though:) I am also

close to 69 yrs so I am really amazed at how well I am doing.

Hil

Re: Re: Trick or Treat/Ingrid

My doctor made me wait two months after my colon

resection before I started my chemo. Even then I was

not well enough to do any heavy lifting. I don't

remember when that happened. Maybe it never did and

that was 8 years ago. Operations are not fun.

Len

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Well I still have my kids , 5 of them though not all want to deal with my

problems and some can't get off work. But when I need them they will be

there. Wish I could find a good buddy to help hold my hand, or even sugar

daddy to pay all my bills. LOL. The sugar daddy would have to be pretty old

for me to call him Daddy though. LOL.. And so it goes. Helps to have a sense

of humor..alot. Hugs and prayers. Jolene

Re: Re: Trick or

Treat/Ingrid

After cancer I lost my sex life, my confidence, my

bowels have been in a constant uproar, I can't take

pleasure in going for a drive any more, I don't build

race cars, or anything like that anymore, I don't

smoke (though I quit that 5 years befor the cancer) I

stopped drinking beer, (it just doesn't tast good) I

can't sit down and enjoy a meal because I can only eat

in small quantities, and I have lost all passion for

winning, leading, providing, dreaming, or anything

like that. My brain has even lost a lot of function

and I can not type as well as I could. The only thing

I have left is a wife who loves me very much and I am

living my life for her. Anything she wants she gets -

though I have to remind her that she has to save

enough to live on when my retirement checks

dissappear.

I don't know if you can judge by that but you my see

my point.

Len

--- Marty and Ellen Grogin

wrote:

> Len,

>

> Is your bottom-line feeling that, due to your

> quality o life, just BEING

> alive for the past 8 years has not been worth it?

>

> Tough question, I know, but I seriously mean it, and

> I'm sure we all wonder

> about these choices, no?...

>

> Marty

>

>

> On 10/30/2005 8:15:30 PM,

> colon_cancer_support wrote:

> > ,

> > I wish I could say that I had done something in

> those

> > 8 years that made all the pain and missery worth

> > while. I enjoy life a little more but that is

> about

> > it.

> > Len

> >

> > --- brencolinmom@... wrote:

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Len:

> > YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a

> > survivor.

> >

>

>

>

>

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I have to say I lost my life seven years ago when my husband passed away. I

always thought we would grow old together and take care of each other. If it had

to happen I often think he went fast and did not suffer. Now I face this cancer

thing without him! I have four wonderful daughters but it just not the same as

having a spouse. I could never find another like him or to take his place but

who would want a old lady with health problems? It would be nice to have someone

to just talk to and go for a ride or dinner with.

Hil

Re: Re: Trick or

Treat/Ingrid

After cancer I lost my sex life, my confidence, my

bowels have been in a constant uproar, I can't take

pleasure in going for a drive any more, I don't build

race cars, or anything like that anymore, I don't

smoke (though I quit that 5 years befor the cancer) I

stopped drinking beer, (it just doesn't tast good) I

can't sit down and enjoy a meal because I can only eat

in small quantities, and I have lost all passion for

winning, leading, providing, dreaming, or anything

like that. My brain has even lost a lot of function

and I can not type as well as I could. The only thing

I have left is a wife who loves me very much and I am

living my life for her. Anything she wants she gets -

though I have to remind her that she has to save

enough to live on when my retirement checks

dissappear.

I don't know if you can judge by that but you my see

my point.

Len

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Oh Hil I know just what you mean. I thought too that Richie and I would grow

old together and that he would take care of me, but it didn't work out that

way. He was an ornery cuss but he was my ornery cuss and I learned to live

with him and he me. I to would like a friend just to pass the time with and

share a few laughs - you are right - the kids are good but is not the same

as a male companion. Yeah, I wonder too, who would want an old lady like me.

Oh well so it goes, we manage don't we Hil? Hugs and prayers Jolene

Re: Re: Trick or

Treat/Ingrid

After cancer I lost my sex life, my confidence, my

bowels have been in a constant uproar, I can't take

pleasure in going for a drive any more, I don't build

race cars, or anything like that anymore, I don't

smoke (though I quit that 5 years befor the cancer) I

stopped drinking beer, (it just doesn't tast good) I

can't sit down and enjoy a meal because I can only eat

in small quantities, and I have lost all passion for

winning, leading, providing, dreaming, or anything

like that. My brain has even lost a lot of function

and I can not type as well as I could. The only thing

I have left is a wife who loves me very much and I am

living my life for her. Anything she wants she gets -

though I have to remind her that she has to save

enough to live on when my retirement checks

dissappear.

I don't know if you can judge by that but you my see

my point.

Len