Re: A little overwhelmed ....Donnelle

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> He told me tonite he doesn't want his brother, sister and mother to see him

> in the condition he's in....he hasn't spoken to any of them for months. Long

> story... but it has really bothered me and I've kept in touch with his

> family and let them know what is going on....against Glenn's wishes. But he

hasn't

> found out yet..Any words of wisdom what I might say to Glenn, in a way he

won't just

> totally shut down and say " No " ....which is what he usually does when we

discuss

> this.

Donnelle

I personally believe you must respect Glenns wishes. You can of course continue

to ask

him if he wants vistors/family as he might decide he wants to say goodbye. I

dont know

how things work at the end but with pain relief maybe comes a change in his

mind.

Let him make that decision. That way he will open up again and wont have to be

on the

defensive.

If not and whatever happened between him and his family remains unresolved it

does not

matter. After all the only ones who will feel better are those still living.

Let him go his own way and give him everything he wants. Have his favourite

food and

drinks to hand and if he only has a little and wastes it, it matters no one bit.

Surround him with music, photos, nice smells indeed anything that you know he

gets

pleasure from and most of all do your best to be there yourself. Can you ask

for

compasionate leave for instance.

You too will benefit from him being calm the last thing he needs is any

aggravation.

Chris