But wait a minute, guys....

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Give me a heads-up here....if you go around thinking negative all the time,

how can that possibly help at all?? Not only are you miserably sad and

worried about what is going to happen when....whatever is going to happen

happens,

(and I realize you can't always make those thoughts go away!!). but I will

have red swollen eyes from crying all the time. At least if you try to keep

positive, you have " hope " ... hope for comfort, hope for happiness, hope for

cure...or whatever is to come in the rest of your life.

Anymore insight here....cause believe me I'm pretty down right now.... and

not liking it at all... more later...

donelle

In a message dated 11/3/2005 9:59:44 AM Eastern Standard Time,

milyandtheworld@... writes:

That thing about positive thinking is not really true. They have done a

research on that and it's not true. When I had first found out about my cancer,

everyone used to tell me this. To them it was like a period, full stop, so

everyone could start talking about happier things. Sometimes i realize how

people really do not care about our cancer. Once I was so down that I have

decided

to confide my sorrows to a non cancer friend. Well she told me not to worry:

" The important thing is to keep positive thinking " she said. Right after

this " very clever " advice she has started telling me how sad she was that her

son didn't want to marrie his girlfriend. I got up from the couch, looked at

her and said: I really do not care about your problems, they are so

insignificant compared to mine. I still see that lady, but my attitude towards

her has

changed radicaly. I don't give a damn about her. She knows that but she

doesn't want to live me. She calls me still.

Marty, please try to be a bit happy. Look around you, discover nature, the

beauty of this world.

We are still alive, why should we burried our lives before time?

Love,

Lydia

Marty and Ellen Grogin wrote:

How true...

I HATE it when the " outies " start giving me the positive thinking

stuff...real easy to say...then it becomes OUR fault if things don't go as

we'd like them to

Marty

On 11/3/2005 4:08:03 PM, colon_cancer_support wrote:

> Ingrid, thanks for the cheers.

> It's so easy for non-cancer people to say be positive and stay strong, but

> we all here know how difficult that is sometimes. For me it's

> a matter of putting one foot in front of the other and going forward.

> After all, it sure beats the alternative.

>

> This board and my local support group have been two of the best things

> I've done for my emotional health since I started this journey. People

> like you and Kaye, Narice, , too many to name who are still here and

> some gone give me courage sometimes.

>

> I feel pretty good during the off weeks, then dread starting the Xeloda

> again, but I'm

> learning to cope, and when I compare with the stories here, I realize how

> much more difficult this has been for so many. It makes me complain less

> and I know my family appreciates that...lol

>

> Prayers for all.

>

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