Re: Re: A little overwhelmed ....Chris/all

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In a message dated 11/5/2005 8:26:29 AM Eastern Standard Time,

chrischristoph@... writes:

Donnelle

I personally believe you must respect Glenns wishes. You can of course

continue to ask

him if he wants vistors/family as he might decide he wants to say goodbye.

I dont know

how things work at the end but with pain relief maybe comes a change in his

mind.

Let him make that decision. That way he will open up again and wont have to

be on the

defensive.

If not and whatever happened between him and his family remains unresolved

it does not

matter. After all the only ones who will feel better are those still

living.

Let him go his own way and give him everything he wants. Have his

favourite food and

drinks to hand and if he only has a little and wastes it, it matters no one

bit.

Surround him with music, photos, nice smells indeed anything that you know

he gets

pleasure from and most of all do your best to be there yourself. Can you

ask for

compasionate leave for instance.

You too will benefit from him being calm the last thing he needs is any

aggravation.

Chris

Ohhhh, Chris....the tears are " leaking " as he lies sleeping and I read all

these heart warming messages. You guys are the best!!! I'm so grateful for

each one of you. I'm so grateful for the release of tears, finally... I'm so

grateful for all the direction you all are giving me.... the knowledge gained

from having gone through this yourselves and suggestions from each one of

you!! I'm sooo sorry I'm re-opening pain for some of you...but please know I

appreciate your being there for me.

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn