Re: *update* on my DH who is a stranger to me

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In a message dated 12/16/2005 12:41:08 AM Eastern Standard Time,

myfaith05@... writes:

Everyone,

Sorry, I havent been able to reply much since I joined. My goodness, this

group has lots of messages. I think it is wonderful how active & helpful you

all are -

I wanted to update you about my husband . He was in a deep depression

& drinking alot. Well, He emailed me & asked me for help. He said he would

go get professional help (which he really really needs) but he didnt know

where to go or what to do about insurance etc. So I told him that I would get

it handled & he would just have to show up @ the hospital. For once, a rep

from the hospital was so helpful & told me exactly what he needed to do &

how they would handle him once he arrived. So i emailed my husband the

information & he SAID he is going in the morning.

Would you all say a prayer that he really does go & that the hospital admits

him as inpatient care? I just want my husband back & I want to introduce

him to this support group. I wish I would of found it when he was 1st

diagnosed so he wouldnt feel so alone

Thank you all for listening to me, Faith

Faith

Hi Faith...praying right now that God will give the strength he needs

to get the help he needs. I hope he'll join us, but if he doesn't I hope

you'll stay with us. DON'T give up on or the disease...and if alcohol

is now a problem, he has TWO DISEASES he's fighting. Glenn has never been on

the board or sent any messages (except through me) and a lot of the spouses

are like that, whether they be the patient or the caregiver. You can get the

messages and help needs for him to realize he's not alone and then

relay it to him. I print out emails for Glenn every so often, but usually just

talk about it. He's very happy I've found and become a participant in this

group... I'd be in the goofy house by now if it weren't for this group of

" family " , as I have no local support and very little family support. Also,

praying for you, sweetie...jump on the roller coaster...it's not a " fun "

ride...but we'll be here to help you, support you and love you.

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

Oh Faith I will pray that your hubby will go to hospital like he said he

would. Also pray that you get your husband back. You had good relationship

before all this so you can have it again I am sure of that. God Bless

Jolene

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Faith,

You can count on my prayers. I'm so sorry that your husband turned

away. The depression may be the toughest thing to beat.

Sharon

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> Everyone,

>

> Sorry, I havent been able to reply much since I joined. My

goodness, this group has lots of messages. I think it is wonderful

how active & helpful you all are -

>

> I wanted to update you about my husband . He was in a

deep depression & drinking alot. Well, He emailed me & asked me for

help. He said he would go get professional help (which he really

really needs) but he didnt know where to go or what to do about

insurance etc. So I told him that I would get it handled & he would

just have to show up @ the hospital. For once, a rep from the

hospital was so helpful & told me exactly what he needed to do & how

they would handle him once he arrived. So i emailed my husband the

information & he SAID he is going in the morning.

>

> Would you all say a prayer that he really does go & that the

hospital admits him as inpatient care? I just want my husband back

& I want to introduce him to this support group. I wish I would of

found it when he was 1st diagnosed so he wouldnt feel so alone

>

> Thank you all for listening to me, Faith

>

>

>

> Faith

>

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Dear Faith

Thanks for the update - and a belated welcome the group. I hope you find help

here. I was very touched by your emails and info on your husband. I understand

the place he is in - as I was there when I was diagnosed. I talked to nobody -

answered no phone calls - barely communicated with my husband - couldn't care

for the children. I was considering suicide seriously. Funny thing is - I was

scared of being treated for cancer and LIVING with it - rather than dying from

it. He is in a dark place - and he needs your patience and your love - as

miserable as he is right now. I know I felt drinking helped - it just took the

pain away. It is a HUGE step for him to go to someone for help. Don't despair

if he gives up on that too - and don't be surprised. I think he will start -

but bottom line is it won't change his situation. I am even with tears now -

remembering how I felt and how he must feel now.

He needs you to be there - as much as he seems to reject you - I know he

doesn't mean it - he is just in pain and doesn't know what to do. Be patient,

be kind. I think he will come back to you. You are probably his rock - and you

are his safety net. Keep up the good work - and good luck and God Bless you in

this journey. You sound like a kind and caring wife, who will be strong for him

until he gets his strength and is willing to fight. Encourage him to come home

- but give him his space.

God Bless

Pat

tarcav23 wrote:

Faith,

You can count on my prayers. I'm so sorry that your husband turned

away. The depression may be the toughest thing to beat.

Sharon

>

> Everyone,

>

> Sorry, I havent been able to reply much since I joined. My

goodness, this group has lots of messages. I think it is wonderful

how active & helpful you all are -

>

> I wanted to update you about my husband . He was in a

deep depression & drinking alot. Well, He emailed me & asked me for

help. He said he would go get professional help (which he really

really needs) but he didnt know where to go or what to do about

insurance etc. So I told him that I would get it handled & he would

just have to show up @ the hospital. For once, a rep from the

hospital was so helpful & told me exactly what he needed to do & how

they would handle him once he arrived. So i emailed my husband the

information & he SAID he is going in the morning.

>

> Would you all say a prayer that he really does go & that the

hospital admits him as inpatient care? I just want my husband back

& I want to introduce him to this support group. I wish I would of

found it when he was 1st diagnosed so he wouldnt feel so alone

>

> Thank you all for listening to me, Faith

>

>

>

> Faith

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi, Faith. I have been praying for your husband. I hope that you get in touch

with him. Can the hospital tell you if he went there or not? Hope he gets the

help he needs. Keep in touch. Praying for you, too.

~Deb from KS

Faith wrote:

Everyone,

Sorry, I havent been able to reply much since I joined. My goodness, this

group has lots of messages. I think it is wonderful how active & helpful you

all are -

I wanted to update you about my husband . He was in a deep depression &

drinking alot. Well, He emailed me & asked me for help. He said he would go

get professional help (which he really really needs) but he didnt know where to

go or what to do about insurance etc. So I told him that I would get it handled

& he would just have to show up @ the hospital. For once, a rep from the

hospital was so helpful & told me exactly what he needed to do & how they would

handle him once he arrived. So i emailed my husband the information & he SAID he

is going in the morning.

Would you all say a prayer that he really does go & that the hospital admits

him as inpatient care? I just want my husband back & I want to introduce him

to this support group. I wish I would of found it when he was 1st diagnosed so

he wouldnt feel so alone

Thank you all for listening to me, Faith

Faith

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