Re: Re: Am I the only one?-Jacquie

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In a message dated 5/2/03 10:05:27 AM Eastern Daylight Time, vhunnius@...

writes:

> Ironically, I can think of lots of things to WRITE.

I wonder if this is how Putter and and the other hyperlexic kids will

be... you know able to express themselves better on paper then verbally. If

my becomes anything like you Jacquie I will be the happiest mom alive.

You hang in there until you're ready we all love you very much and are hoping

for the best for all of you!

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> > Ironically, I can think of lots of things to WRITE.

>

> I wonder if this is how Putter and and the other hyperlexic kids

will

> be... you know able to express themselves better on paper then verbally.

I bet they will. Writing is easier because I can take the time to order my

thinking and say what I want to say, rather than opening my mouth and having

gibberish come out.

A totally non-emotional example is talking politics. If I'm expected to

talk politics on the phone or face to face, I end up babbling and sayings

that either make no sense or do make sense but make it seem as if I don't

have two brain cells to rub together. But if I get into an email

conversation about politics, I can make insightful and intelligent points in

an organized manner. The stress of the expectations involved in a f2f

conversation undermine my intelligence.

I think our kids will probably be the same way.

One way I save face in conversation is to ask questions. People LOVE to

answer questions, and it takes the pressure off me! LOL.

>If

> my becomes anything like you Jacquie I will be the happiest mom

alive.

You are SO SWEET. Thanks! I've been lucky in that I found a mate who loved

and loves me BECAUSE of my as qualities, not in spite of them. When we did

the EQ thing earlier, I asked marc if I'd ALWAYS had no empathy, and he said

yes, I've been as I am as long as he's known me. Can't tell you how much

better that made me feel.

There ARE people out there who value people on the spectrum for exactly who

and what they are, and my life is richer for having met a few of them.

They've really helped me to become more grounded, more centred, and more

comfortable being myself. I wish that for all our kids. :-)

>

> You hang in there until you're ready we all love you very much and are

hoping

> for the best for all of you!

Thanks! Marc was asking me a bunch of hypothetical questions about the job,

what we'd do if he got it, and he asked me: " What do you want to come of th

is? " Now, I don't know how you guys would have answered that question, but

it made me sooooo angry. I asked him what he wants me to do - get all

excited and hopeful so that if the unthinkable happens and he doesn't get

it, he feels bad AND guilty for letting me down? Or should I act like I

don't care so he doesn't feel stressed? Or should I be hopeful and start

making plans for our future somewhere else so that he feels this incredible

pressure to succeed before he even gets to the interview? Finally I just

said, " I would like to go there. I would like to move. I'm also fine right

where I am. " I just hope that covers all the bases.

isn't it fun to be me? ROTFLMAO!

Jacquie

-who stored a box of frozen chicken nuggets in the cupboard and an ice cube

tray in the fridge last night. nooooo, we're not stressed!

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Hey, we put our food away like you do!! We use our age to explain it

though.

Sue