Guest guest Posted August 30, 2001 Report Share Posted August 30, 2001 From next week, except for holidays, DH and I will be on our own. No kids around at all, except our married ones, who have begun fighting each other to invite us for Sabbath/holiday meals. The Jewish New Year (Rosh Hashanah) is approaching (begins evening of 17th September, lasts two days.) DDs 1 & 2 both claim the right to have us for the first night meal. DD1 (Sara) says she has first right bc (1) she's the firstborn, and (2) we have gone to her every year for the past 13 yrs. DD2 (Tammy) says it's not fair because Sara *always* has us for Rosh Hashanah, Passover, *and* her family come away to Israel with us for Sukkot (a festival in the autumn, following the High Holy Days. Read about it on my website on http://www.ruthiepearlman.com/sukkot.html) I have my reasons for this " favouritism " (which isn't favouritism and TBH I don't think Tammy would like this trip to Israel as it involves a helluva lot of work, not a holiday.) Sara isn't budging. She wants us for the first night. Tammy has reluctantly agreed to have us for second night, but is resentful. We feel torn. She feels she always gets the " dregs. " We tried to make her feel good about the second night, saying it's as important as the first night but she knows it isn't. DH and I told her to have it out with Sara, which she might do. I do think Sara is being unreasonable and should consider her sister's feelings. Nice to be fought over tho! Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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