Guest guest Posted October 4, 2001 Report Share Posted October 4, 2001 I realise I haven't been very clear about what happens when the couple do meet. They go out on fairly normal dates, but probably have more deep and meaningfuls, and sooner, than you might consider *normal*. As we mums tell our kids before they go out on these dates " you can tell on the first date if he is wrong for you. You can't tell till a later stage, if he is *right* for you. " And one of Tavya's stipulations was that she would *never ever ever* marry a redheaded man. Here are Tavya and Dov last Sukkot http://www.ruthiepearlman.com/pictures/jumpcastle.jpg (!!!) Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 4, 2001 Report Share Posted October 4, 2001 Tavya's in a strop at the moment cos her MIL has insisted that when they come back to the UK next, (in December for her best friend's wedding... her MIL doesn't know about their intended surprise trip to London at the end of Sukkot yet) they should stay with her, not us. I understand perfectly both sides. Tavya's in laws feel we see far more of them and Rafi than they do; we come to Israel a lot, they don't, when they come to the UK, they tend to stay with us out of preference, they only have two kids and each has only one baby so far, whereas I have 17 grandchildren. But T & D prefer staying with us! Difficult one. I keep out of it. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 4, 2001 Report Share Posted October 4, 2001 Very difficult Ruthie! Can Tavya imagine the future though, where when Rafi is an adult he stays with his wife's parents all the time and not at her house?!?!?! Hannah -----Original Message----- From: ruthie@... Tavya's in a strop at the moment cos her MIL has insisted that when they come back to the UK next, (in December for her best friend's wedding... her MIL doesn't know about their intended surprise trip to London at the end of Sukkot yet) they should stay with her, not us. I understand perfectly both sides. Tavya's in laws feel we see far more of them and Rafi than they do; we come to Israel a lot, they don't, when they come to the UK, they tend to stay with us out of preference, they only have two kids and each has only one baby so far, whereas I have 17 grandchildren. But T & D prefer staying with us! Difficult one. I keep out of it. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 4, 2001 Report Share Posted October 4, 2001 > Very difficult Ruthie! Can Tavya imagine the future though, where when Rafi > is an adult he stays with his wife's parents all the time and not at her > house?!?!?! > > Hannah I know, I know. Truth be told, I've only ever had one daughter in law, Uri's wife, and she was a real mummy's girl. Not that Uri liked his in laws that much, (unlike my sons in law who all seem to prefer us to their own parents!!) but he knew he had to stay with them more than with us, and I accepted it. Having said that, it wasn't quite the same situation; Uri's in laws lived out of London, so it was accepted that when they came to London they stayed with us; no choice! I do agree with you Hannah. I think Dov's parents are great, personally, but they can be a bit overpoweringly smotheringly loving, if you get my meaning. That's why Dov prefers it with us, we are more laid back. Zehava said yesterday that I wasn't maternal *enough*, because in shul we saw the most stunningly gorgeous girl, and Zehava said, awestruck: " she's prettier than me " and I didn't jump in to reassure her that no, indeed, my Zehava was the most beautiful girl in the entire world. She hasn't forgiven me since!! I think all my girls are gorgeous, but not the most beautiful in the world, and I happened to agree, that girl in shul was prettier! Was I wrong? Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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