Re: Am I the only one? (Raena)

[Guest guest]

Hmmmmmm....Hard to say what I even " think " is going on with Alec. He just seems

disinterested. Like he could care less. I think he knows " how to show affection "

and maybe undersatdns it somewhat but has no desire at all. He looks at us as

tools to get what he wants. Sometimes that's playtime and sometimes thats to

clean him and others it's to feed him. I don't think I can really describe what

Alec is like. He seems happy but could care less about us. He is not

disconnected. He knows what is going on. He chooses to not participate. He does

not seem bothered by things like Greggory was. I cant really explain alec.

Aren't there kids with some sort of attatchment disorder? I think that is alot

like alec. But yet there is more to it than that of course.

Jacquie H

Re: Am I the only one?

> Thanks. I dont think those 2 reasons apply to Alec though. >

Oh. Well, never mind then...

;-)

May I ask, how do you see what is happening? Just curious about what

you feel goes on in Alec's mind...not trying to pry. Feel free to

ignore if you don't want to pursue this further....I just always like

to understand more about kids like ours, and how they think.

Raena

[Guest guest]

Hi Jacquie! Reactive Attachment Disorder is usually experienced by kids

with traumatic early years...loss of parent, lived in orphanages, etc.

Children that are afraid of forming or can't form an attachment because of

having been hurt before or because they have never had someone they could

trust or attach to.

How's miss Yessinia doing? started to walk a week before she turned

one! My sister is going to have a very active child on her hands!

Sue

[Guest guest]

Yes. I don't want to make it sound like I cause Alec's autism and I am really

not ready to go to some places of my mind to think about Alec as a baby and what

I did or didn't do with him. I know I did ignore him alot. I know I didn't meet

his needs alot. I know I saw him slip away. I have a ton of guilt about that.

But without going into detail about Alec's early infancy he actually could

suffer from RAD.

As for my Miss Yessenia, she is doing well. She has had way too many accidents

from trying to learn to walk and such. She fell and smashed her 2 top teeth

right back up into the gums. Just 2 bloody sockets were left. But the teeth are

coming back down. She has busted her lip and bashed her head and pinched the

skin off her finger. Because of all of this she stopped eating for a bit and

nirsing and the dr thinks she was suffering from anxiety. She wouldn't let me

put her down at all! and couldn't sleep. But she is getting back on track now.

She started to wave hi and bye and she even says Hi now. She of course calls

Jeff Dada and lights up when she sees him.

Jacquie H

Re: Re: Am I the only one? (Raena)

Hi Jacquie! Reactive Attachment Disorder is usually experienced by kids

with traumatic early years...loss of parent, lived in orphanages, etc.

Children that are afraid of forming or can't form an attachment because of

having been hurt before or because they have never had someone they could

trust or attach to.

How's miss Yessinia doing? started to walk a week before she turned

one! My sister is going to have a very active child on her hands!

Sue

[Guest guest]

Poor Jacquie (and Miss Yessenia).

It sounds like you are carrying quite a burden of guilt about your kids. I

have this problem too sometimes. But please, please! do think about laying

it aside. You are a good mommy, you did not cause nor exacerbate anyone's

autism. Miss Yessenia has had some bumps and bruises, as do all babies when

they learn to walk. Please don't take it too much to heart.

(SAHM in GA)

Chat! MSN elizabethloht@...

n 34, mo, no formal dx

Phoebe, 3 mo

Re: Re: Am I the only one? (Raena)

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> Hi Jacquie! Reactive Attachment Disorder is usually experienced by kids

> with traumatic early years...loss of parent, lived in orphanages, etc.

> Children that are afraid of forming or can't form an attachment because

of

> having been hurt before or because they have never had someone they

could

> trust or attach to.

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> How's miss Yessinia doing? started to walk a week before she

turned

> one! My sister is going to have a very active child on her hands!

> Sue

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