My heartbreak -or- One Twin's Perspective on Autism

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" Maybe ... you can teach Jordan how to play with you? " She

> thinks about this for a minute and then nods, " I teach Jor to

play. "

>

>

> Debbie with twins

> - Jordan (ASD) 2.75yo

> - (NT) 2.75yo

What a very touching story, ((((Debbie)))))

I know what you are saying tho...

jenna is almost 7 and rachelle just turned

2...rachelle has taught jenna sooooo much..

and i really believe that rachelle knows that

this is something different about jenna.

rach loves to color,and jenna is starting

to color more, because of rach, but rach will

be coloring and she does very well, then jenna

will come up to rach's paper and just start

scribbling VERY hard, out of the lines and all,

and rach will look at me like " what is she doing " ...

but then she will just continue on, with her own

coloring. le initiates most of the play between

them...

Im just rambling here, but i just wanted you to

know, i know how you feel...rachelle hasn't asked

questions yet, but im sure one day she will.

Sara is a great little girl, Jordan is a very lucky

little guy to have her to help him out!

((((hugs))))

nancy~

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Gosh Georga, you just described to a tee. :-)

Debbie with twins

- Jordan (ASD) 2.5yo

- (NT) 2.5yo

Re: My heartbreak -or- One Twin's

Perspective on Autism

I was thinking this too and really hope that she has one of those " in

your

face " personalities that demand attention and make it very hard for you

to

ignore them.

Georga

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In a message dated 5/6/03 5:28:44 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

weya@... writes:

> , " I teach Jor to play. "

>

>

>

Oh what a sweet wonderful child-a blessing all around I am sure.

The Grammas & Keion

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If Dakota is any indication she will be really good for him. I call Dakota

" built in therapy " . LOL

I wish her lots of luck.

Georga

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Re: My heartbreak -or- One Twin's

> Perspective on Autism

>

> I was thinking this too and really hope that she has one of those " in

> your

> face " personalities that demand attention and make it very hard for you

> to

> ignore them.

>

> Georga

> Visit my new web page at www.ubahbookshelf.com

>

>

>

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> " .... Jordan doesn't know how to play with you. " She looks at me

> with those brown saucer eyes and I just feel like I need to give her

> hope. " Maybe ... you can teach Jordan how to play with you? " She

> thinks about this for a minute and then nods, " I teach Jor to play. "

<big sappy bittersweet smile>

As the years pass, that little girl will be the best therapist you can ever

ask for, and Jordan is lucky to have her. :-)

And she's lucky to have him, too -- for she will grow up knowing kindness,

patience, and tolerance.

Jacquie

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>>>>>>>

" .... Jordan doesn't know how to play with you. " She looks at me

with those brown saucer eyes and I just feel like I need to give her

hope. " Maybe ... you can teach Jordan how to play with you? " She

thinks about this for a minute and then nods, " I teach Jor to play. "

<<<<<<<<

Perfect!

Great job, Debbie!!

Penny :-D

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This broke my heart too. I am sorry I haven't read this yet, the night

we were chatting I cant imagine how hard it was for you. But you know

is the most wonderful twin that Zach can have. She'll help him a

lot you'll see.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Debbie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99)

Lovely husband

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-----Mensaje original-----

De: weya

Enviado el: Martes, 06 de Mayo de 2003 04:26 p.m.

Para: Parenting_Autism

Asunto: My heartbreak -or- One Twin's Perspective on

Autism

I knew this would happen eventually, but I did not expect it to happen

at 2.75 years old. I have to tell the story of what happened yesterday.

Yesterday afternoon, came over and took Jordan's hand in hers.

" Come wi' me Jor, " she told him. He yanked his hand from hers with a

whine of annoyance. She took his hand again. " Come wi' me Jor, " she

repeated. He tried to yank his hand away again, voicing his disapproval

a bit louder. insisted, repeating her instruction yet again.

This is the first time has ever tried to lead Jordan anywhere, and

I wanted this interaction to be successful. So I took Jordan's other

hand and said brightly, " Lets go with . " Jordan tried to balk ...

but two insistent females had him by the hands, resistance was futile.

led us to Jordan's therapy swing in the dining room and declared

she wanted to swing. I sat both of them in the net swing, back to back,

and pushed them for the longest while. Eventually the net swing

" folded " in half so they were sitting side by side with the net between

them, and both kids were smiling and enjoying the swinging and spinning.

Eventually, Jordan had enough, and hopped out of the swing and ran off.

still wanted to swing, so I continued to push her.

She looks at me with these huge sad eyes and says, " I want Jor to play

wi' me. "

My heart broke with those words. How do you explain to a 2.75 year old

that her twin brother is autistic? How do you explain that the autism

puts a hurdle/wall/canyon in the legendary twin bond?

To buy time, I repeat her words back to her as a question, " You want Jor

to play with you? " " Uh huh, " she nods yes.

How do I answer her in terms she can understand? I think a moment more.

" .... Jordan doesn't know how to play with you. " She looks at me

with those brown saucer eyes and I just feel like I need to give her

hope. " Maybe ... you can teach Jordan how to play with you? " She

thinks about this for a minute and then nods, " I teach Jor to play. "

Debbie with twins

- Jordan (ASD) 2.75yo

- (NT) 2.75yo

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> If Dakota is any indication she will be really good for him. I call Dakota

" built in therapy " . LOL

Georga,

I agree, is the best " therapy " we could give . She is so in

his face and never leaves him alone. I am sure he his going punch her in the

nose one day soon!! lol.

Jen

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Oh, Debbie, this story is just so sweet. I am sure that will teach

Jordan a great deal; how hard it must be for a twin to have an autistic

sibling. In Putter's class at the special ed school he went to there was a

boy who was one of triplets. The other two were NT; I guess at least they

had each other.

Salli

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Oh, Debbie, this story is just so sweet. I am sure that will teach

Jordan a great deal; how hard it must be for a twin to have an autistic

sibling. In Putter's class at the special ed school he went to there was a

boy who was one of triplets. The other two were NT; I guess at least they

had each other.

Salli