Re: why are men so **** unreasonable?!?!?

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Rruthie wrote:

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> When DH do something wrong " it happens. " When I do something

wrong,

> I'm every kind of idiot.

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> Is this only my DH or is this a universal male trait?

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My DH never shouts he just looks at me and walks away - he never

argues and leaves me shouting at everyone and anyone.

However the boys always blame me for whatever - DS1 fell off his

scooter on Saturday but it was NOT HIS fault - it was MINE because I

told him to fasten his shoe lace (the one he ran over with his

scooter and it made him fall off) and he looked at me when I was

speaking so it was MY fault that he fell off not his! Work that out.

Basically I think the male population are all a bunch of idiots and

why we put up with them I have no idea. (Sperm Banks could be the

great thing of the future!)

Trisha

SAHM to 3 boys and not having a good evening yet due the the male

population in our house.

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Ruthie, you must be such an optimist after 30 odd years of marriage to

even think that your DH could begin to be reasonable?! ;0)

I found a badge once and bought it for my mum (my dad sounds rather

like your DH). It said " A woman's place is in the wrong! " . Boom!

Boom!

Francesca

(football on tonight so some peace and quiet to play on the computer

whilst scoffing chocolate custard - yeh!)

why are men so **** unreasonable?!?!?

> Sukkot is over. It's been great, hectic but great. Today we had 23

> for lunch.

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> Tonight, as we were clearing everything Sukkot-wise away, I handed

DH

> my silver candlesticks with their very delicate glass globe oil

> lights to put away in a high cupboard, asking him very nicely to be

> careful not to smash any. (He has, truth be told, an almost

comically

> disastrous record of smashing the glass globes/tea light holders

when

> putting them away.) These globe oil lights are new, difficult to

> replace on special order, and very delicate.

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> Well you've guessed it. On cue he managed to smash two out of three

> of the globes whilst putting them in the high cupboard. I wouldn't

> have minded quite so much if he had shown a reasonable amount of

> remorse, but he reckoned the best form of defence was attack, and

> he's been yelling at me for getting at him

> about it ever since!! " It's not the end of the world, all you do is

> criticise, " etc etc.

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> When DH do something wrong " it happens. " When I do something wrong,

> I'm every kind of idiot.

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> Is this only my DH or is this a universal male trait?

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> I'm quite upset at the moment, actually, joking aside, the glass

> globes are replaceable, admittedly with difficulty, but I feel

really

> miffed that he can't just do a bit of grovelling!

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> Ruthie, you must be such an optimist after 30 odd years of marriage

to

> even think that your DH could begin to be reasonable?! ;0)

34 yrs!!!

> I found a badge once and bought it for my mum (my dad sounds rather

> like your DH). It said " A woman's place is in the wrong! " . Boom!

> Boom!

>

> Francesca

The scariest thing is, that I see him turning into his late father,

more day by day. And his father, though he had many good traits,

reasonableness wasn't one of them.

The only saving grace in the equation is that I am not like his

mother, who was totally under her husband's authority and never would

have stood up to him when he was being unreasonable.

But when he does start shouting, I very seldom shout back..I do go

all quiet and weepy and " little woman " -y. And hate myself for it!

Why do I expect anything else? Maybe cos I have sons in law who are

very different? Well. Dov is, anyway, but he's unusually soft gentle

and kind. Tavya bosses him around mercilessly, but he's the type to

enjoy it!

I'd say Doniel and Benzy have the potential of being just as

unreasonable! And Tammy's Allan is also soft as putty in Tammy's

hands.

Ruthie

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> It said " A woman's place is in the wrong! " .

And I always thought a *mother's* place was in the wrong!

Lynda

SAHM to (8), (6), Fraser (3), Callum (15/5/00)

Newsletter editor, Mid-Northumberland Branch

Area Rep, Region 7

www.familygarland.co.uk

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> Tonight, as we were clearing everything Sukkot-wise away, I handed

DH

> my silver candlesticks with their very delicate glass globe oil

> lights to put away in a high cupboard, asking him very nicely to be

> careful not to smash any. (He has, truth be told, an almost

comically

> disastrous record of smashing the glass globes/tea light holders

when

> putting them away.) These globe oil lights are new, difficult to

> replace on special order, and very delicate.

>

> Well you've guessed it. On cue he managed to smash two out of

three

> of the globes whilst putting them in the high cupboard.

Well, excuse me, but if he has a habit of breaking them - why did you

ask him to put them away? Asking for trouble if you ask me! I think

there is a " law " (S*d's Law??) which goes something like this; if you

say " hold this, but *don't* drop it " , that is the first thing which

happens " , something to do with the negative vibes of what you have

just said. Next time, put them away yourself and in a not-so-high

cupboard! I'm not taking any sides, I am sure it *was* very

irritating, but give him a break (no pun intended)- you would have

said something like " Amazing! - You *didn't* break them! " if he

hadn't, IYSWIM! (Well, I would have done anyway). My DH and I argue

about this sort of thing all the time when he is here, and I *always*

regret being so daft as to ask him to do something which is going to

upset me if it goes wrong - I would far rather do it myself and get

him to do something else, like the washing up! Still, the best thing

about arguing is the making up isn't it!

Just my opinion - so far everyone else seems to agree with you

though....

Ruth

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> Basically I think the male population are all a bunch of idiots and

> why we put up with them I have no idea. (Sperm Banks could be the

> great thing of the future!)

>

> Trisha

> SAHM to 3 boys and not having a good evening yet due the the male

> population in our house.

Hmmm....where will it come from though, when the first " batch " has

run out? Reminds me of a book I read years ago (1984,

Orwell?) where the babies were supplied by huge fat 'Mothers'

impregnated artificially, and no males were allowed to grow to

adulthood with their manhood intact...YUK! And where's the *fun*

factor going to come from..?

I suppose I should say something here like - Make the most of your

menfolk while you've got 'em, but that seems unfair on you all, I

*do* complain about my DS hugely when he's here .... but at the

moment he isn't.

I missed his call tonight by just 3 minutes BTW, he left me a very

plaintive message saying " Darling, if you are in, please pick up the

phone....Hello?....Hello?....Oh, Well I can't call again today, send

me an E-mail if you can... " RATS!!

Ruth

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I *do* complain about my DS hugely when he's here

For DS read DH, of course!

Ruth

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> > I found a badge once and bought it for my mum (my dad sounds

rather

> > like your DH). It said " A woman's place is in the wrong! " .

Boom!

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> And my MIL has a fridge magnet which says " when I met Mr Right, I

didn't

> realise his first name was Always "

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Grin :-) I like that one, thanks ! I'd heard of the *Mother's*

place is in the wrong one, and used it often myself

Ruthie

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> I found a badge once and bought it for my mum (my dad sounds rather

> like your DH). It said " A woman's place is in the wrong! " . Boom!

> Boom!

And my MIL has a fridge magnet which says " when I met Mr Right, I didn't

realise his first name was Always "

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I did not mean that bit about sperm bank really!

I was just having a bad evening.

Trisha

SAHM to 3 boys

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.....where did she get it from?!....

Caro

said...> And my MIL has a fridge magnet which says " when I met

Mr Right, I didn't

> realise his first name was Always "

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> > I found a badge once and bought it for my mum (my dad sounds rather

>> like your DH). It said " A woman's place is in the wrong! " . Boom!

>> Boom!

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>And my MIL has a fridge magnet which says " when I met Mr Right, I didn't

>realise his first name was Always "

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I like " if you are tempted to question your wife's judgment, look at

who she married! "

--

jennifer@...

Vaudin

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> ....where did she get it from?!....

No idea!