Re: Unreasonable males...and Yeshaya

October 10, 2001

Well, excuse me, but if he has a habit of breaking them - why did

you

> ask him to put them away? Asking for trouble if you ask me!

You definitely have a point. My excuse is that the Sabbath/Festival

things, like candlesticks, wine goblets, etc, all " live " in this high

cupboard, and with my osteo arthritis, I tend to avoid climbing on

chairs if I can avoid it. So it's his job to put all those things

away.

However, in retrospect what I *should* have done was to remove the

glass globes, made him put the candlesticks safely away without them,

and then gently handed him the globes to put in separately...oh but

he would still have tried to put them back in the candlesticks... and

their survival would have again been in jeopardy.

Before I got these particular glass globes, which have permanent

wicks, hold parrafin oil and burn very beautifully, I used to use

little candle " glasses " in which you put a little tea light. He has

broken dozens of those over the years, but I didn't mind so much

because every shop here, and in the UK, sell them. These globes were

an innovation and I need to order them specially; they are from the

USA.

I don't really think it was the breakages which was the core of the

problem. It was his reaction to it.

On another tack, I am very pleased to report that Yeshaya has

integrated extremely well into this Yeshivah, he absolutely LOVES it

here, and Rabbi M is pleased with his progress so far. Thinking of

how miserable he was in school, this is a real step forwards. He is

quite happy that we are going home on Sunday and leaving him here for

the whole winter...there is no Xmas break in a yeshivah; the next

official break is at Passover! (Easter). We will probably come to

Israel some time in the winter to see him tho, it *is* a long time

for him to be away.

He's certainly showing no signs of advance-homesickness or asking us

not to leave; he is very settled and happy here, which makes me and

DH very happy. DH would prefer it if he was more of a dedicated

yeshivah student but considering he did literally NO Torah study

before he came, his studying, and love of yeshivah life, is coming

along very well indeed. We can't expect miracles all at once.

Ruthie

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