Guest guest Posted October 23, 2001 Report Share Posted October 23, 2001 umm.... only having had one daughter in law, you CAN'T say that, actually! :-) Anneliese ----- Original Message ----- ________________________________________________________________________ <snip> Also I just love being a mother in law to boys, as has been said it isn't the same at ALL as being a MIL to girls. Only ever having had one daughter in law, Uri's wife, I can say that one walks on eggshells with a son's wife, but you can tease and be quite tongue in cheek with a son in law. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2001 Report Share Posted October 23, 2001 > umm.... only having had one daughter in law, you CAN'T say that, actually! > > :-) > > Anneliese Yea, guess you're right. I think I was going on anecdotal evidence from my friends too, mind Ruthie > > ----- Original Message ----- > ______________________________________________________________________ __ > <snip> > > Also I just love being a mother in law to boys, as has been said it > isn't the same at ALL as being a MIL to girls. Only ever having had > one daughter in law, Uri's wife, I can say that one walks on > eggshells with a son's wife, but you can tease and be quite tongue in > cheek with a son in law. > > Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2001 Report Share Posted October 23, 2001 I've heard the same - so how are us mums of boys going to cope with being MILs?!?! Not that I'm worrying about this yet seeing as my boys are only 4, 2 and 7 months (today!). Hannah Re: Zehava got engaged > umm.... only having had one daughter in law, you CAN'T say that, actually! > > :-) > > Anneliese Yea, guess you're right. I think I was going on anecdotal evidence from my friends too, mind Ruthie __ > <snip> > > Also I just love being a mother in law to boys, as has been said it > isn't the same at ALL as being a MIL to girls. Only ever having had > one daughter in law, Uri's wife, I can say that one walks on > eggshells with a son's wife, but you can tease and be quite tongue in > cheek with a son in law. > > Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2001 Report Share Posted October 23, 2001 on 23/10/01 10:59 PM, Hannah Hutton at hannah.hutton@... wrote: > so how are us mums of boys going to cope with being > MILs?!?! Now don't start me worrying about that one LOL. Watching holding Nia earlier, seeing him gaze at her and thinking that could be him with his own child. Jenni ( & Gethyn) 17yrs; Mari 3yrs Home Birth; Nia 5 wks Home Water Birth http://www.picturetrail.com/jennihughes P/W = gwenni " If you don't know your options - you don't have any " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2001 Report Share Posted October 24, 2001 > > > so how are us mums of boys going to cope with being > > MILs?!?! > > Now don't start me worrying about that one LOL. Watching holding Nia > earlier, seeing him gaze at her and thinking that could be him with his own > child. > > Jenni > ( & Gethyn) Well, as a mother of mostly daughters I can offer the following advice to any mother of sons: Don't expect your DIL to treat you like a mother unless her own is really unpleasant and you are a haven to them. Girls, I have found are MUCH more mummyish when they get married than boys, will still cling to home, and will mostly regard MIL's as someone to be liked, but treated with caution, and be wary of. I know I am generalising, but five girls' experience can't be totally wrong! Plus my only DIL, Leora, was a real Mummy's girl, and I had to really watch my Ps and Qs when we were together in case something I said was taken amiss. OTOH, my sons in law have, for some strange reason, tended to gravitate to me and prefer being in our house than in their own! I like to think it's cos I am such a cool MIL and so much fun to be with etc etc, but who knows LOL! I was watching Moishi last night with his parents at supper; unless I am reading the signs completely wrong (and I might be) he seemed a bit distant, and a bit teenagerish with them TBH, so we shall see if he joins his four brothers in law in their preferences! Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2001 Report Share Posted October 24, 2001 <<<umm.... only having had one daughter in law, you CAN'T say that, actually! Anneliese snip> <Also I just love being a mother in law to boys, as has been said it <isn't the same at ALL as being a MIL to girls. Only ever having had <one daughter in law, Uri's wife, I can say that one walks on <eggshells with a son's wife, but you can tease and be quite tongue in <cheek with a son in law. <Ruthie>>>>>>>>> My mil would disagree with Ruthie she has had 3 daughter in laws (well 4 if you count bils gf) and 1 sil and she say's that the dil's are far easier to get on with than the sil's.. She says that esp after they have had children you have a common bond that makes it easier to get on with.. One thing she also said was that one difference was that you don't actually have a choice on being able to get on with your dils.. Because if you don't then you are likely to see less of your son than you would like. However she feels that this is not as likely to happen with a daughter so a SIL is not as much of a problem to having to get on with.. Having said that she and her daughter are very close so... But perhaps Ruthie this is what you are feeling to? That you have to make a bit more of a effort with the dil's than you do with your sils?? Also I find it interesting that you both (Ruthie and my mil) seem to favour what you have had the most of ?? (something about practice makes perfect???) Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama & expecting a Christmas delivery... My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you start. So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake. I feel better already. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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