Mother in laws was Re: Wedding plans

[Guest guest]

Of course, I am not a mother-in-law, but I am a daughter-in-law and I

definitely sympathise with Ruthie here. I am sure I am much better now,

but in the early days, I am sure I was awful to my mil. I still get quite

bad if I have to spend too much time in her company, and can usually only

cope if I have had a few drinks (not sure how I will survive Thanksgiving

and Christmas this year). She has to walk on egg-shells with my sil who

lives near her, same as me with first sil, but I think she's fine with my

newest sil. The joys of having four boys! Her only daughter is set to

be a spinster, I think, so no prospect of a son-in-law.

I think the issue might be that all the men in her life tend to just nod

and agree with her, then sink back into their newspapers or whatever. She

*expects* to have proper conversations with her dils, but unfortunately

does go on and on a bit, which causes us to get a bit snappy with her

(unless anaesthetised). Her heart is in the right place though.

BTW, I am a very equitable daughter/daughter-in-law as I treat my own

mother exactly the same!

Joyce

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From: ruthie@... [sMTP:ruthie@...]

I never said I don't like daughters in law.

All I said was they aren't as easy going as sons in law, from my one

experience, although maybe my other two sons' wives might be

different. Leora is lovely, we still love her very much, but she did

have a tendency to take umbrage (sp?) very easily. Her mum is exactly

the same, still really touchy.

I'm getting a bit touchy myself!!

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

<<BTW, I am a very equitable daughter/daughter-in-law as I treat my own mother

exactly the same!>>

I can't say that I do the same as my mother frequently completely enrages me. My

mil never does to the same degree (though I can get peed with her - I think

inevitable with me being born and raised in Denmark and her being VERY English)

But given the choice I have to say that I prefer to spend the day with my MIL to

my mother. My mil is interesting funny witty and does not ever try to tell me

how to live my life. She gives advice but tends to keep it to when I ask (though

she does occasionally pop a few in when having a phone conversation. She also

never tries to tell me how to raise my children (I think because her mil did

that to her and it used to make her furious)..

But I have to say that I think this is what comes of being the 4th DIL she was

well run in before I came along ;o)..

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

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