Re: All the Wrong Stuff JACQUIE

[Guest guest]

Jacquie:

You did a wonderful job of describing what it must feel like to be Enrique.

I read it to him and he agreed that you exactly hit if.

Then I read your response to who had little to say about it. But I

thought it might help him to understand.

Thank you!

Salli

[Guest guest]

> You did a wonderful job of describing what it must feel like to be

Enrique.

> I read it to him and he agreed that you exactly hit if.

Enrique agreed I'd said something correct? OMG! I'm going to mark it on my

calendar! (and you can tell him so. LOL) As soon as I read your

description of the scene between the two of them, it was as if I was

teleported right into the scene. I could FEEL what it was like to be

Enrique at that moment.

The worst of it is, you KNOW you're acting irrational, but until it's quiet

you can't stop yourself. And that just makes you worse, because by then

you're mad at yourself, too -- which is the worst kind of mad to be.

>

> Then I read your response to who had little to say about it. But

I

> thought it might help him to understand.

It must be hard to accept that he has to take responsibility for ending a

situation he did not create -- or at least not intentionally or with any ill

will. He was only doing what he was asked. Something that, in any

'normal' situation, would have been innocuous.

I think he has to practice ignoring the blame Enrique places on him, and

leaving Enrique to sort out his own anger and confusion without

trying to prove it wasn't his fault. He's got to learn to say, " fine,

whatever. " and just WALK AWAY. Otherwise he'll just get pulled into the

drama, and it's not HIS drama to get mired in.

>

> Thank you!

Thank YOU for telling me I got it right! LOL.

Jacquie