Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Lots of hugs winging their way to Perth Debbie. And lots of jealousy vibes for the Robbie concert! I almost crashed the car trying to get tickets to see Robbie in Oz when they were running a competition on the radio... although the thought of sitting in an economy seat for 24 hours is not pleasant when you have a tummy as big as mine!! http://www.foxstitch.co.uk/ DebSlater@... wrote: > You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly > after he was born. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Hugs, Debbie, and smiles too. I'm glad time has worked its magic for you. I hope you enjoyed the concert! We loved the one at Old Trafford!! Vicki At 08:11 01/11/01, you wrote: >You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly >after he was born. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 > You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly > after he was born. > > Today would have been his 8th birthday. > > For the first few years after his birth the 1st of November was always very > difficult for me - and I hated it. > > Today - 8 years on - I got through the day like any other. Took the kids to > school, went to work, picked them up again, shouted at them etc. I haven't > forgotten what day it is - I just know that I feel " normal " (whatever normal > is :-)). I feel normal too. It is almost 6 yrs since my son died. Our son Uri on 4th January 1996, but the English date isn't so important because we keep a " Yahrzeit " ( literal meaning: " Year Time " - the memorial day for the dead) on the Hebrew date. He would have been 31 this year if he had lived, he was 25 when he died. (car crash). He lives on in his two beautiful daughters who now live in Lakewood NJ with their mother, stepfather, stepsister and baby half sister. On the Yahrzeit we light a memorial candle which burns for the full 24 hrs, and we all phone each other and say " I wish you a long life. " We tend not to go to festive things on a Yahrzeit if it can be avoided. The men in the family say an extra prayer in synagogue for the departed soul, which is said to come closer and be benefited from these prayers. Life goes on, but at least the Yahrzeit allows us a day to stop and think about him. HUGS to you remembering . Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Debbie, glad to hear this year was more normal. Do you think moving countries has helped e.g. to a completely different climate so no autumn smell on this date to trigger the memories? Very jealous re the Robbie concert - my friend in Melbourne is off to see him too, ?Next week - she'll be getting very excited now. -- Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 I was thinking of you this morning Debbie, as I was wide awake at 3:30 am.... as I always seem to be on Nov 1st!! So glad today is/was better for you this year. _________________ Angi 0:-) Georgi 4 today!!, Susy 2, Tim 34 #3 due 4th week Jan 02 ~Kids get colds, men get flu, women get on with it~ > You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly > after he was born. > > Today would have been his 8th birthday. > > For the first few years after his birth the 1st of November was always very > difficult for me - and I hated it. > > Today - 8 years on - I got through the day like any other Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Well done on getting through the day, Debbie. And I hope Robbie lives up to expectations, please report back! Best wishes Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Love & Hugs. Glad that things are becoming softer and gentler with time. Enjoy the concert tonight. envy, envy, green eyed envy. Caroline Jersey > So, yes, for me anyhow, time has healed. I will never forget, and I am sure > there will be days when I feel very sad, but that raw hurt has gone. > > Debbie Slater > Perth, WA Germain Jersey British Channel Islands 49º11'30 " N 02º06'12 " W WGS84 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Debbie is was really good to hear this. I smiled for you, with a lump in my throat thinking of what a lot of healing it has taken to get to this point. Liz Goudie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 ((hugs)) debbie. Glad the day was OK and hope you have fun at the concert. Todman Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5) Mum to , 3¾ > You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly > after he was born. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 > You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly > after he was born. > > Today would have been his 8th birthday. > > For the first few years after his birth the 1st of November was always very > difficult for me - and I hated it. > > Today - 8 years on - I got through the day like any other. Took the kids to > school, went to work, picked them up again, shouted at them etc. I haven't > forgotten what day it is - I just know that I feel " normal " (whatever normal > is :-)). > > It is a lovely day (hitting 29 degrees), and am also very excited as I am off > to see Robbie in concert tonight. I never thought I would be able > to feel like this on a 1st November. > > So, yes, for me anyhow, time has healed. I will never forget, and I am sure > there will be days when I feel very sad, but that raw hurt has gone. > > Debbie Slater > Perth, WA > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2001 Report Share Posted November 1, 2001 Hugs, Deb.... Thanks for being brave enough to talk about this so difficult time... Caro (Sunny, 9 degrees in Surrey today this am; very cold tonight...) > > Today - 8 years on - I got through the day like any other. I haven't > forgotten what day it is - I just know that I feel " normal " (whatever normal > is :-)). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2001 Report Share Posted November 2, 2001 Debbie, I didn't know about your son, but hugs and thank you so much for sharing that with us. I am forwarding your mail to my sister (11 months now... a tricky few weeks going on) - life DOES go on doesn't it, and it doesn't mean that you don't remember and don't care. Anneliese and Toddler Tim who now knows his right from his left (more than his godmother does!) Time does heal > > You long timers on the list will know of our baby who died shortly > after he was born. > > Today would have been his 8th birthday. > > For the first few years after his birth the 1st of November was always very > difficult for me - and I hated it. > > Today - 8 years on - I got through the day like any other. Took the kids to > school, went to work, picked them up again, shouted at them etc. I haven't > forgotten what day it is - I just know that I feel " normal " (whatever normal > is :-)). > > It is a lovely day (hitting 29 degrees), and am also very excited as I am off > to see Robbie in concert tonight. I never thought I would be able > to feel like this on a 1st November. > > So, yes, for me anyhow, time has healed. I will never forget, and I am sure > there will be days when I feel very sad, but that raw hurt has gone. > > Debbie Slater > Perth, WA > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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