Other groups and Untidy houses

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- I've also been holding back on inviting a Surrey meet around

due to dreadful state of my home, keep on thinking when I've finished

the latest newsletter I'll have a real blitz but always other things

come up like choosing new schools for both kids - urgent costumes

tomake etc - headaches - so am now thinking that will employ an agency

of cleaners if DH gets a bonus in Feb, which is leaving it a bit

long....otherwise, we could all meet up at our local village toddler

club on a Tuesday morning? Or next village one on Weds morning?

Caro

PS I know we really ought to do social things in our houses whatever

state they are in, because it actually encourages people who are

feeling hopelessly inadequate with new/not so new babies/toddlers who

don't keep on top of the house, not to feel so inadequate - but it

seems to be a downwardly spiralling vicious circle - I always have a

total panic before anyone comes around to quilt or have coffee and am

quivering at the thought of what people must think of my housekeeping

habits...(I am probably the most untidy person on the whole list! -

No, I did know one other woman who hoarded more than me, even I was

rather taken aback at one room she had half filled with jumble

clothes, but perhaps she had just organised a NNS and had the

leftovers there! I didn't ask at the time as she was talking about

something so interesting (she always was incredibly interesting,

perhaps a connection here)

rambling on as usual...

>

> > Do you drive? I'll invite you 'round for a coffee/walk/play as

soon

> > as I've found a cleaner! Will be home 5 days a week from January

you

> > know.

> >

> > Karina

>

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>

> PS I know we really ought to do social things in our houses whatever

> state they are in, because it actually encourages people who are

> feeling hopelessly inadequate with new/not so new babies/toddlers

who

> don't keep on top of the house, not to feel so inadequate - etc.

You should see the state of my house! I just can't seem to keep on

top of it at all and I dread friends/neighbours coming round

unexpectedly. One always says 'you have a new baby darling, you are

not supposed to do housework' but my 'new baby' is 10 months old now!

So glad I am not the only one but I do find it depressin all the same

that we live in a dump and I am so very slovenly.

Liz x

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Yes, my 'new baby' is four now; but I have the excuse (as if I needed

one!) that my health hasn't been too great of late and we can't afford

a cleaner (if we were so lucky as to be able to find one here) at the

moment and there are just Too Many Interesting things to do!!!

However, I do wish I could move about twice as fast when I did have

the energy and could really tidy things up. And have about double the

cupboards as in the current house. I'm still in mourning over my lost

huge attic in London. The garage just ain't the same....(and is full

of logs anyway)

But LOL at the other ones with tidy husbands, ditto!! I have quite a

problem when we have a visitor to stay, masses of clearing to do

before the bed can be reached....

Caro

PS - DH does have a solution in mind, come off coffee; but that

would involve me, not him!!

>

> > PS I know we really ought to do social things in our houses

whatever

> > state they are in, because it actually encourages people who are

> > feeling hopelessly inadequate with new/not so new babies/toddlers

> who

> > don't keep on top of the house, not to feel so inadequate - etc.

>

>

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I always have a

> total panic before anyone comes around to quilt or have coffee and am

> quivering at the thought of what people must think of my housekeeping

> habits...(I am probably the most untidy person on the whole list! -

> No, I did know one other woman who hoarded more than me, even I was

> rather taken aback at one room she had half filled with jumble

> clothes, but perhaps she had just organised a NNS and had the

> leftovers there! I didn't ask at the time as she was talking about

> something so interesting (she always was incredibly interesting,

> perhaps a connection here)

That makes me feel better.

I just don't do tidy. Unfortunately neither does DH. Worse the mess doesn't

bother him. I get stressed by it esp. if visitors are coming.

I've been class supporter to an antenatal group and the reunion is here. Its

not till mid Dec, but already I'm noticing the cob webs :-(

Mum, dad and Sister will probably come for Xmas so it will have to be tidy

then too.

Its at times like this I realty miss my late MIL, She never wasted time on

house work always too busy performing pantos, singing in the choir, riding

horses, swimming or just walking round the Cornish countryside. She was the

one person who could have visited unannounced and I would feel not the

slightest bit embarrassed at the state of the place.

I spent this morning rubbing many years of dust off some of her things. She

died very suddenly otter watching in Scotland, leaving many cobwebs on her

ceiling, but non in her mind.

She'd have been 77 last week and out in her garden letting off fireworks

tonight. She been dead over a year and yet I'm still crying as I type this.

The world will always seem a little greyer without her, even if a little

less dusty.

Sue Hutchinson, Mum to 30/01/98 and Isobel (HB) 23/02/01

[Guest guest]

What a lovely way for your MIL to die - watching otters. I agree with Ruth

you must write down how wonderful she was and that she thought life was too

short for housework.

I clean at mums once a week and she usually has a tidy flat! Well, until DS3

visits the following day. However I probably take the cup for the untidiest

house. I am honestly totally embarrassed every time somebody comes. Today I

have had the window surveyor and he has therefore been in every room -

stepping over toys especially in DS3's room. The windows in our bedroom need

cleaning - its on my list of things to do..........I will get around to it!

..............sometime.

On a positive note though I spent this morning Father Christmas gift

wrapping-they are all done, hidden away and I feel so good about it.

Just the rest of the shopping to do and the cards to write and it is not

December yet.

Trisha

SAHM to 3 boys

Jack 8, 6 and Isaac 2

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She

> died very suddenly otter watching in Scotland, leaving many cobwebs

on her

> ceiling, but non in her mind.

> She'd have been 77 last week and out in her garden letting off

fireworks

> tonight. She been dead over a year and yet I'm still crying as I

type this.

> The world will always seem a little greyer without her, even if a

little

> less dusty.

>

What a gorgeous epitaph - she sounds wonderful!! Do write that down

and slip it into a photoframe behind a photo of her - your children

will find it one day and will feel as though they knew her well too.

My house is a tip too, though I'm starting to get on top of it again

now,I spent yesterday sorting through some 'filing' ie, a pile in the

spare room! I even found a couple of bills that I had put aside and

lost - mercifully not overdue yet! I've set up lots of Direct Debits

over the last few hours!!

DH home on 27th still, the date hasn't changed yet! 21 days and

counting.....!

Ruth