Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 Sissi That made me so sad to think about Boone not having any birthday parties. Then, I was sad for you, as a mom who probably misses those big things like that. Then I wondered if Boone would like to have a birthday party. Or if it would be an unwelcome change in his routine. Now I'm all befuddled, because I don't know exactly what I was going to say, what I should say,... all I know is it feels sad, because I wish for those moments for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 I may be way out in the weeds on this one but aside from small family parties I do not plan to have big parties for my boys (even the NT one). Now easy for me to say when they are 2 and 4 lol. I think the special day and taking one or 2 close friends to an event better. I hope my children will too. Warm Regards Mom to ASD 11/25/00 & 5/10/99 In Maine Re: Re: Priceless *Sissi > That made me so sad to think about Boone not having any birthday > parties. > doesn't have them either. >Then, I was sad for you, as a mom who probably misses those big >things like that. You get over it pretty quick, once you see your kid at somebody else's party and realize that it's just NOT a good idea. It's easy to make a special birthday without having a party. Last year we took and one little girl to a drive-through safari park. They had a GREAT time, and he still talks about it. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 > That made me so sad to think about Boone not having any birthday > parties. > doesn't have them either. >Then, I was sad for you, as a mom who probably misses those big >things like that. You get over it pretty quick, once you see your kid at somebody else's party and realize that it's just NOT a good idea. It's easy to make a special birthday without having a party. Last year we took and one little girl to a drive-through safari park. They had a GREAT time, and he still talks about it. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 > That made me so sad to think about Boone not having any birthday > parties. > > Then, I was sad for you, as a mom who probably misses those big > things like that. > > Then I wondered if Boone would like to have a birthday party. Or > if it would be an unwelcome change in his routine. > > Now I'm all befuddled, because I don't know exactly what I was > going to say, what I should say,... > This post really hit home to me...not so much because never has had, and probably never WILL have a birthday party with friends...but because it is such a clear example of the struggle of raising very severely impacted kids...and how hard it is for others to know what to " feel " for a mom dealing with it. :-) So, here's my take on it...being one of those moms. Altho there was a time when it really stung, I am very rarely sad that doesn't have birthday parties anymore...I am sad that he doesn't know or care that it's his birthday. I am sad that he would rather leave presents sitting unwrapped than deal with the stress of even one new object in his world. And I am sad that his older siblings never have a completely " normal " birthday party, because is invariably there being at least a little odd. I try to think of it as one of those " growth experiences " for them, where you gain some life changing perspective because of being forced into a situation where you must learn compassion and understanding for those who are different, but it rarely turns out that way. :-\ Every part of our life is colored by the enormity of ' differences...and that is both good and bad, for everyone. > all I know is it feels sad, because I wish for those moments for > you. > What I do is look for other " moments " ...just as valid, just as wonderful, like this one: In February, I was looking for ...and I called out, " Where's ? " Now, this was directed at the other kids, as is not one to respond to such things...but suddenly I heard a cheerful, " Hee I am! " I have not heard those words come out of ' mouth since he was four. That's better than any birthday party...trust me. :-) Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 I bring birthday cake, party paraphenilia, and party favors to 's school, and we celebrate there. All the kids love it, has a blast, and I'm guaranteed a captive audience for my son's birthday. Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 > I bring birthday cake, party paraphenilia, and party favors to 's > school, and we celebrate there. All the kids love it, has a > blast, and I'm guaranteed a captive audience for my son's birthday. Boone's birthday is in June. I try not to let it bother me that he'll never have parties like Amber and Dillon had when they were little, but it does. It bothers me a lot. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2003 Report Share Posted May 12, 2003 > In February, I was looking for ...and I called out, " Where's > ? " Now, this was directed at the other kids, as is not > one to respond to such things...but suddenly I heard a cheerful, " Hee > I am! " Oh, RAENA! Did you tell us this before? I can't believe I wouldn't have remembered. > > I have not heard those words come out of ' mouth since he was > four. > > That's better than any birthday party...trust me. :-) Oh, much much better; Putter's speech was and still is SO slow to come in. Yes, he can read well, yes, although I do not know how well he understands, but the words are still so difficult for him. As I have said before, the highs are higher, but the lows are much lower than when you are raising NT kids. I know this for I spent quite a few years thinking that that was what I was raising as did you, Raena. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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