Guest guest Posted November 16, 2000 Report Share Posted November 16, 2000 I've been enjoying everyone's thoughts on this subject! Here's mine - I think I came pre-programmed with the idea that boys are special and recious - I'm the middle of three girls, after which my parents went on to have my brother, who despite my mother refusing to ever admit it, he was her golden boy and favourite, and still is. I know they *really* wanted a son so he was treasured - he also had problems at birth which meant he had to undergo surgery at 2 weeks old which made him even more precious. I 'spose it made a big impression as it's still fairly deeply ingrained that boys are special. I really badly wanted a boy when expecting Bethany, and I was disappointed and it did take quite a while to bond with her (but I think that was probably more to do with a difficult birth experience). When expecting Lawrence, I didn't even consider that he would be a boy as I didn't want to be disappointed again so just assumed baby would be a girl - I was shocked but elated when he turned out to be a boy. (my Mum was very self-satisfied after I had Lawrie 'see - boys *are* special!' kind of thing, cause I was so besotted with him) When expecting Verity, I actually wanted a girl, but it felt very odd - isn't that sad? I loved knitting her pink things and dressing her up. (I got to be self-satisfied this time, as was equally besotted with Verity) Expecting Alfie, I did want another boy (though not desperately) but didn't really think I'd be lucky enough to manage alternating sexes again. Anyway what I originally meant to say was that I think I'm fairly balanced on the subject now - I love having baby girls because it is more fun dressing them up in frilly things and they're just like little dollies (sorry!!) but I love having baby boys too because they're special and prized (thanks Mum + Dad). Apologies if it's too Non-pc to say I had preferences each time! I never admitted it to anyone whilst pregnant. Hannah, 28 Mum to Bethany 7 1/2, Lawrence nearly 6, Verity 3 1/2, Alfie 9 months Visit me on the web at :- http://hannahshome.20m.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 << Trisha said: Single sex families are in abundance with the majority of the children boys. >> ---------------------------- I've been wondering about this for a while. There are many on this list with 3 or more kids which are all boys, but I don't think there's anybody with 3 or more all girls. Correct me if I'm wrong. I can only think of Francesca who might be a 3+ girl only family but we don't know yet!! So this makes me wonder....... Do 3+ boy only happen because: a) keep trying for a girl but she doesn't arrive just want another baby c) after 2 girls, say that's enough don't want to risk another one d) any other reason I can't think of It's late... I'd better go to bed! Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 > > << Trisha said: > Single sex families are in abundance with the majority of the children boys. >> > > > ---------------------------- > > I've been wondering about this for a while. > > There are many on this list with 3 or more kids which are all boys, but I don't think there's anybody with 3 or more all girls. Correct me if I'm wrong. > I can only think of Francesca who might be a 3+ girl only family but we don't know yet!! > > So this makes me wonder....... > Do 3+ boy only happen because: > a) keep trying for a girl but she doesn't arrive > just want another baby > c) after 2 girls, say that's enough don't want to risk another one > d) any other reason I can't think of > > It's late... I'd better go to bed! > > Janet There;s a folklore in Judaism (probably rubbish) that says if you have seven sons in a row, you go straight to heaven. (when you die, presumably LOL:) If a man has a lot of girls and no boys, he is considered a bit of a loser. I hate that. I have five girls, and had three boys (now 2). I wouldn't change my girls for boys for a million zillion pounds. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 > c) after 2 girls, say that's enough don't want to risk another one Don't want to risk another girl?? Now if DH and I could be sure no. 3 would be a girl then ... I always assumed I'd have a girl and a boy I never dared hope for 2 girls. Other peoples sons are lovely, but I wouldn't want one. Girls let you have the best of both worlds, frilly pink dresses and pigtails one minute and mud pies on the climbing frame the next. A boy lets give you access to only half the toy and clothes shop. A girl lets you into it all. And come on I know girls who play rugby never mind football! Sue Hutchinson, Mum to 30/01/98 and Isobel (HB) 23/02/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 I have 3 girls and would like to have one more but DH has decided NO - boring old fart - he says he's too old at 46 and I am a spring chicken at 41!! I wanted to have a girl every time and I was blessed - maybe I'd be pushing my luck now, even if he agreed. I always wanted girls and felt even more strongly as each pregnancy happened. Don't know why. Now, it really wouldn't bother me what sex it was (after all its only imaginary) but if I had a choice I would choose a daughter - better the devil you know! And at just turned 12, DD1 is the she devil. So maybe DH is right! Fiona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 In article <014601c16e31$47709d20$4b0b7ad5@campbellsmith>, campbell smith family writes >I have 3 girls and would like to have one more but DH has decided NO - >boring old fart - he says he's too old at 46 and I am a spring chicken at >41!! I wanted to have a girl every time and I was blessed - maybe I'd be >pushing my luck now, even if he agreed. I always wanted girls and felt even >more strongly as each pregnancy happened. Don't know why. Now, it really >wouldn't bother me what sex it was (after all its only imaginary) but if I >had a choice I would choose a daughter - better the devil you know! And at >just turned 12, DD1 is the she devil. So maybe DH is right! I've got two girls, and wanted both of them to be girls. Now I'd quite like to have a boy, although I can't actually face being pregnant again, so it's probably not going to happen. DH has four girls, however, as his older two are both girls too (probably means I'd have another girl anyway, although I wouldn't be particularly bothered either way). He says he wanted his dd2 to be a boy, and he wanted our first to be a boy, but by the time it got to the last one, he wanted another girl, as he knew how girls worked by then! Thinking about it, I do know two other families of four girls, although one is my generation rather than my children's. Cath Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2001 Report Share Posted November 15, 2001 > DH has four girls, however, as his >older two are both girls too (probably means I'd have another girl >anyway, although I wouldn't be particularly bothered either way). After I'd had our DD, my DH was in the lift with a man who was saying he had been so looking forward to having a son and had just had his fifth daughter - the first two by his first wife, the second two by his second and this fifth from his third. She was in the bed opposite me and got quite upset once or twice about having been unable to deliver a son, IYSWIM. One of those times when you wish everyone had a private room, when you overhear conversation like that, esp when you know what he's said to your DH and he's still trying to reassure that honestly he wasn't bothered at all. -- Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 << Trisha said: Single sex families are in abundance with the majority of the children boys. > > ---------------------------- Janet asked So this makes me wonder....... > Do 3+ boy only happen because: > a) keep trying for a girl but she doesn't arrive > just want another baby > c) after 2 girls, say that's enough don't want to risk another one > In our case we have 3 because is was a compromise between 0 and 4! DH was happy with none then he agreed to 1 then 2 and finally 3 but he would never carry on to agree to any more. I was happy with boys though - the only time I perhaps wish for a girl is when I am buying presents and I get stuck with DS3 - I sometimes think if he was a girl then I could buy the pink and doll type toys. I did find myself agreeing to look after a friends 8 year old son and 6 year old daughter, but refused to look after the 3 year old daughter on the basis that I don't DO girls. It was the thought of toilets etc, at least at 6 they don't need too much looking after! My friend has 3 boys she wants to carry on for 6 children but can imagine having more than 4 boys - we will wait and see. Another friend with 3 girls had 2 and a happy accident! Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Jack 8, 6 and Isaac 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 When I was pg with Kieran I wanted him to be a girl, because I already had a girl and " knew how they worked " . I'm jolly glad he was a boy though and wouldn't change him for the world. Cerys Basingstoke NCT Mum to (1/12/95) & Kieran (31/12/98) www.the-byrne-house.org.uk You don't stop laughing because you grow old, you grow old because you stopped laughing. -----Original Message----- From: Cath MacLeod but by the time it got to the last one, he wanted another girl, as he knew how girls worked by then! --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.286 / Virus Database: 152 - Release Date: 09/10/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 Janet, after my first son was born (at home) I wanted a total of six and would have been quite happy with six boys! He was and is so lovely that we went for number two and he also is a gorgeous boy. So when I was pregnant for the third time, I lost count of the number of times people said " going for a girl this time? " which I wasn't and think is terrible. I felt it implied that I was disappointed that I had two boys and must be desperate for a girl to be having three children, which couldn't be further from the truth. And I felt stuck in what to reply. Saying no would imply that I would be disappointed if I had a girl which I wouldn't have been - I just wanted to show that I wasn't going for a third baby for any other reason than for wanting a third child. I really didn't mind what I had, but a boy would have been easier because I knew the ropes (like Fiona has said better the devil you know....!), so I was delighted when my third son was born in March. Although I've found each pregnancy harder (because of looking after the other children), I said he would be my last but now I'm not so sure and really think four would be a nice round number ;o)) And 4 boys would be lovely too, but I think we will end up sticking with three. I've also heard that if you have two of one sort, there is a 90% chance that your third will be the same, so only a 10% chance of having a different sort! Hannah -----Original Message----- From: Dimitris & Janet So this makes me wonder....... Do 3+ boy only happen because: a) keep trying for a girl but she doesn't arrive just want another baby c) after 2 girls, say that's enough don't want to risk another one d) any other reason I can't think of It's late... I'd better go to bed! Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 > Now if DH and I could be sure no. 3 would be a girl then ... > I always assumed I'd have a girl and a boy I never dared hope for 2 girls. > Other peoples sons are lovely, but I wouldn't want one. > Sue Hutchinson, Mum to 30/01/98 and Isobel (HB) 23/02/01 As a fellow mum of two girls I have to say that I never thought DD2 would be a girl... not that I had strong vibes either way, but I was quite surprised! When I became pregant with #3 I was thinking that 3 girls would be nice (easy for the clothes, cute on the eye at family gatherings -though as one is usally in pink and one in purple I was running out of suitable colours !!) DH was adamant that he wanted a girl (don;t know what to do with boys, etc etc, not a great sports fan either....) Anyway -we decided that we would find out at the 20 week scan if poss in order to prepare the girls, statistically we had a greater chance of a 3rd girl, but I had a feeling from when I O'd (and the fact that DH was away just before that,) that it could well be a boy.... Well it is! I was shocked...not " disappointed " so much, as just surprised, and took a few days to come to terms with not being abe to buy more cute girly clothes, and with putting away DD2's summer clothes and thinking that I wouldn't get to put them on another daughter:-( DH was instantly thrilled and came up with all sorts of positives -I am now looking forward to something different! Never thouht to not try for #3 in case it wasn't a girl though... _________________ Angi 0:-) Georgi 4, Susy 2, Tim 34 #3 due 4th week Jan 02 ~Kids get colds, men get flu, women get on with it~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 And you have a great source of lovely boys clothes - even if they do have to come via me (or rather Kieran) first ;-) Cerys Basingstoke NCT Mum to (1/12/95) & Kieran (31/12/98) www.the-byrne-house.org.uk You don't stop laughing because you grow old, you grow old because you stopped laughing. -----Original Message----- From: Angi took a few days to come to terms with not being abe to buy more cute girly clothes, and with putting away DD2's summer clothes and thinking that I wouldn't get to put them on another daughter:-( --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.286 / Virus Database: 152 - Release Date: 09/10/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 Lets hope some of the clothes stand up to being worn by and Keiran before being handed on to Angi's baby!! http://www.foxstitch.co.uk/ Cerys Byrne wrote: > And you have a great source of lovely boys clothes - even if they do have to > come via me (or rather Kieran) first ;-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2001 Report Share Posted November 16, 2001 They're such good quality I'm sure they will ;-) C -----Original Message----- Lets hope some of the clothes stand up to being worn by and Keiran before being handed on to Angi's baby!! --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.286 / Virus Database: 152 - Release Date: 09/10/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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