Baby gender

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> > DH has four girls, however, as his

>>older two are both girls too (probably means I'd have another girl

>>anyway, although I wouldn't be particularly bothered either way).

>

>After I'd had our DD, my DH was in the lift with a man who was saying he

>had been so looking forward to having a son and had just had his fifth

>daughter - the first two by his first wife, the second two by his second

>and this fifth from his third. She was in the bed opposite me and got

>quite upset once or twice about having been unable to deliver a son,

>IYSWIM. One of those times when you wish everyone had a private room,

>when you overhear conversation like that, esp when you know what he's

>said to your DH and he's still trying to reassure that honestly he

>wasn't bothered at all.

>

>

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>Sue

I felt very strongly after DS1 that I wanted to have a girl next. And

I didn't feel comfortable personally risking another baby until that

feeling had gone. Ditto feeling that I wanted another *baby* cf

child. It's very hard to know how to deal with a marked sex

preference - I think there is a lot of pressure on parents to deny a

preference and say they just want a healthy baby, and sometimes I

feel it is based on a very stereotyped view, but sometimes you just

want what you want.

We had a lot of pressure to produce a girl (once upon a time it was

all about sons but now boys are made of slugs and snails and puppy

dogs tails and men are responsible for all the evils of the world)

Very close to DS2s birth DH said he had a marginal preference for a

girl " purely for variety " - and when I heard him say " Boy " at the

birth I nearly apologised and then suddenly felt very fiercely

protective of my precious (and very different once I'd set eyes on

him) second son - and as I've said ad nauseam, after that I lay back

and thought " No barbies! " with an immense satisfaction. I always felt

I would probably have another boy (like Caroline I feel that's what I

'do') but I can't get over how much I love it. I find myself thinking

it would be really boring and twee to have 'one of each'!!!!

There are things that would be nice about having a girl - I have some

wicked names up my sleeve and passing on my values about being a

woman, motherhood, birth and all that has more salience for a

daughter, plus I think DH would make an interesting father for a girl

- but wow what a matriarch I'd feel if I had three boys!

I never want to know in advance either.

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jennifer@...

Vaudin

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>So this makes me wonder.......

>Do 3+ boy only happen because:

>a) keep trying for a girl but she doesn't arrive

> just want another baby

>c) after 2 girls, say that's enough don't want to risk another one

>d) any other reason I can't think of

>It's late... I'd better go to bed!

>Janet

Ours was we predecided wanted 4 children, and they all turned out to

be boys. Have to admit was mightily relieved no 4 was male, my first

words when the midwife and DH broke open the sac and told me he was a

boy were " oh god, that's the double school run avoided then " . think the

midwifes thought I was batty :-)

Curran

Mum to Tim (7), (5), (3) and Philip 26/10/00

Co-Chair, MVA, Valley cushion agent, homebirth support and booking clerk

Selby Rural NCT

Region 7 Secretary

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Ruthie wrote

There;s a folklore in Judaism (probably rubbish) that says if you have

seven sons in a row, you go straight to heaven. (when you die,

presumably LOL:)

Is that because you have already had a taste of hell?!?!

Francesca (Mum to 2 girls, so what do I know? ;0) )

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It took 7yrs to concieve DS1, I was so amazed to be pregnant I didn't really

think much about wanting a boy or girl - just I was having a baby at last!

When he was born I was so happy to be a mum - and it felt like an extra

blessing that it was a boy and with red hair - I hadn't consiously wanted a

boy or a girl let alone thinking about hair colour so I was surprised that I

felt like that. I don't remember being bothered about gender for DD or

DS2 - maybe having one of each for the first two makes it different. When

DS2 went into a bed DH and I put the cot into the attic, I commented later

that - that was it then until one of them had children. DD was quite taken

aback - no more babies mummy?, but I *want* a sister. When we explained

that you didn't get to choose if it was a boy or a girl she was adamant that

she didn't want any more brothers so we were *not* to have any more babies!

She was about 5 or 6 at the time and is still of the opinion that 2 brothers

are 2 brothers too many because they are noisy, rough and useless. Mind you

at 12 she thinks that about all boys, I don't suppose it will be long now

before the hormones change that way of thinking and we'll be into a whole

new ball game...

Liz Goudie

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I always felt

> I would probably have another boy (like Caroline I feel that's what

I

> 'do')

Don't bank on it! I thought I (or rather DH) only " did " girls

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Angi 0:-)

Georgi 4, Susy 2, Tim 34

#3 due 4th week Jan 02

~Kids get colds, men get flu, women get on with it~

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Hmmm. Twee??? I couldn't help it!!!

MIL really really wanted me to have a boy both times (she had 6

granddaughters already) and with DS I was so certain that I was

having another girl that I told everybody that's what the doctor had

said, just to stop them hassling me.

When DS turned out to be a boy I was quite miffed really, mostly

because I didn't want to give MIL the satisfactory grin on her face

(I otherwise love her dearly, but really resented this boy thing).

But IKWYM, I feel sooo pigeonholed and boring by having 2 kids, one

of each, 2 years apart - it's not me to be so " conservative " - I

didn't plan any of them! And I really resent it when people

say " well, you don't need another one now then " . I really want a

third whatever they say!

Karina

Mum to Emilia (3) and Sebastian (1)

I find myself thinking > it would be really boring and twee to

have 'one of each'!!!!

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LOL! DD1 (3 and a half) said when I came back from my scan (did not

find out the sex) " We really don't want a boy, do we, Mummy? " I don't

know why as I don't think I have influenced her either way - maybe the

two noisy football loving little boys next door have had an effect!!

Francesca

Liz wrote

She didn't want any more brothers so we were *not* to have any more

babies! She was about 5 or 6 at the time and is still of the opinion

that 2 brothers are 2 brothers too many because they are noisy, rough

and useless.

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>

> Ruthie wrote

>

> There;s a folklore in Judaism (probably rubbish) that says if you

have

> seven sons in a row, you go straight to heaven. (when you die,

> presumably LOL:)

>

>

> Is that because you have already had a taste of hell?!?!

>

> Francesca (Mum to 2 girls, so what do I know? ;0) )

Thinking of my 3 boys, probably yes!

Ruthie (who was always a bit disappointed when she had her girls, but

is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO grateful for the five of them now...)

Ruthie

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> LOL! DD1 (3 and a half) said when I came back from my scan (did not

> find out the sex) " We really don't want a boy, do we, Mummy? "

- how sweet!

Francesca wrote: She was about 5 or 6 at the time and is still of

the opinion

> that 2 brothers are 2 brothers too many because they are noisy,

rough

> and useless.

My sentiments exactly, from ages of approximately 18 months (well

poetic licence...) to 41 when had DS. Had been iffy about having a

boy through pregnancy and loved him to bits once he arrived. Have

glued him together since.

Caro

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