Guest guest Posted November 28, 2003 Report Share Posted November 28, 2003 , I know. I can't believe our system either. I'm taking Plavix and Coumadin for blood thinners. I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving too! Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Note: All advice given is personal opinion, not equal to that of a licensed physician or health care professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2003 Report Share Posted November 28, 2003 Heidi, unfortunately, all my stuff with SSD has been over mail or over the phone. No one there has actually physically met me. Hopefully the judge I get will feel the same as you. I plan on be at my worst whenever I get my hearing, just so they know how bad it can be. I do have a lawyer who is helping me, so they can work on countering anything that social security can think up on why they feel I can still work. Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Note: All advice given is personal opinion, not equal to that of a licensed physician or health care professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2003 Report Share Posted November 28, 2003 Deanna, they haven't really been checking to see if the clot is gone. Their main concern now is to keep my blood thin enough not to cause more or make this one bigger andthat I don't have any furture problems. Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Note: All advice given is personal opinion, not equal to that of a licensed physician or health care professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2003 Report Share Posted November 29, 2003 , actually, I no longer have a menstral cycle due to a combo of malnutrition and anemia according to my gynecologist. They are thinking about possibly putting me on birth control to bring it back, but there's the possibility that might aggravate my pancreas, so no decision has been made yet. When I did have my cycle while on the blood thinners my cramps were much worse, but I had a lot less blood clots than I used to have. I saw your email to Deanna about your husbands fight with a brother in law. Why haven't you told your siblings about your condition? Are you just not close to them or what if you don't mind my asking? If you don't want me to ask, just let me know and I'll be quiet. Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Note: All advice given is personal opinion, not equal to that of a licensed physician or health care professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2003 Report Share Posted November 29, 2003 I dont mind you asking. Its kind of complicated. I am the youngest of 7 kids. My parents were older then I am now when I was born. My parents were rather well off and my siblings and I guess me too were spoiled rotten little brats. I always had to go the opposite of everything my parents ever said; some good some bad. I put myself through college 3 times. I think they must have respected my work ethic because they made me executrix of their estate. My dad died in '95; I had just found out I was pregnant and was in my junior year at MUSC. My mother barely knew how to write a check much less handle the household business. Even though I was the pregant mother of 2 in college; none of my siblings even attempted to help her. One sister would take her to the grocery store but would spend more time filling her own pantry then what were the needs of my mother. Her health was declining with mutiple TIA'a and angina attacks. I graduated from college; 2 days after my son graduated from kindergarten and began working. I spent more time taking care of her and the business of running 2 houses that I had to cut my hours to part time. When she had to go to the doc, I took her; even though I had asked them to help, they were always too busy. One brother; a bad drunk and IV drug abuser moved into her house; my other siblings thoutht it was great! A watchdog! He tormented her. Would come in drunk raising hell; he sucked the life right out of her. I had tomove her to a nursing home. Granted it was the best one and most expensive one in town; but it was the most difficult thing Ihad ever done in my life. I had called all my sibs and told them I would be moving her on such a date. Not ONE of them showed up to help. She died 7 months later. Again I was the executrix of the estate. My mother was not in the ground 6 days and they were calling me wanting their money. Estates take time; it was a nightmare. My illness started about the same time I moved my mom. Which is one reason I did move her; I knew I was getting sicker and would not be able to see her everyday like I had. My siblins harrased me at home; at my job; the drunk brother would just show up at my work; horrible scenes. They even harrassed the lawyer, an old family friend; to the point that he said he would alawys be available to me for whatever legal assistance I needed but that he would NEVER provide his services to any of them. On the day I was in the lawyers office writing the checks, 3 of them were on the phone; on hold; wanting thier money. They were so vicious there is no way I could tell them of my illness. After the estate closed there was still the issue of the house. That sold last september. I did not attend the closing; my husband went. Only one brother, the youngest of the boys asked him how I was. He was the least nasty of all of them during the entire ordeal. I have been wondering if I should tell them as the condition is congenital; and hemmed and hawed about that. I really dont care about them; its thier kids. I am much healthier emotionally and physically with them out of my life. They are by far the nastiest people and I am ashamed to admit I am related. The lawyer I see often socially used to joke that I was adopted; maybe so. Its a shame how a little bit of money make people behave. Well I wouldn't mind not having a menstrual cycle; just another silver lining lucky you. There are always silver linings! Warmly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2003 Report Share Posted November 29, 2003 , that is so horrible how your siblings treated your mother and you after her death. In some ways, they sound like my father's siblings, though they have mellowed over the years. I'd still hate to see what will happen when my grandmother dies, though. She likes my mother better than she does any of her own kids and my parents have been divorced since I was a little kid. It took forever for my aunts and uncles to realize just how sick I was and some of them still don't quite get it. Anyways, I hope you are doing well and not letting your siblings get the better of you. And yeah, in a lot of ways, I'm glad I don't have my monthly cycle. Kimber -- Kimber Vallejo, CA hominid2@... Note: All advice given is personal opinion, not equal to that of a licensed physician or health care professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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