Re: About what daddy said...

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le, can I hire you as my personal trainer?

Dang, you're good!

Hugs,

CuteAKA2nv@... wrote:

>

> In a message dated 08/21/2000 11:05:23 AM Central Daylight Time,

> MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

> << Now, I really really envy you ladies who have found the great guys, but

> they are not falling out of trees around here. How about some hints on

> where to find them??

> >>

>

> Hey everybody,

>

> I have not been morbidly obese very long (two years), so I may be speaking

> from a different vantage point. My self esteem has always been HELLA high. My

> daddy instilled it in me from the time I was a very small child. So, the

> young lady whose daddy said " no one will ever love you fat " , did her a major

> disservice. I have always loved me, so I projected that to others. No one

> ever treated me poorly even at my highest of 272 because I have a ZERO

> tolerance for BULLISHT. I know this will sound cliche'ish...but it's so true.

> We have to love ourselves before anyone one else will. Otherwise you will be

> preyed on by those who get power from exploiting the weaknesses of others.

> Once you decide that you are only worthy of the best, miraculously you will

> attract only those who are capable of loving you.

>

> I was the BOMB when I met my hubby. I gained over a hundred since we met.

> Now, I won't say he is particularly attracted to morbidly obese women. But,

> his love for me was always apparent. He is pleased with my current weight

> loss, but he never treated me any differently. He's just happy that I like

> doing things again. ( I had become self conscious and reclusive).

>

> So, YES someone can/will love a fat person, but only if you can truly love

> yourself. And, tell anyone (starting with your dad) who tells you that you

> are unlovable to KISS YOUR @$$(rhymes with class). And $#@%^ (rhymes with

> duck) any one who can't see your true inner beauty. So, do anything, go to

> counseling, do self help...to regain your self worth. The men are out

> there...all over. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...believe it. The men will start to fall

> from the sky and you can sing " It's raining men...hallelujah, it's raining

> men. "

>

> le

> twelve weeks post op

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YOU ARE THE PRIZE...believe it. The men will start to fall

> from the sky and you can sing " It's raining men...hallelujah, it's

raining

> men. "

>

> le

> twelve weeks post op

You're my hero!

Love,

Blair

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Amen le!

> In a message dated 08/21/2000 11:05:23 AM Central Daylight Time,

> MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

> << Now, I really really envy you ladies who have found the great

guys, but

> they are not falling out of trees around here. How about some

hints on

> where to find them??

> >>

>

> Hey everybody,

>

> I have not been morbidly obese very long (two years), so I may be

speaking

> from a different vantage point. My self esteem has always been

HELLA high. My

> daddy instilled it in me from the time I was a very small child.

So, the

> young lady whose daddy said " no one will ever love you fat " , did

her a major

> disservice. I have always loved me, so I projected that to others.

No one

> ever treated me poorly even at my highest of 272 because I have a

ZERO

> tolerance for BULLISHT. I know this will sound cliche'ish...but

it's so true.

> We have to love ourselves before anyone one else will. Otherwise

you will be

> preyed on by those who get power from exploiting the weaknesses of

others.

> Once you decide that you are only worthy of the best, miraculously

you will

> attract only those who are capable of loving you.

>

> I was the BOMB when I met my hubby. I gained over a hundred since

we met.

> Now, I won't say he is particularly attracted to morbidly obese

women. But,

> his love for me was always apparent. He is pleased with my current

weight

> loss, but he never treated me any differently. He's just happy

that I like

> doing things again. ( I had become self conscious and reclusive).

>

> So, YES someone can/will love a fat person, but only if you can

truly love

> yourself. And, tell anyone (starting with your dad) who tells you

that you

> are unlovable to KISS YOUR @$$(rhymes with class). And $#@%^

(rhymes with

> duck) any one who can't see your true inner beauty. So, do

anything, go to

> counseling, do self help...to regain your self worth. The men are

out

> there...all over. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...believe it. The men will

start to fall

> from the sky and you can sing " It's raining men...hallelujah, it's

raining

> men. "

>

> le

> twelve weeks post op

[Guest guest]

Yeah what le said!!!!!

I have been overweight all my life and the one thing that has helped

me to find love (more times than I care to mention) is my attitude!

I

think I am sexy therefore I am sexy! If you don't think you are

worthy of love who in the hell will?

Furthermore, Tuesday August 8th, I went to dinner with over 30 of our

MGB family members. Husbands, wives and children of Pre-ops and Post

Ops. I was so impressed with the caliber of spouses I met. Doctors,

Lawyers, and Indian chiefs....from all walks of life. The one thing

they had in common was their love and concern for their MGB loved

one.

None of these people seemed to be there to get a slim wife or

husband.

They just wanted a healthy one that will out live them!

I truly wish for all my overweight friends on this list to value

themselves so much that they effortlessly attract others that value

them as well!

Beth from her soap box in Florida

> In a message dated 08/21/2000 11:05:23 AM Central Daylight Time,

> MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

> << Now, I really really envy you ladies who have found the great

guys, but

> they are not falling out of trees around here. How about some

hints on

> where to find them??

> >>

>

> Hey everybody,

>

> I have not been morbidly obese very long (two years), so I may be

speaking

> from a different vantage point. My self esteem has always been

HELLA

high. My

> daddy instilled it in me from the time I was a very small child.

So,

the

> young lady whose daddy said " no one will ever love you fat " , did

her

a major

> disservice. I have always loved me, so I projected that to others.

No one

> ever treated me poorly even at my highest of 272 because I have a

ZERO

> tolerance for BULLISHT. I know this will sound cliche'ish...but

it's

so true.

> We have to love ourselves before anyone one else will. Otherwise

you

will be

> preyed on by those who get power from exploiting the weaknesses of

others.

> Once you decide that you are only worthy of the best, miraculously

you will

> attract only those who are capable of loving you.

>

> I was the BOMB when I met my hubby. I gained over a hundred since

we

met.

> Now, I won't say he is particularly attracted to morbidly obese

women. But,

> his love for me was always apparent. He is pleased with my current

weight

> loss, but he never treated me any differently. He's just happy

that

I like

> doing things again. ( I had become self conscious and reclusive).

>

> So, YES someone can/will love a fat person, but only if you can

truly love

> yourself. And, tell anyone (starting with your dad) who tells you

that you

> are unlovable to KISS YOUR @$$(rhymes with class). And $#@%^

(rhymes

with

> duck) any one who can't see your true inner beauty. So, do

anything,

go to

> counseling, do self help...to regain your self worth. The men are

out

> there...all over. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...believe it. The men will

start

to fall

> from the sky and you can sing " It's raining men...hallelujah, it's

raining

> men. "

>

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Beth, I have to say something here. You are beautiful. I didn't get to

talk to you very much at dinner, but I thought to myself " WOW " she is so

pretty. You are physically beautiful, but you also have an inner beauty

that just shines through.

I'm glad you're doing so well. Send T some pictures!!!

Amy.

Re: About what daddy said...

Yeah what le said!!!!!

I have been overweight all my life and the one thing that has helped

me to find love (more times than I care to mention) is my attitude!

I

think I am sexy therefore I am sexy! If you don't think you are

worthy of love who in the hell will?

Furthermore, Tuesday August 8th, I went to dinner with over 30 of our

MGB family members. Husbands, wives and children of Pre-ops and Post

Ops. I was so impressed with the caliber of spouses I met. Doctors,

Lawyers, and Indian chiefs....from all walks of life. The one thing

they had in common was their love and concern for their MGB loved

one.

None of these people seemed to be there to get a slim wife or

husband.

They just wanted a healthy one that will out live them!

I truly wish for all my overweight friends on this list to value

themselves so much that they effortlessly attract others that value

them as well!

Beth from her soap box in Florida

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/21/2000 1:23:46 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

CuteAKA2nv@... writes:

>

> Hey everybody,

>

> I have not been morbidly obese very long (two years), so I may be speaking

> from a different vantage point. My self esteem has always been HELLA high.

> My

> daddy instilled it in me from the time I was a very small child. So, the

> young lady whose daddy said " no one will ever love you fat " , did her a

major

>

> disservice. I have always loved me, so I projected that to others. No one

> ever treated me poorly even at my highest of 272 because I have a ZERO

> tolerance for BULLISHT. I know this will sound cliche'ish...but it's so

true.

>

> We have to love ourselves before anyone one else will. Otherwise you will

be

>

> preyed on by those who get power from exploiting the weaknesses of others.

> Once you decide that you are only worthy of the best, miraculously you

will

> attract only those who are capable of loving you.

>

> I was the BOMB when I met my hubby. I gained over a hundred since we met.

> Now, I won't say he is particularly attracted to morbidly obese women.

But,

> his love for me was always apparent. He is pleased with my current weight

> loss, but he never treated me any differently. He's just happy that I

like

> doing things again. ( I had become self conscious and reclusive).

>

> So, YES someone can/will love a fat person, but only if you can truly love

> yourself. And, tell anyone (starting with your dad) who tells you that you

> are unlovable to KISS YOUR @$$(rhymes with class). And $#@%^ (rhymes with

> duck) any one who can't see your true inner beauty. So, do anything, go to

> counseling, do self help...to regain your self worth. The men are out

> there...all over. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...believe it. The men will start to

fall

>

> from the sky and you can sing " It's raining men...hallelujah, it's raining

> men. "

>

> le

> twelve weeks post op

>

I agree with le! I have been overweight since about my junior year in

High school (but always believed I was overweight before then) but I kept a

good outlook and believed I was worthy. I was never without a boyfriend

since I was about 13! This past year since my divorce..I have not dated

anyone. A whole year..WOW..that has never happened before! But I can

say..my self esteem did suffer a bit after my divorce and I am at 325 now

where as during single times, my highest was 275. I think we can be loved

fat or thin...I would just rather be thin. I have never been self conscious

in the bedroom even at 275 but now I am. I do have one guy that has been

chasing me (he is married mind you which is why he hasn't caught me! LOL!)

but even if he wasn't I keep thinking wow I would feel so weird to sleep with

him or anyone new right now at this weight! (not to worry, I have better

morals since he is married anyway!) Why can't some single fine guy chase

me?? This married one is fine...but married and staying that way so...he is

out of luck with this queen size hottie..LOL!

Keep your chin up...love will come but le is right..you have to love

yourself first! (and church is a good place to find a true man!!)

Holly

[Guest guest]

Holly,

You sound really great - can't wait to meet you and the rest of the Illinois

group on Saturday!

- waiting in Chicago

Re: About what daddy said...

In a message dated 8/21/2000 1:23:46 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

CuteAKA2nv@... writes:

>

> Hey everybody,

>

> I have not been morbidly obese very long (two years), so I may be speaking

> from a different vantage point. My self esteem has always been HELLA high.

> My

> daddy instilled it in me from the time I was a very small child. So, the

> young lady whose daddy said " no one will ever love you fat " , did her a

major

>

> disservice. I have always loved me, so I projected that to others. No one

> ever treated me poorly even at my highest of 272 because I have a ZERO

> tolerance for BULLISHT. I know this will sound cliche'ish...but it's so

true.

>

> We have to love ourselves before anyone one else will. Otherwise you will

be

>

> preyed on by those who get power from exploiting the weaknesses of others.

> Once you decide that you are only worthy of the best, miraculously you

will

> attract only those who are capable of loving you.

>

> I was the BOMB when I met my hubby. I gained over a hundred since we met.

> Now, I won't say he is particularly attracted to morbidly obese women.

But,

> his love for me was always apparent. He is pleased with my current weight

> loss, but he never treated me any differently. He's just happy that I

like

> doing things again. ( I had become self conscious and reclusive).

>

> So, YES someone can/will love a fat person, but only if you can truly love

> yourself. And, tell anyone (starting with your dad) who tells you that you

> are unlovable to KISS YOUR @$$(rhymes with class). And $#@%^ (rhymes with

> duck) any one who can't see your true inner beauty. So, do anything, go to

> counseling, do self help...to regain your self worth. The men are out

> there...all over. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...believe it. The men will start to

fall

>

> from the sky and you can sing " It's raining men...hallelujah, it's raining

> men. "

>

> le

> twelve weeks post op

>

I agree with le! I have been overweight since about my junior year in

High school (but always believed I was overweight before then) but I kept a

good outlook and believed I was worthy. I was never without a boyfriend

since I was about 13! This past year since my divorce..I have not dated

anyone. A whole year..WOW..that has never happened before! But I can

say..my self esteem did suffer a bit after my divorce and I am at 325 now

where as during single times, my highest was 275. I think we can be loved

fat or thin...I would just rather be thin. I have never been self conscious

in the bedroom even at 275 but now I am. I do have one guy that has been

chasing me (he is married mind you which is why he hasn't caught me! LOL!)

but even if he wasn't I keep thinking wow I would feel so weird to sleep with

him or anyone new right now at this weight! (not to worry, I have better

morals since he is married anyway!) Why can't some single fine guy chase

me?? This married one is fine...but married and staying that way so...he is

out of luck with this queen size hottie..LOL!

Keep your chin up...love will come but le is right..you have to love

yourself first! (and church is a good place to find a true man!!)

Holly

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