Patty

[Guest guest]

Thanks

I agree with you. I think this is the best group yet. You learn more from

experience that any book could teach you.

Thanks to all

Patty

[Guest guest]

We have been married 6yrs. My exhusband is helping me find an attorney

(isn't that strange) He and I get along extremely well. I stayed the night last

night with a friend and her family. She was once married to a sheriff deputy

and he did put a gun to her head and she luckily was able to have someone

witness what had happened and he is in jail now. I have spent the day at my

mother

and father's house in indiana. I don't have any family here in kentucky. I

do feel a little uncomfortable about facing him when he gets home. I feel like

I should go make a doctor appt and get tested for any sexually transmitted

diseases. It just makes me sick to think that he and someone else were in my

bed. I have stripped it clean and am washing everything in hot water.

patty

[Guest guest]

Hey ,

He hasn't came home yet and he hasn't called neither. I have an appt. with

an attorney tomorrow. I have also contacted a moving company so I can get out

of here one day when I know he isn't going to be home. I have paid most of

this months bills and used up the money we had in our joint account. I still

had my old checking from the last time I moved out on him and stupid me I moved

back home because he said he wouldn't not do anything like this again. HA HA!

I pulled his cell phone bills from the last 3 months and was surprised to see

that he has been calling me from somewhere in Seymore Indiana. At least that

is what the statement said the call originated from. God how could I be so

stupid. So he must be seeing someone there since it was a rome charge.

Well he will be surprised to see everything gone in the house when he comes

home one day.

Feeling better today

Patty J

[Guest guest]

Chrissy

We don't have any kids together but we both have 2 from previous marriages.

My oldest is almost 17 and says my husband is a bastard. I don't like it when

he cusses but it is the truth.

He came home today and packed some things up. He said that if I wanted to we

could use the same attorney and the divorce would be quick. I will be an

uncontested divorce. I have already called a moving service and storage

company.

I plan on moving back to Corydon and stay with my parents until I can get

enough money saved up to buy a house. My kids live with their father in Corydon

also. So it will be great to be near them again. I really miss them I also

have a daughter that will be 14 in 2 weeks

Hangin in there

Patty

[Guest guest]

I have to say if feel like there has been the huge weight lifted off my

shoulders. You know we split up the first time October 2002. He promised he

would

change so I moved back home in Jan 2003. I have even spoke with my husband's

ex wife. We get along very well as I get along with my ex husband. My ex

husband is dating a really nice girl. I called his house to talk to his

girlfriend and he wanted to know why. My daughter had her 1st formal dance on

12/09/03. That was the same day I had my surgery and I knew I wouldn't make it

so I

had asked her (ex's girlfriend) if she could help get ready but she

was going to the police academy in bloomington. I not real sure. I have say

my kids have a difficult time my ex-husband work with the Sheriff's office in

Corydon (he was a car salesman when we were married) and his girlfriend work

with milltown police dept.

The only thing that I will miss will be my stepchildren. Tyler 13 and Dylan

9. As rare as it is my kids and my stepkids all got along. I think there was

only one insidence that I can think off where they had a disagreement. They

live in Corydon also. I am so looking forward to my new life.

Patty

[Guest guest]

Patty,

I hope you don't mind my butting in. I want you to know I am proud of you! It

takes allot of courage to get out of a bad relationship. You are setting a good

example for your daughter. You are teaching her to put herself first and to not

take crap from any man. I am speaking from experience. My mom remarried 3 yrs

after my dad passed away ( I was 11 when she remarried) and he was a total

creep! He was an alcoholic and when he drank he looked for a punching bag. She

would leave him and than go back. She ended up marrying and divorcing the same

man 10 times! Please stick to your guns, and put yourself first. I am proud of

you for making this decision. You will need to be strong to not take him back

again, I know you can do it, because if you have pancreatitis you have to be a

strong person. Think of this as a new start and remember you have to get rid of

the old in order to make room for the new.

Simi Valley, CA

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Chrissy

We don't have any kids together but we both have 2 from previous marriages.

My oldest is almost 17 and says my husband is a bastard. I don't like it when

he cusses but it is the truth.

He came home today and packed some things up. He said that if I wanted to we

could use the same attorney and the divorce would be quick. I will be an

uncontested divorce. I have already called a moving service and storage

company.

I plan on moving back to Corydon and stay with my parents until I can get

enough money saved up to buy a house. My kids live with their father in

Corydon

also. So it will be great to be near them again. I really miss them I also

have a daughter that will be 14 in 2 weeks

Hangin in there

Patty

[Guest guest]

Patty,

Again, I am so happy for you. Keep your chin up! 2004 will be a great year

for!

Re: Re: Patty

[Guest guest]

Sandy,

My GI doctor called me with my lab results today and they were all normal.

YEAH!!! I did discuss over the phone about my pain control and other options

than having the surgery. The nurse said that my pain is Chronic and probably

will not go away and that she could refer me to a pain clinic. The Lortab does

not take care of the pain for very long. She suggested Oxycontin or Oxycodone.

So I have an appt. on monday to discuss this. I know you are not suppose to

take more than the directed dosage. I am on 10mg. and I have been taking 1

1/2 to 2 every 4 hrs and I am still having pain. What kind of pain med are you

on??

Patty,

louisville, ky

[Guest guest]

I agree with you as far as being afraid of taking too much med. I just feel

like I was doing so well before my last ERCP. When the doctor wanted to check

for SOD he put a stent in. After it was removed I have been in pain ever

since. I had a problem with being addicted to Ultram in the past. This is my

main concern because I use to take pain pills recreationally. It was about 10

years ago but still I remember how I felt. I guess we all want an easy fix to

out pain and there isn't one. My goal right now is to get back to work. I

have been off since 12/9/03. I work at Norton Suburban Hospital in Louisville,

KY. Our group treats Cancer patients and I see what all they go through and

think that I need to quit feeling sorry for myself and deal with the cards I'm

delt. It is amazing how much courage these people have. I had one patient

send me a christmas card to thank me for putting up with her and filling out her

disability papers. I love my job. I love the patients. Oh well I am

rambling and forgot where I was going with this. Anyway i believe this group

has

been the best yet as far and info on this dreaded disease.

Thanks

Patty

[Guest guest]

Henry thanks for your response. I am not diabetic yet. I was diagnosed

March 2002. A month and a half after having my gallbladder removed. I think I

am

just getting use to the dose and it doesn't take care of the pain for very

long. I'm fine if I just sit and not do anything, but just sitting at the

computer I have significant pain. When it is this bad I usually take 2 lortab

10mg. I just wish there was something else that would last longer. I have an

appt. on Monday to discuss this. I am anxious to get back to work.

Thank you again for your input

Patty

[Guest guest]

I'm doing okay. I still have my moments of crying trying to figure out why

he did this to me. I know the divorce has alot to do with the weight loss. I

just don't feel like eating. I am still in the house but I did have to take

my dog to my uncle's place because I am moving in with my parents and they

don't have a fenced back yard. I did finally convince my mother to let me keep

my

cat. He has never been with anyone else but me and I can't bear to be

separated from him. He is always beside me where ever I go in the house. My

kids

are very happy that I am moving back to Corydon and I will be able to see them

every day. My Ex-Husband (1st husband) told me I can come over anytime to see

the kids. Matter of fact he told me for a long time things about my current

husband. I just didn't want to believe it. I think of my ex-husband as a

dear friend. We were very young when we married. I was 20 and he was 23. Now

I'm 36 and he is 39. I think I had told you this but I let my kids go to live

with their dad 3 years ago because they didn't get along with my current

husband. My oldest seemed depressed and withdrawn. He never wanted to go

outside.

My daughter was criticized constantly by Todd. Now my son is a Junior in

High school. He is so outgoing now and everytime I run into someone in Corydon

they tell me what a sweet and polite young man he is. My daughter didn't have

a mother figure at her dad's. He never remarried.

I did have a little fun this past weekend. My daughter celebrated her 14th

birthday and I took her and two of her friends out to eat and the we went ice

skating. I mainly hugged the rail and took pictures of the girls. After

skating we all had hot chocolate.

Gosh I am rambling again. I just want to say thanks for your response.

Patty

Louisville, KY

[Guest guest]

Dear Patty,

Although you're struggling with the hurt and rejection that your

husband has caused, when I read your letter I did feel that this

trauma does have a positive side to it. Your move will give you

the chance to have so much more time with your children, and

you will gain strength and a positive sense of purpose by

reinforcing your relationship with them.

It's wonderful that your ex is so understanding and open minded

about letting you have time with your children, many ex's would

be resentful of this. And I could see the mother's pride and love

for her children blossom out as you spoke of your son and

daughter. Those relationships should bring comfort and caring

for you now, something you probably desperately need. I think

you made a very wise decision to move back to Corydon where

you will have the loving support of your family, and I really admire

the strength you've shown by how rationally you've dealt with this

whole situation. I've been thinking to myself, " wow, this is one

tough lady " , to deal as well as you have so far, without totally

falling apart from the way your husband has treated you.

Let your family and friends in Corydon nurture you so that your

inner strength can pull you through the days of sadness, and as

my Dad would say to me when things seemed like they were

falling apart, " keep your chin up! " I think you're going to get

through this and emerge stronger, and happier, than you

imagine.

With hope and prayers,

Heidi

Heidi H. Griffeth

South Carolina

SC & SE Regional Rep.

PAI, Intl.

Note: All comments or advice are personal opinion only, and

should not be substituted for consultation with a medical

professional.

[Guest guest]

Well Heidi it may be a while I post again. I will be moved out tomorrow and

back in Corydon. My parents don't have the internet so I will have to go to

the library to read my e-mails. I am also going back to work on Monday. My

doctor wanted me to go back and work 20hrs a week the 1st 2 weeks and then go to

fulltime. My work will not allow me to do this. I am thinking of just going

back full time instead of taking another 2 weeks off. I feel I am ready. I

think the doctor wanted to see how I do on the oxycodone before I go back full

time. I am still having pain but I have only taken this new medication

twice. I have the rest of the week to see how I do on the pain meds. As soon

as I

get settled I will check my emails. Thanks for all of your support. I don't

know what I would do if I didn't have PAI.

Take care

Patty

Louisville, KY

Ps. I found out at my appt yesterday that the Gyn onc doctor that I am a

secretary for did surgery on my GI docs wife.

[Guest guest]

Patty,

We will miss having more immediate contact with you, since I

know it's hard to have to go to the library every time you want to

check on the website. Take care, and post back to us when you

can.

About going back to work full time so soon....good luck! If you

say you're ready, then maybe you'll do just fine. Try to take it as

slowly as you can, though, until you find how well the new

medication is helping you. I hope the switch from the Lortabs to

Oxycodone is effective for you. Sometimes having the right

medication can make all the difference in the world, and I'll pray

that this one is the right one for you.

Please get on line from time to time and let us know how you are

doing, both physically and mentally. I'll pray for a rainbow in

garden!

With hope and prayers,

Heidi

Heidi H. Griffeth

South Carolina

SC & SE Regional Rep.

PAI, Intl.

Note: All comments or advice are personal opinion only, and

should not be substituted for consultation with a medical

professional.

[Guest guest]

,

Thanks for the response. I to can go out without drinking. I found out the

hard way a year ago. I went out with some friends and decided to have a drink.

One turned into 5 quickly. No sooner I finished the 5th one did I get severely

sick. I had to run to the bathroom and throw up. I was having excruciating

pain and was Sweating profusely.

Getting gussied up and hitting the streets sounds like a good idea. I have been

spending alot of time at My 1st ex-husband's house because the kids live with

him. We have been doing a lot of things together, all four of us. We have been

divorced 13 years. I have to tell you what happened to me last night at his

house.....I was laying on the livingroom floor doing my daughter's nails.

Without a warning what so ever I FARTED. I was soooooo embarrassed and ran to

the back bedroom. Of course the kids thought it was hilarious. I just wanted

to die. I felt like crying because ladies are not suppose to do things like

that. Steve's (my ex) face turned red and he was laughing also. He came to the

back bedroom hugging me and saying it's OK everyone does it. He said if it

makes you feel better I will FART to. I told him it's OK for men to do that

because that is what they do but not women. Today I am still embarrassed for

doing that. OH WELL it goes with the disease.

Again thanks for the response

Patty,

Corydon Indiana

> Patty

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> That is fabulous news, I am so happy for you and you deserve every

> bit of good news you get. I am so glad that you went to the new doc

> as well. I think that as your body adjust to that new med the

> drowsiness will decrease.

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> It's about time!!!!!! I guess the kids are just as happy as you

> are. Never can tell, maybe you'll feel up to getting gussied up and

> hitting the streets, sans alcohol of course. I can have just a good

> time sober, shoot, my little visit to Cincy prooved that, yup I

> still got it!! And so do you sug!!(short for sugar).

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> Love

> Chrissy

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[Guest guest]

Darn it,,,,I was going to shut up and not post any more but reading

your last post brought tears to my eyes and I am happy for you and

hope it all works out well. I can see going back to an X, and as

you said you were young and things do change as one gets older and

wiser.

So look to a bright future and a happy one for all of you,,,,he has

to care for you or he wouldnt be helping you and be so caring.

Hope to hear good news soon in regard to that...Love to you and

yours, Jean

[Guest guest]

Hi Patty,

How DARE you fart before your ex . .

Didn't you know it was his turn???

Best wishes, Poncho -GA

[Guest guest]

Poncho,

you always know how to make someone laugh. Thanks for making a positive thing

out of a negative thing

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