Re: Maggi from Blair

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Blair

I can relate to your thoughts, you have expressed what I have been feeling

but couldn't express. Thank you

Tania in land

waiting for Dr. R to approve

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Wow, Blair! What a fantastic post!

BJenk23768@... wrote:

>

> In a message dated 8/20/00 3:05:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

> MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

> << Dee -- Thanks for your thoughts. I, for one, wonder if I really know what

> I

> am getting myself into if I decide to go ahead with the surgery. This is a

> life altering experience and there seems to be no going back once you've had

> the surgery. I'm wondering if I can deal with all the emotional and

> psychological changes of losing the weight and being thin for the first time

> in my life. For me the acutal surgery, in some ways, is the least of the

> issues that I have deal with in making this decision.

>

> How have other post-ops dealt with this.

>

> Dear Maggi:

>

> Those are great questions you posted there.

>

> I asked myself the same things as I was preparing my patient packet, and

> again in the weeks before surgery. And I'm still asking myself as a post-op

> - but I'm only a week and a half out.

>

> It pays to read and read and read these lists, and hear what the postops are

> saying, first of all. I also kept asking, well beyond the required 10

> patient contacts. Any time I had concerns or doubts, I asked. Most times, I

> got answers that I felt in my gut were good ones for me.

>

> But as much as you read, no one on this list can fully prepare you for your

> own reactions to the surgery, and how it will feel as your head and your body

> adjust to the changes. I am really walking into new territory every day, and

> I sometimes find it scary.

>

> For example, I'm scared to weigh myself. I've been such a slave to the scale

> most of my life, that I'm afraid that I'll become fixated again on the

> numbers. I'll probably get past that soon, because clothes are already

> looser, and I'm feeling thinner, but I am just plain scared. What if I'm not

> losing as fast as one of my littermates?? What if I hit a plateau and can't

> lose? What if I'm one of those folks who doesn't lose much at all?

>

> I wonder how I'll handle being a normal size, and the answer is, of course,

> unknown. As a heavy person, I've been so used to projecting into the future

> - predetermining my reactions, supposing that people rejected me because of

> my size, and deciding that I couldn't participate in certain activities

> because I was too heavy - that I don't have a good concept of what it means

> to live from day to day, taking people as I meet them, and letting them do

> the same.

>

> I've become a controlling person, needing to do everything in my power to

> ensure that people like me, going to absurd lengths to win a friend, because

> I'm so sure they wouldn't otherwise.

>

> What will it be like when I simply stand as myself, not trying to control

> someone else's judgement? Not projecting into the future?

>

> I am aware that I am not alone in this process. I have a nine-year-old

> daughter whose body is rapidly developing, who may or may not outgrow her

> chubbiness, and I have to be careful that I don't let this weight loss

> process dominate our family's life and send her the wrong message about her

> own body. I've already sacrificed precious family time to my diet efforts

> and my frustration over my failures at them.

>

> I believe that I purchased some physical and emotional freedom from food

> obsession and diets when I had this surgery. Dr. R. gave me a tool, and it's

> up to me to use it responsibly.

>

> I'll climb down from the soapbox down now. Thanks for the opportunity to

> unload the contents of my brain.

>

> Good luck!

>

> Blair

>

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Blair,

I think you are right on target. I think that you are in the right direction.

I think that you are right that the doctor gave you a tool to help you to

loose the weight and now the rest is up to you. As you loose weight I think

that you will also become a more self assured person. You know how hard it

has been to be a overweight person. And you alone can change your personality

for the good. I think that everyone should be overweight for some time in

their life(not that I'd wish that on anyone) so they would treat people nice

and not on what they look like. I think that if we don't change ourselves on

the inside to go along with the outside we will still not be happy. We have

to remember that we are good people, no matter what we look like. If we treat

ourselves good maybe others will treat us that way too. hugs and slugs marg

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What an insightful post. Thanks Blair, your daughter is a lucky girl.

Judith in Seattle

Re: Maggi from Blair

> Wow, Blair! What a fantastic post!

>

>

>

> BJenk23768@... wrote:

> >

> > In a message dated 8/20/00 3:05:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

> > MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

> >

> > << Dee -- Thanks for your thoughts. I, for one, wonder if I really know

what

> > I

> > am getting myself into if I decide to go ahead with the surgery. This

is a

> > life altering experience and there seems to be no going back once

you've had

> > the surgery. I'm wondering if I can deal with all the emotional and

> > psychological changes of losing the weight and being thin for the first

time

> > in my life. For me the acutal surgery, in some ways, is the least of

the

> > issues that I have deal with in making this decision.

> >

> > How have other post-ops dealt with this.

> >

> > Dear Maggi:

> >

> > Those are great questions you posted there.

> >

> > I asked myself the same things as I was preparing my patient packet, and

> > again in the weeks before surgery. And I'm still asking myself as a

post-op

> > - but I'm only a week and a half out.

> >

> > It pays to read and read and read these lists, and hear what the postops

are

> > saying, first of all. I also kept asking, well beyond the required 10

> > patient contacts. Any time I had concerns or doubts, I asked. Most

times, I

> > got answers that I felt in my gut were good ones for me.

> >

> > But as much as you read, no one on this list can fully prepare you for

your

> > own reactions to the surgery, and how it will feel as your head and your

body

> > adjust to the changes. I am really walking into new territory every day,

and

> > I sometimes find it scary.

> >

> > For example, I'm scared to weigh myself. I've been such a slave to the

scale

> > most of my life, that I'm afraid that I'll become fixated again on the

> > numbers. I'll probably get past that soon, because clothes are already

> > looser, and I'm feeling thinner, but I am just plain scared. What if

I'm not

> > losing as fast as one of my littermates?? What if I hit a plateau and

can't

> > lose? What if I'm one of those folks who doesn't lose much at all?

> >

> > I wonder how I'll handle being a normal size, and the answer is, of

course,

> > unknown. As a heavy person, I've been so used to projecting into the

future

> > - predetermining my reactions, supposing that people rejected me because

of

> > my size, and deciding that I couldn't participate in certain activities

> > because I was too heavy - that I don't have a good concept of what it

means

> > to live from day to day, taking people as I meet them, and letting them

do

> > the same.

> >

> > I've become a controlling person, needing to do everything in my power

to

> > ensure that people like me, going to absurd lengths to win a friend,

because

> > I'm so sure they wouldn't otherwise.

> >

> > What will it be like when I simply stand as myself, not trying to

control

> > someone else's judgement? Not projecting into the future?

> >

> > I am aware that I am not alone in this process. I have a nine-year-old

> > daughter whose body is rapidly developing, who may or may not outgrow

her

> > chubbiness, and I have to be careful that I don't let this weight loss

> > process dominate our family's life and send her the wrong message about

her

> > own body. I've already sacrificed precious family time to my diet

efforts

> > and my frustration over my failures at them.

> >

> > I believe that I purchased some physical and emotional freedom from food

> > obsession and diets when I had this surgery. Dr. R. gave me a tool, and

it's

> > up to me to use it responsibly.

> >

> > I'll climb down from the soapbox down now. Thanks for the opportunity

to

> > unload the contents of my brain.

> >

> > Good luck!

> >

> > Blair

> >

> >

>

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Thanks for your thoughts, Blair.

They helped me to realize that I am looking for guarantees -- guarantees that

the surgery will work, guarantees that I will be able to handle, with

relative ease, the changes in my life, guarantees that I won't put the weight

back on, guarantees that this isn't just another pipe dream. I know in my

mind that there are no guarantees. Now I just have to have faith in myself

that I've done all the research that I need, that I have a good support

network, and that I am strong enough to handle what ever happens in the

future.

I am going to mail Dr. R's insurance letter tomorrow. I'm hoping that I

don't have a fight on my hands and I'm thinkin' that I might not. Cause I

received a revision to my employee benefits book this past week and the

paragraph that dealt with exclusions for obsesity and weight loss remedies

specifically included gastoplasty (sp) and gastric bypass as being included.

I have BC/BS of Georgia POS. Maybe the insurance world is beginning to catch

up with the rest of world, even if only one plan at a time.

Hugs to all,

Maggi

MGB Wannabe

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Oh Blair,

I just have to respond to your message. I wish I could put my thoughts

down in such clear, concise words like you just did. You have cleared up my

(and probably a bunch of others) thoughts about myself and my family. Thank

you so much for your thoughts. I intend to keep you e-mail to read and

re-read when I am feeling doubtful or scared or anything other than

wonderful. Thanks again, Betty in Western NC

Maggi from Blair

>In a message dated 8/20/00 3:05:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

>MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

><< Dee -- Thanks for your thoughts. I, for one, wonder if I really know

what

>I

> am getting myself into if I decide to go ahead with the surgery. This is

a

> life altering experience and there seems to be no going back once you've

had

> the surgery. I'm wondering if I can deal with all the emotional and

> psychological changes of losing the weight and being thin for the first

time

> in my life. For me the acutal surgery, in some ways, is the least of the

> issues that I have deal with in making this decision.

>

> How have other post-ops dealt with this.

>

>Dear Maggi:

>

>Those are great questions you posted there.

>

>I asked myself the same things as I was preparing my patient packet, and

>again in the weeks before surgery. And I'm still asking myself as a

post-op

>- but I'm only a week and a half out.

>

>It pays to read and read and read these lists, and hear what the postops

are

>saying, first of all. I also kept asking, well beyond the required 10

>patient contacts. Any time I had concerns or doubts, I asked. Most times,

I

>got answers that I felt in my gut were good ones for me.

>

>But as much as you read, no one on this list can fully prepare you for your

>own reactions to the surgery, and how it will feel as your head and your

body

>adjust to the changes. I am really walking into new territory every day,

and

>I sometimes find it scary.

>

>For example, I'm scared to weigh myself. I've been such a slave to the

scale

>most of my life, that I'm afraid that I'll become fixated again on the

>numbers. I'll probably get past that soon, because clothes are already

>looser, and I'm feeling thinner, but I am just plain scared. What if I'm

not

>losing as fast as one of my littermates?? What if I hit a plateau and can't

>lose? What if I'm one of those folks who doesn't lose much at all?

>

>I wonder how I'll handle being a normal size, and the answer is, of course,

>unknown. As a heavy person, I've been so used to projecting into the

future

>- predetermining my reactions, supposing that people rejected me because of

>my size, and deciding that I couldn't participate in certain activities

>because I was too heavy - that I don't have a good concept of what it means

>to live from day to day, taking people as I meet them, and letting them do

>the same.

>

>I've become a controlling person, needing to do everything in my power to

>ensure that people like me, going to absurd lengths to win a friend,

because

>I'm so sure they wouldn't otherwise.

>

>What will it be like when I simply stand as myself, not trying to control

>someone else's judgement? Not projecting into the future?

>

>I am aware that I am not alone in this process. I have a nine-year-old

>daughter whose body is rapidly developing, who may or may not outgrow her

>chubbiness, and I have to be careful that I don't let this weight loss

>process dominate our family's life and send her the wrong message about her

>own body. I've already sacrificed precious family time to my diet efforts

>and my frustration over my failures at them.

>

>I believe that I purchased some physical and emotional freedom from food

>obsession and diets when I had this surgery. Dr. R. gave me a tool, and

it's

>up to me to use it responsibly.

>

>I'll climb down from the soapbox down now. Thanks for the opportunity to

>unload the contents of my brain.

>

>Good luck!

>

>Blair

>

>

>

>

>

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Re: Maggi from Blair

> Thanks for your thoughts, Blair.

>

> They helped me to realize that I am looking for guarantees -- guarantees

that

> the surgery will work, guarantees that I will be able to handle, with

> relative ease, the changes in my life, guarantees that I won't put the

weight

> back on, guarantees that this isn't just another pipe dream. I know in my

> mind that there are no guarantees. Now I just have to have faith in

myself

> that I've done all the research that I need, that I have a good support

> network, and that I am strong enough to handle what ever happens in the

> future.

>

> I am going to mail Dr. R's insurance letter tomorrow. I'm hoping that I

> don't have a fight on my hands and I'm thinkin' that I might not. Cause I

> received a revision to my employee benefits book this past week and the

> paragraph that dealt with exclusions for obsesity and weight loss remedies

> specifically included gastoplasty (sp) and gastric bypass as being

included.

> I have BC/BS of Georgia POS. Maybe the insurance world is beginning to

catch

> up with the rest of world, even if only one plan at a time.

>

> Hugs to all,

> Maggi

> MGB Wannabe

>

>

>

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Thanks for sharing, Blair!!!

You helped me alot. Ruqayya