Re: Re: Trip to Lourdes-MIRACLE NEEDED

[Guest guest]

I think you need a miracle if you want your husband to GET IT!!!!

I am trying to figure out why I am such a wimp. Brief recap: my husband was

great since 9/11 and their diagnosis he has been drinking and doing

painkillers. He is mean and nasty. He doesn't do ANYTHING with respect to kids

and

treatments.

I want to smother him with a pillow but I heard the fibers are traceable

LOL........

I know he has to go but can't seem to gather the courage. WHY??????? I have

courage for everything else. I went back to school for nursing. I am taking

ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY!!!!!!! Its like speaking Latin.

Any advice on getting him to leave would be appreciated. I just want peace.

He was a great guy until CF...............he just can't cope and step up to

the plate - unless I hit him over the f............ing head with the

plate...............

Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 10.6 and 6.6)

with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have

coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT "

[Guest guest]

Rosemary,

I understand your feeling to an extent. I love my husband very

much but there are just some things that I will not do. One of them

being taking full responsibility for our children. My husband is in Ira

right now so I do it all myself reguardless, but I know what it is like

to have someone stare at you and epect you to know and do everything

with out help. He is not ugly like that to me or kids but is useless

around here when he is.

Before he left. I told him that I would not be here if for any

reason it was going to be the same when he came home. Of course he

reasured me that it would be so different but time will tell and when he

is home I will really know huh?

Trust me there have been many times when I have wanted to smack him

around with a 2 by 4 and walk out the door. You will find the strength

somehow to do what you feel is best for you and kids. I will keep you

in my thought ok. I am sorry that you have to deal with that. I bet

that having 3 is really a challenge on all of you not just HIM> I wish

you luck with all of this. It is hard I bet because you know that

underneath all of the pain there lies your wonderful husband that you

used to be so in love with. I am sorry

Ashauna mom of 2 boys Maxwel and Colgan wcf.

[Guest guest]

Rosemary,

Yeah I think that the fibers are traceable lol.... I f you're fed up, tell him

to go. If he is nasty and mean he doesn't need to be around the kids.

I'm in nursing school right now too and also taking Anatomy & Physiology, you're

right it's like Latin!!! Thank goodness that it has only been 5 years since I

graduated high school!!! Some of it isn't too foreign.

I hope that things get better, I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts!!!

Katy

Mom to Austin 4 no CF & Piper 14 months w/CF