Re: holding a child back a year?

[Guest guest]

I have . My son was 3 when he went to school and I didn't have any problems.

He did get sick but the usually sinus infection but no colds or flu . He he

always gotten sick during the winter months before going to school and during

school but I don't regret it and he's 4 noww and loves love . So it's up to

you.Good luck.

Debbie I. 's mom 4 w/cf

[Guest guest]

Hi there,

We held Caleb, our 9 year old, back a year. He was smart enough, but

definately not mature enough. I didnt want him to be rushed, so we

started him in Kindergarten when he was 6, he is very well adjusted and a

smart kid.

Just my 2 cents worth.

, mommy of 4, 4 wcf

[Guest guest]

Hi,

has a " late " birthday so she didn't make the Sept. cut off for her

school. She is the oldest child in her class but I didn't do this by choice. I

think that I might have considered waiting though if she had an " early "

birthday. Many pre-school programs will let a child into the age appropriate

class even if they didn't go to the one before. 's school will let kids

who have not been in pre K 3 go into pre-K 4 to start school. See if that is an

option.

Also, let the teachers know about your cleanliness concerns. 's teachers

are great about being more cautious with the toys and such. I have also found

that the parents of the kids in the class are more careful about sending their

child in sick, since they know that could end up in the hospital if their

kid gets her sick. a runny nose doesn't necessarily mean a sick kid. So many

kids now have asthma and allergies. If I didn't let play with kids with

runny noses, She would never see 2 of her cousins. they both have allergies and

asthma!

holding a child back a year?

Have any of you held back your kid for a year BEFORE they even

started school? I have been thinking of having my son start

preschool a year later than normal just to keep him healthy for a

year. He was born in late March so he would be the oldest kid in his

class by at least 4 months. I really want him to go to preschool for

at least 2 mornings a week but not if it is going to make him sick

all the time. The schools don't normally send kids home with just a

runny nose and they only clean the toys during school breaks. YIKES!

Does anyone have any experience keeping their kid healthy during

preschool? I am just desperate for ideas!!

mom to Ashton wcf

[Guest guest]

I think it's okay to choose to wait to start preschool. It is not a big

deal. My oldest just started kindergarten and she only had one year of

preschool before that. She is on the young side though, having only made

the cutoff by eight days (here it is Sept 1, she will be five on Aug

22).

is also an Aug 22 baby, and he's turning three. I decided to start

him at the local church preschool two mornings a week. It seems like

brings home everything anyway, so I wasn't sure of the point of

keeping him home to protect from infections. She was actually sicker

with everything last winter, having bronchitis twice, than he was. It's

a tough choice, but my oldest really really wants to go to school and I

would hate to say " you can't go to school or you'll get your brother

sick. "

I've voiced my concerns to the teacher, and they said that with the 3 yo

class, they have no hesitation sending them home if the parents bring

them in sick. They are very strict about it. They also use Purell on

their hands constantly and wipe the toys down a lot.

We're just going to see how it goes. We use various holistic healing

methods to keep colds at bay, like essential oils, vitamin C, and some

immune-strengthening and/or antibiotic herbs (used cautiously, be

careful with some of these and CF - I have done a LOT of research to

choose what we use). Garlic is a good, safe antibacterial/antiviral -

cook everything with tons of it! I'm happy to go into more detail about

what exactly we use and why.

)O(

mama to , 2yo, w/CF, and , 4yo, no CF

holding a child back a year?

Have any of you held back your kid for a year BEFORE they even

started school? I have been thinking of having my son start

preschool a year later than normal just to keep him healthy for a

year. He was born in late March so he would be the oldest kid in his

class by at least 4 months. I really want him to go to preschool for

at least 2 mornings a week but not if it is going to make him sick

all the time. The schools don't normally send kids home with just a

runny nose and they only clean the toys during school breaks. YIKES!

Does anyone have any experience keeping their kid healthy during

preschool? I am just desperate for ideas!!

mom to Ashton wcf.

[Guest guest]

Our is a Senior this year at Wilmington Christian Academy,

school started two days ago. The graduation will be May 21, 2004,

and will be 17 years old, he won't turn 18 until July 9 next

year. Now that we look back at it, we kind of wish we did wait that

extra year before starting kindergarden. He would be a leader in

his class, the oldest, a little more mature, a little bigger.

So do the backwards math - how old will your child be on their high

school graduation day. My personal opinion now, from our personal

experience, is we wish was turning 18 before his high school

graduation day.

Dan

[Guest guest]

I feel it is totally dependent on the child. I started first grade when I

was just shy of 6 years. I graduated at 17. Other then the 2 miserable

years spent in middle school, I faired pretty well. I have always been an

'in-between' person - sometimes I follow and sometimes I lead - depending

on the situation.

will start kindergarten this coming Monday. She turned 5 on July

1st. Although it is killing me that my baby is starting school, I feel

very confident in her abilities to hold her own.

Take care!

, Momma to (5yow/cf)

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Dear all

I agree that it depends on the child - personality, health, etc. We decided

even before 's dx that we'd hold him back - he was small, tired and

very emotional though very bright mentally ( sometimes too much so!!). He

was born in Feb so could have gone to school this year or next. After dx we

kept to that decision - the extra year will give him time to catch up

physically, to be more mature when he starts school and hopefully more able

to cope with whatever CF, classmates, teachers etc throw at him over the

years. It also means that he'll be able to cope better if he misses some

spells of school thru hospitalisation.

On a related note re someone's question about preschool and infection,

has been at nursery since he was 7 months and did get lots of colds

early on - I guess he built up a lot of immunities the hard way - he now

doesn't get ill from being there and he does love the social aspect of it -

i worry more about infection at the CF clinic and the hospital!

He will be repeating his preschool year this year and will start school next

year at 5.5. yrs.... but to me he'll still be my baby!!

Margaret - Mum of 4yo wcf

p.s. A huge thank you all of you who made me feel so welcome on the

cfparents list. It is great to have such a support network - though you all

talk so much I think I'll have to set my post to digest as I keep getting

messages that my mailbox is over its limit!!

Re: Re: holding a child back a year?

I feel it is totally dependent on the child. I started first grade when

I

was just shy of 6 years. I graduated at 17. Other then the 2 miserable

years spent in middle school, I faired pretty well. I have always been

an

'in-between' person - sometimes I follow and sometimes I lead -

depending

on the situation.

will start kindergarten this coming Monday. She turned 5 on

July

1st. Although it is killing me that my baby is starting school, I feel

very confident in her abilities to hold her own.

Take care!

, Momma to (5yow/cf)

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can you do home based care??

holding a child back a year?

> Have any of you held back your kid for a year BEFORE they even

> started school? I have been thinking of having my son start

> preschool a year later than normal just to keep him healthy for a

> year. He was born in late March so he would be the oldest kid in his

> class by at least 4 months. I really want him to go to preschool for

> at least 2 mornings a week but not if it is going to make him sick

> all the time. The schools don't normally send kids home with just a

> runny nose and they only clean the toys during school breaks. YIKES!

> Does anyone have any experience keeping their kid healthy during

> preschool? I am just desperate for ideas!!

>

> mom to Ashton wcf

>

>

>

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> be construed as medical advice.

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[Guest guest]

,

Go with your gut instinct. I would judge more on his maturity level

and be sure he gets the social skills from somewhere, but it does not

have to be preschool.

went to a small group and was NEVER sick. Just lucky, I

guess. And because there were several kids with special health needs,

the teachers were extremely careful.

Is it something you can try and drop out of it is isn't right? (Oh,

no! the words " drop out " before he's even in preschool!) 2 days a

week sounds perfect.

Our preschool and elementary school does the no-water hand washing

before snack, lunch, etc. All the kids line up and get a squirt in

their hands. I attribute some of our luck to this.

I'd love to know how things go.

Lenora

Mom to a 2nd grader now!

>Have any of you held back your kid for a year BEFORE they even

>started school? I have been thinking of having my son start

>preschool a year later than normal just to keep him healthy for a

>year. He was born in late March so he would be the oldest kid in his

>class by at least 4 months. I really want him to go to preschool for

>at least 2 mornings a week but not if it is going to make him sick

>all the time. The schools don't normally send kids home with just a

>runny nose and they only clean the toys during school breaks. YIKES!

>Does anyone have any experience keeping their kid healthy during

>preschool? I am just desperate for ideas!!

>

> mom to Ashton wcf

>

>

[Guest guest]

Another perspective: My son has speech and fine motor impairment.

He is starting Kindergarten next week at age 4...will turn 5 in late

Sept. Do I feel he's ready? Honestly...socially, yes/academically

no. However, the public schools here have wonderful programs

for " exceptional children " so he will be receiving plenty of speech

and occupational therapy. I figure, if need be, I'll have him

repeat Kindergarten. Once he's reached his peers, academically, I

will switch him over to the private school his big sister attends.

It is all a matter of what is best for the individual child and

family. There is no " right " or " wrong " way as each situation is

unique. Good luck!

Polly - Mom to a " nearly nine " yo in diagnostic limbo and 4yo with a

totally different set of " issues "

[Guest guest]

My oldest daughter without CF will be 5 on August 28th which is a full

month before our cutoff date. However, I went to a seminar on evaluating

if your child is ready for kindergarden and basically they said that

social skills were the most important thing. Isabelle is very bright,

she already reads some words, knows all of her letters, numbers up to

twenty or so (I forget since I don't really quiz her or anything) and she

knows her colors. She is a great artist as well. She is already better

than me (which isn't saying much). Based on this seminar, we made the

decision to hold her back until she is six to start kindergarden. She is

very shy. She doesn't particularly like meeting new kids. She is fine

if mom and dad are there but once we are gone, she's a wall flower. She

will just stand off to the side and not play with anyone or participate

in the crafts at nursery school. It's very painful for me to watch her

when she doesn't know I am looking. Her nursery school teacher was

actually the one who told me that she felt Isabelle would not be ready

for kindergarden at the age of five and at the time, she was only three

and a half.

I see nothing wrong with holding your child back and giving them the gift

of an extra year to be fully ready for that first day of school. It also

means an extra year to save for college and an extra year with her at

home. They leave so soon anyway. Can you tell I don't have any

teenagers yet. I'm so optimistic.

On a side note, I dropped a microwave plate on my foot a month ago (I

would not recommend doing this) and it is now infected. As a result, my

foot has become a ballon, hurts like the dickens and basically I can't

walk. Its even worse then when I was pregnant in the summer and both

legs swelled up. A word of caution, when moving a microwave, remove the

plate first or you could end up like me. Stuff like this just makes me

feel old and quite frankly, kind of stupid or maybe just clutzy which I

definately am. The best part is that we have a birthday party scheduled

on Saturday for both of our girls. I just hope I can move around by

then. Anyway, I hope all is well with everyone else.

Talk to you later,

- mom to the butterfly girls, Emma 3 years w/cf and reflux and

Isabelle almost 5 wo/cf and not going to kindergarden this year.

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[Guest guest]

As a pre-k teacher of 10 years, I say hold onto them as long as you can.

I've see so many chiildren that are bright, but socially there is so much to

learn also. Pre-k is a great place to learn social skills, I would look

into something like that before Kindergarten.

G

Re: holding a child back a year?

> My oldest daughter without CF will be 5 on August 28th which is a full

> month before our cutoff date. However, I went to a seminar on evaluating

> if your child is ready for kindergarden and basically they said that

> social skills were the most important thing. Isabelle is very bright,

> she already reads some words, knows all of her letters, numbers up to

> twenty or so (I forget since I don't really quiz her or anything) and she

> knows her colors. She is a great artist as well. She is already better

> than me (which isn't saying much). Based on this seminar, we made the

> decision to hold her back until she is six to start kindergarden. She is

> very shy. She doesn't particularly like meeting new kids. She is fine

> if mom and dad are there but once we are gone, she's a wall flower. She

> will just stand off to the side and not play with anyone or participate

> in the crafts at nursery school. It's very painful for me to watch her

> when she doesn't know I am looking. Her nursery school teacher was

> actually the one who told me that she felt Isabelle would not be ready

> for kindergarden at the age of five and at the time, she was only three

> and a half.

>

> I see nothing wrong with holding your child back and giving them the gift

> of an extra year to be fully ready for that first day of school. It also

> means an extra year to save for college and an extra year with her at

> home. They leave so soon anyway. Can you tell I don't have any

> teenagers yet. I'm so optimistic.

>

> On a side note, I dropped a microwave plate on my foot a month ago (I

> would not recommend doing this) and it is now infected. As a result, my

> foot has become a ballon, hurts like the dickens and basically I can't

> walk. Its even worse then when I was pregnant in the summer and both

> legs swelled up. A word of caution, when moving a microwave, remove the

> plate first or you could end up like me. Stuff like this just makes me

> feel old and quite frankly, kind of stupid or maybe just clutzy which I

> definately am. The best part is that we have a birthday party scheduled

> on Saturday for both of our girls. I just hope I can move around by

> then. Anyway, I hope all is well with everyone else.

>

> Talk to you later,

>

> - mom to the butterfly girls, Emma 3 years w/cf and reflux and

> Isabelle almost 5 wo/cf and not going to kindergarden this year.

>

>

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> be construed as medical advice.

>

> PLEASE CONSULT YOUR PHYSICIAN BEFORE CHANGING ANY MEDICATIONS OR

TREATMENTS.

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

OUCH! I am so sorry about your foot. Has a doc looked at it? It doesn't

sound good that it's like that after a month!

Gosh, are our kids the same age? and were both born on

August 22nd... will be 5 and 3.

I'm glad you decided to hold Isabelle back for a year. I, with much

trepidation, decided to send . She was *begging* me to go. And she

practically skips in the door each morning. She is also very

bright...knows letters, numbers, etc. But she is socially, completely

outgoing and gregarious (MUCH more so than I am!). Still...I am SO SAD

not to have her home this year...and would like her to wait a year in

many ways, for all the reasons you mention. But...do I hold her back

then? It's hard, she would cry if I told her no school this year...she

loves it so much. Luckily her teacher is pretty laid back, too, so I

think some of the maturity issues won't be a problem (like sitting still

for a story, etc).

Anyway, I agree completely with your decision...very wise. I have tossed

and turned about this issue for a long time...it's a tough one! I think

I will hold (same birthday) back a year and have him start when

six. I just don't see him being ready, he is a very different child.

)O(

mama to , 2yo, w/CF, and , 4yo, no CF

Re: holding a child back a year?

My oldest daughter without CF will be 5 on August 28th which is a full

month before our cutoff date. However, I went to a seminar on

evaluating

if your child is ready for kindergarden and basically they said that

social skills were the most important thing. Isabelle is very bright,

she already reads some words, knows all of her letters, numbers up to

twenty or so (I forget since I don't really quiz her or anything) and

she

knows her colors. She is a great artist as well. She is already better

than me (which isn't saying much). Based on this seminar, we made the

decision to hold her back until she is six to start kindergarden. She

is

very shy. She doesn't particularly like meeting new kids. She is fine

if mom and dad are there but once we are gone, she's a wall flower. She

will just stand off to the side and not play with anyone or participate

in the crafts at nursery school. It's very painful for me to watch her

when she doesn't know I am looking. Her nursery school teacher was

actually the one who told me that she felt Isabelle would not be ready

for kindergarden at the age of five and at the time, she was only three

and a half.

I see nothing wrong with holding your child back and giving them the

gift

of an extra year to be fully ready for that first day of school. It

also

means an extra year to save for college and an extra year with her at

home. They leave so soon anyway. Can you tell I don't have any

teenagers yet. I'm so optimistic.

On a side note, I dropped a microwave plate on my foot a month ago (I

would not recommend doing this) and it is now infected. As a result, my

foot has become a ballon, hurts like the dickens and basically I can't

walk. Its even worse then when I was pregnant in the summer and both

legs swelled up. A word of caution, when moving a microwave, remove the

plate first or you could end up like me. Stuff like this just makes me

feel old and quite frankly, kind of stupid or maybe just clutzy which I

definately am. The best part is that we have a birthday party scheduled

on Saturday for both of our girls. I just hope I can move around by

then. Anyway, I hope all is well with everyone else.

Talk to you later,

- mom to the butterfly girls, Emma 3 years w/cf and reflux and

Isabelle almost 5 wo/cf and not going to kindergarden this year.

[Guest guest]

,

My daughter Eilish started school July last year. She was there for 3

weeks, then spent three weeks in hsp. But after that she has never been

sick again. I think it was just adjusting to the new germs.

(Australia)

holding a child back a year?

Have any of you held back your kid for a year BEFORE they even

started school? I have been thinking of having my son start

preschool a year later than normal just to keep him healthy for a

year. He was born in late March so he would be the oldest kid in his

class by at least 4 months. I really want him to go to preschool for

at least 2 mornings a week but not if it is going to make him sick

all the time. The schools don't normally send kids home with just a

runny nose and they only clean the toys during school breaks. YIKES!

Does anyone have any experience keeping their kid healthy during

preschool? I am just desperate for ideas!!

mom to Ashton wcf