To Jean

[Guest guest]

Jean,

I know this sounds harsh, but has anyone suggested that steps be taken to

have your daughter committed for mental health evaluation? If I remember

correctly, you said your son-in-law was wheelchair bound, and the children

were supposed to be home schooled. If your daughter is in this condition,

she is unfit, and needs psychiatric help and counseling. Who's doing the

home schooling and looking after the needs of the children?

I'm don't now the law, but I do believe that her husband, or you, as her

parents, can intervene and get help for her. You say you have no power, yet

if you get the appropriate agencies involved, you can get power to remedy

this. You would need to talk to an attorney, or even the Department of Social

Services, but surely there is an agency there that could consult you and the

husband on what steps could be taken.

This could have a severe, life-long impact on the children, and the father

needs to either take the steps himself, or seek outside help, to have your

daughter brought in for treatment. I fear that she's going to hurt herself, or

others in the family, if someone doesn't take the reins and get the ball

rolling.

Please look into this further and let us know what's being done to remedy this

travesty now, before it becomes much worse than it already is.

With hope and prayers,

Heidi

Heidi H. Griffeth

South Carolina

SC & SE Regional Rep.

PAI, Intl.

http://www.pancassociation.org/anthology.htm#Heidi

Note: All comments or advice are personal opinion only, and should not be

substituted for professional medical consultation.

Jean wrote:

I am well aware that she needs that help, but the fact is no one can tell her

anything. And she just doesnt care what happens.

she wont talk to anyone.

her husband ..... cant do anything with her either.

I do know it is ruining the kids lifes. but I dont know what to do. I have no

power where she is concerned.

[Guest guest]

Dear Jean,

Thank you for your reply. I am doing well, thank you, and only wish that this

wasn't happening in your family right now. I know you must feel sick and are

heartbroken about the situation with your daughter. It must be placing a

terrible stress on you, to feel so helpless. But I think something has to be

done before serious consequences happen. That would break you in two,

cuz I know you love her so much and you've been trying to help her for such

a long time.

Just keep trying to talk with her husband, I guess, and try to get him to get

enough backbone to take care of this situation before it becomes hopelessly

out of control and ends up being something sad that ruins all your lives.

You're just so dedicated and you care so much, and have been trying to help

her so hard, that I hate to see you hurt. Someone HAS to do something,

though.

It will be in my prayers that a resolution is found soon. I have great belief

in

the power of prayer, sometimes when I feel powerless, I place it in the Lord's

hands and there is always resolution. Though the resolution may not be what

I wanted or anticipated, it is done, and there is much relief in that.

With hope and prayers,

Heidi

Heidi H. Griffeth

South Carolina

SC & SE Regional Rep.

PAI, Intl.

http://www.pancassociation.org/anthology.htm#Heidi

Note: All comments or advice are personal opinion only, and

should not be

substituted for professional medical consultation.

> Dear Heidi,

> Yes I know the situation is desperate, but Indiana has some strange

> laws. I tried so hard to get the kids in school but as long as the

> parent agrees to take them out, the state has no law to prevent it.

> I have talked to the local agency about the situation, but have been

> told over and over that it would be placed on the husband to do

> anything. He is not wheelchair bound yet, but his deterioration of

> the spine will eventually come to that. He really is not a person

> to take control or to do anything with out her say so. I can talk

> to him again and see if I can talk him into looking into what he can

> do. I talked to him yesterday about trying to get her to a Dr but

> he really didnt respond to me. The kids actually are not being home

> schooled now. There will be a charter school here next fall and I

> think, (lets say I pray) that that they will be in it. It is a

> horrible situation and I really am at my wits end. But I will keep

> trying and that is all I can do. If I had the power, I would have

> the authorities walk in and drag her out. I am not even sure there

> is anyone to do that.

> Hoping you all are doing good, Jean