Re: Stress and Pain to Heidi

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Hi Heidi,

You are certainly right about stress causing an attack. I never realized

that it caused an attack for me until this past November when I found out

that my sister surgery revealed that she had staged 3 Ovarian Cancer and it

was more advanced than anyone had expected and she had to under go Chemo.

But she is doing very well with it and only has one more treatment to go,

before they will do test on her.

Well, when I found out this I went into a major attack, due to the stress of

the situation. And then at Christmas time when my sister-in-law who has

lung and bone Cancer, had to have emergency surgery and they didn't even

think she would make it out of the hospital, I had another attack. And now

this past week I have been battling another attack, after we found out that

my Mother-in-law has Non- Hodgkin's Lymphoma, but the good new is it very

low

grade and a very slow progressing Cancer and so far she doesn't even need

treatment. I had to take her for a Ct Scan this past Wednesday and I have

to

take her back to the Doctors to get the results this Friday and Next Monday

I have to take her to another doctor to get a second opinion. My

sister-in-law and Husband want me to take her to all the appointments,

because I have been thought so much and understand we had the doctors are

talking about. My mother-in-la calls me her doctor, because I understand

so much. What make thinks so hard on me is she is a very nervous person and

worries about every little thing, even just a test, send her over the top.

It's hard to get her to relax and not worry so much. Her blood pressure

goes thru the roof just going to her PCP, for a routine check-up. I ok with

her at the time, but I'm the type of person who doesn't show any kind of

upset, I keep everything inside, which is very hard of the CP and causes

major flares up. I feel like I'm the one who has to keep the whole family

going, no matter what is going on. No-one realizes what stress does to me,

even my husband can't figure this out. He can tell when I don't feel good

along with my daughters, but no-one realizes that Stress sends me into a

major attack. I finally got my husband to a new doctor this past Monday and

I was right about his sugar being so height 3 weeks ago. It was 384, and it

has come down all lot, but the doctor still started him on a diabetes

medicine and I have requested that we both see an Diabetic Educator, as I

need a refresher course for me along with him now. So I worried about him,

too. He has a birthday this coming Tuesday and will be 55, and now ever

ache and pain he get he thinks something is wrong with him. He was going

around the house the other day saying how bad his side and back hurt. I ask

him on a scale of 1-10 how bad it was, I was expecting a 6 or higher and he

said about a 2, Well I kind of lost it, which I know I know I should not

have and ask him how he would like to live daily with a 4-5 level pain. I

know I should be more sympathetic with him because his dad died from Cancer

in 89 and now he worried because his mother has it too. He told me the

other day he'll probable be next. I told him he'll be ok, if he takes care

of himself and now he wants to loose weights. He says he lost 14 pounds,

which is great. He still weights 275 and he only 5'6 " , which is very heavy

for him. So I very delighted that he is finally doing something about his

weight. My daughter was very sick this past Tues and Wednesday and had to go

to the doctor and we found out that she had the flu very bad and isn't

allowed to go back to work until tomorrow. So it seems that it has been

just one thing after another since November. I also found out this past

week that my sister-in-law the one with the cancer has had a relapse from

her December surgery and now has abscesses and not eating again and is back

in the hospital. If this isn't bad enough, My mother has had some health

problems too. I'm the only one who lives closes to her. She lives next

door. My brother is about 2 hours away and they don't see each other, but

that another story and his wife is the one with bone and lung cancer, so he

has his hands full too and my sister is under Chemo in FL , so she has her

hands full too. Things have to get better, I really don't think it can get

much worse. I sorry that this has turned into a book, but I needed to vent

and let you all know why I haven't been online much lately. Someday I feel

like I would like to just run away and then everything would be ok, But I

know Life and God doesn't give you more than you can handle, but lately I

think he is testing me just a little, to see how much can take before I do

end up in the Hospital with a major attack. I guess the really it hasn't

happen yet is, I don't had the time for me lately. Maybe I shouldn't keep my

feeling all bottled up. Well, I must let you all know that one very nice

thing has happen to me lately. I'm now a Great Aunt. My niece in FL had

her baby Boy, , on March 5th and Mother and Baby are both doing great.

So I do guess good things do happen too. Thanks for letting me vent and

you all are such great listeners. And better days are surely due to come our

way.

Take Care,

Louie in WV

Stress and Pain

> Hi Y'all,

>

> All your well wishes and prayers worked well, after my near death pains on

> Thursday night I woke Friday weak and drained, but clearly over the hill.

I

> haven't a clue what brought that episode to a peak so suddenly, but am

just

> as thankful that it disappeared as quickly as it came. I rested Friday,

only

> stirring to give Austin's room a thorough dusting and opened all the

windows

> to let in fresh air......until I saw that our horrible puce green pollen

dust was

> settling on all the newly dusted furniture! Alas, SPRING is truly here,

and with

> it comes the pollen from all the southern pines that our fine state is so

> abundant in! Next it will be the azaela's in bloom, and I will be walking

about

> with nose running and eyes watering, for this poor tranplanted Yankee girl

is

> allergic to both the pine pollen and azaela's, much to my southern born

> husband's disbelief. 'Tis only fitting, though, as he is just as allergic

to snow!

>

> I woke with excitement on Saturday, my pleasure slightly squashed when I

> did my FBG test and it was 175! Oh, the joys of brittle diabetes! On a

regular

> day it's around 80-90 when I rise. So I corrected it, dosing insulin as I

> normally would for that high a BG and an hour later was down to 30.....so

I

> knew the whole day was going to be one long battle juggling with my levels

> and needing to test every couple of hours. Oh well, no problem!! I had

all

> day to wait, with nothing to do anyway, but count the hours, until it was

time

> for me to go to the airport to pick up Austin. I stopped at the weekly

antiques

> auction site which is on the way to the airport. On their website I'd

seen a

> gorgeous antique mahogany ton rice planter's four poster bed that I

> was interested in bidding on as a wedding gift for my daughter and future

SIL.

> It still hadn't come up for bidding when it was time for me to leave for

the

> airport, then while I was in the ladies room checking my BG's and shooting

> yet once again before I got on the road....yup, you guessed it....I could

hear

> over the loudspeakers that it came up! Before I could get myself buttoned

> back up and out to the auction floor, it was snapped up for a steal at

$700.

>

> It seems that my bad episode Wednesday night may have been brought on

> my unconscious anticipation (stress) about my grandson's arrival. You all

> know that stress seems to effect us in a negative manner. Even though the

> doctor's don't acknowledge this as a cause, I do. Whether this stress

could

> actually CAUSE an attack is what I'd be interested in seeing researched.

I

> remember back to October and my anticipation about our trip to Belize,

which

> intensified the closer the arrival date approached, bringing me into a

full acute

> attack by the time we were flying in the airplane halfway to Belize. It

really

> makes me wonder, because of what happened then, and a smaller episode

> so similar now.

>

> Can any of you think of any times that you've had an acute attack that may

> have been brought on purely by stress? I'd be interested to see if

there's any

> solid correlation there.

>

> BTW, my boy's here and we're doing just fine. He's already got one of

his

> buddy's from school here for the afternoon and he's asked his grandad to

> cook up a big steak on the grill as his welcome home dinner tonight (I've

got

> some grouper in the frig).

>

> Jac, that was a very observant post that you made to me, and I do think

you

> are so right. It's not the arrival that is so stressful, it's the

knowledge that in

> less than a week I'll be back at that airport kissing him goodbye, which

is the

> hardest part to do. Your gentle, understanding analysis was right on the

> mark....it will be so difficult, but I plan to enjoy every minute until

then.

>

> So you may not hear too much from me this week, or at least not until

after

> bedtime. Thanks to all of you!

>

> With hope and prayers,

> Heidi

>

> Heidi H. Griffeth

> South Carolina

> SC & SE Regional Rep.

> PAI, Intl.

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> Note: All comments or advice are personal opinion only, and should never

be

> substituted for consultation with a medical professional.

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