OT OT OTRe: Your post hurt my feelings.

[Guest guest]

Dear Summer,

Hmm.. I usually get excited about anything marked " Special Delivery. "

But our postman is pretty friendly.

I guess Lincoln was right about fooling some of the people some of the

time. :-)

Summer, it's a sad thing that I've been around for six years and don't

seem to be getting any smarter which is a shame as in real life people

constantly accuse me of over intellectualizing.

So I started sharply editing technical stuff unless I could wriggle

out by attributing it to someone else or stealing it from Google which

would make me look good without taking any heat ;-)

LOL!

Yes, being helped here is why we are here, but the help is best

targeted to the main topic or we will lose members from confusion and

frustration. There is a definite tier of people here who are

scientifically advanced and given a bottle of wine and a nice SCD

casserole dish could probably ruminate for hours.

I met a neighbor in the park with a PHD in ortho-molecular science (an

Abe Hoffer devotee). I invited him to have coffee with Elaine and I at

my place. Turns out they went to the same university (I'm sure I've

told this story before) Five hours later finally made a move to

leave but lingered at the door for another thirty minutes exploring

Lactic D acid and Linus ing Vitamin C protocols for treating

cancer. He also came up with a list of suggested supplements that would

cause sprawling overgrowth of our own list. He is fixated on Evening

Primrose Oil and Salmon Oil and confronted me so often about it that I

now walk the dog in the park at a different time.

I am glad you are helped and agree there are moments when even our

favorite people can be irritating.

So it seems it's not the product but the packaging that part of the

problem. But we are all stuck with our own " Special Delivery " styles.

Mine is sort of passive aggressive. Hope it doesn't put you off too

much.

> has consistently helped many on these boards, for a very long

> time. He is very concerned in helping people, because he helps people,

> over and over again. He keeps on helping, over and over. If you are

> reacting over the delivery, is that his fault? Many people with autism

> are consistently irritating, including myself, I would think this

> would be the last group to make such a reminder to.

>   

>   Harping over the inconsequential, the consequential is missed. We

> can't always see frustration on the other cable modem end either,

> either way. So its helpful to let things go.

>   

>   can't fool me, he is very concerned, and is doing the brunt

> of a ton of work, he is a pioneer, and if something he says just

> doesn't sit right, just say it to him and let it go.

>   

>   I find alot of irritating people on this list, and I am sure many

> find me irritating. Such is interaction between humans.

>   

>   Summer

>

Carol F.

Toronto, celiac, SCD 6 years

[Guest guest]

I don't usually post about the petty grievances people have been having

with one another on this board. I'm a newbie and just learning, plus, I

have very little time for these sorts of issues. I am here in the tiny

amount of time that I have, for one purpose - to learn everything I

can to help heal my sick child. Everything else washes by me.

It seems this board has a lot MORE personality issues than my other

autism boards (and I'm not sure why that is, maybe I haven't been

around long enough). Nevertheless, I continue to learn valuable

information. And not surprisingly, I find that often, I'm learning the

most from people that other listmates find irritiating. Hmm, if there's

one thing I've learned about people on the spectrum (and this includes

myself), it's that brilliance is a not-uncommmon feature of the

disorder. Be careful not to throw out the baby with the bathwater.

We do not disown or criticize our own children for their ASD-related

shortcomings (at least I hope we don't); we try to understand them,

help them learn more adaptive ways of communicating, and we tolerate

and try to understand them. Because they are often brilliant, eager to

help, and they are ours.

Can we not extend this same spirit of generosity to ourselves and our

listmates who are on the spectrum? If someone offends you, it is wise

to look past your own irritation to find the intention of the message

and the nugget of brilliance. If you aren't able to get past your own

emotional response to the person's way of communicating, then it may be

best to simply avoid reading that person's posts. But please, don't

criticize and drive away these helpful messengers - they are highly

valued by many of us. When you are tempted to speak harshly to a

listmate, remember - someday, that could be your child. Be gentle.

Suzanne

>

> Dear Summer,

> Hmm.. I usually get excited about anything marked " Special Delivery. "

> But our postman is pretty friendly.