Re: Following the logic here. . .

[Guest guest]

The fact that both my husband and I were equally " at fault " (I can't

think of a way to put it, but you know what I mean) for " giving " our

child CF probably saved our relationship.

It would have been soooo much harder bearing the brunt of responsibility alone.

I'm sorry has CF, but I am glad we are both the carriers who

passed it on...along, I hope, with some GOOD traits, too!

Lenora

>If only one parent could, by being a carrier, give this to the kids, I would

>have had to tell MY kids that they were adopted (which they were not!)

>As one who posted said, it is hard to be even half of the culprit here,

>and it is sad that some family members cannot understand that we ALL

>carry the most amazing good and bad genes. I know this same type of

>denial and avoidance goes on in families with schizophrenia, bi-polar

>disorder, etc., and all other serious genetically conveyed illnesses.

>Love to all at cfparents,

>n Rojas, who is lucky--no denial anywhere in our clan, thank heavens! I

>would have a hard time with this anyway, having cf and having a child

>wcf--just string me up! But no one has!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Very well put, Lenora! I too am glad that I don't have to share the

burden alone, although Mark is the kind of guy that never would have blamed

me anyway, and vice versa. But, I have a guilty conscience easily (never

would have made a good criminal!), and probably would have had a harder time

with it.

You know, I still have that letter you wrote me a few years ago, by the way!

LOL And I wrote back, too, but found that letter--thought I sent it, but I

guess not. Perfect example of my guilty conscience--I feel terrible I

forgot to send it! LOL

S., mom to Cody (7, pwcf), DJ (9, nocf), and a (14, nocf)

Re: Following the logic here. . .

> The fact that both my husband and I were equally " at fault " (I can't

> think of a way to put it, but you know what I mean) for " giving " our

> child CF probably saved our relationship.

> It would have been soooo much harder bearing the brunt of responsibility

alone.

> I'm sorry has CF, but I am glad we are both the carriers who

> passed it on...along, I hope, with some GOOD traits, too!

> Lenora

>

> >If only one parent could, by being a carrier, give this to the kids, I

would

> >have had to tell MY kids that they were adopted (which they were not!)

> >As one who posted said, it is hard to be even half of the culprit here,

> >and it is sad that some family members cannot understand that we ALL

> >carry the most amazing good and bad genes. I know this same type of

> >denial and avoidance goes on in families with schizophrenia, bi-polar

> >disorder, etc., and all other serious genetically conveyed illnesses.

> >Love to all at cfparents,

> >n Rojas, who is lucky--no denial anywhere in our clan, thank

heavens! I

> >would have a hard time with this anyway, having cf and having a child

> >wcf--just string me up! But no one has!

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

SSSSOOOOOO sorry about that, Lenora!! I feel even more guilty now! :-D

S., mom to Cody (7, pwcf), DJ (9, nocf), and a (14, nocf)

Re: Following the logic here. . .

> >

> >

> >> The fact that both my husband and I were equally " at fault " (I can't

> >> think of a way to put it, but you know what I mean) for " giving " our

> >> child CF probably saved our relationship.

> >> It would have been soooo much harder bearing the brunt of

responsibility

> >alone.

> >> I'm sorry has CF, but I am glad we are both the carriers who

> >> passed it on...along, I hope, with some GOOD traits, too!

> >> Lenora

> >>

> >> >If only one parent could, by being a carrier, give this to the kids,

I

> >would

> >> >have had to tell MY kids that they were adopted (which they were

not!)

> >> >As one who posted said, it is hard to be even half of the culprit

here,

> >> >and it is sad that some family members cannot understand that we ALL

> >> >carry the most amazing good and bad genes. I know this same type of

> >> >denial and avoidance goes on in families with schizophrenia, bi-polar

> >> >disorder, etc., and all other serious genetically conveyed illnesses.

> >> >Love to all at cfparents,

> >> >n Rojas, who is lucky--no denial anywhere in our clan, thank

> >heavens! I

> >> >would have a hard time with this anyway, having cf and having a child

> >> >wcf--just string me up! But no one has!

> >> >

> >> >

> >> >

[Guest guest]

You'd better send me that letter, young lady! I have been unable to

sleep all these years waiting on your reply!!!

Lenora

> well put, Lenora! I too am glad that I don't have to share the

>burden alone, although Mark is the kind of guy that never would have blamed

>me anyway, and vice versa. But, I have a guilty conscience easily (never

>would have made a good criminal!), and probably would have had a harder time

>with it.

>

>You know, I still have that letter you wrote me a few years ago, by the way!

>LOL And I wrote back, too, but found that letter--thought I sent it, but I

>guess not. Perfect example of my guilty conscience--I feel terrible I

>forgot to send it! LOL

>

> S., mom to Cody (7, pwcf), DJ (9, nocf), and a (14, nocf)

>

> Re: Following the logic here. . .

>

>

>> The fact that both my husband and I were equally " at fault " (I can't

>> think of a way to put it, but you know what I mean) for " giving " our

>> child CF probably saved our relationship.

>> It would have been soooo much harder bearing the brunt of responsibility

>alone.

>> I'm sorry has CF, but I am glad we are both the carriers who

>> passed it on...along, I hope, with some GOOD traits, too!

>> Lenora

>>

>> >If only one parent could, by being a carrier, give this to the kids, I

>would

>> >have had to tell MY kids that they were adopted (which they were not!)

>> >As one who posted said, it is hard to be even half of the culprit here,

>> >and it is sad that some family members cannot understand that we ALL

>> >carry the most amazing good and bad genes. I know this same type of

>> >denial and avoidance goes on in families with schizophrenia, bi-polar

>> >disorder, etc., and all other serious genetically conveyed illnesses.

>> >Love to all at cfparents,

>> >n Rojas, who is lucky--no denial anywhere in our clan, thank

>heavens! I

>> >would have a hard time with this anyway, having cf and having a child

>> >wcf--just string me up! But no one has!

>> >

>> >

>> >