As a caregiver

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Hi,

Reading some of your post you talk about your caregivers and you are

worried about how they must feel. Let me tell you they don't mind

being a sounding board when you need someone to shout at, as big

pillow when you need someone to snuggle with, a shoulder when you

need one to cry one and your helper when you can't get out of bed.

In my experence it was just nice to be needed. This illness makes us

feel so completely helpless seeing someone you love racked with so

much pain and not being able to do anything about it.

Having some Dr treating you as if you have done something to trigger

it off, (as if you want to go though this pain) having to fight to

find out things as the Doctors in there wisdom tell them things when

there on morphine and alone and they can't remember a thing BLESS

THERE LITTLE COTTON SOCKS, chasing around to find out what going on

medically. My partner has to sign so many forms so that they would

tell me everything so that when he was unconious I could find out

things.

The worst thing I found was the feeling of complete and utter

helplessness I just wanted to take the pain away, but I couldn't.

So when you ill and in pain just let them love and look after you and

WHEN WE SAY THAT'S ENOUGH GO AND REST DO IT!!!!!! SOMETIMES THE

CAREGIVER KNOWS BEST.

Take Care

Vicky UK