Cecilia

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Hi Cecilia: I just had to respond to your e-mail where you wrote about the

" glass ceiling " that you have experienced at work. I am going through that

right now, which is why I asked the insurance question. Which by the way,

thanks everyone for all your information! Just yesterday, I wrote down

notes to take with me when I go in for my yearly review sometime over the

next few weeks.

Basically, I have never gotten anything but good/very good reviews for the

past 8 1/2 years, and always gave my all to the company. The only black

mark I have against me involved missing too much time. Even though I had all

the correct FMLA forms completed, I was still written up for missing too

much time, not scheduling sick time (like how do you do that?) or doctor

appointments at a more convenient time. They even stated that coincidently

I had taken several Fridays and Mondays off. I don't know about anyone else,

but by Friday I am always just spent! Exhausted from the week. So, during a

more severe attack, if it's going to happen, alot of times it will start

Thursdays and go on through the weekend.

Anyway, how do you deal with the frustration and anger? If indeed you do

experience those types of feelings. I also direct alot of my resentment at

the girl who I initially hired as my assistant, and became the person who

basically took over my job and has been offered any promotions that might

have come my way in the past two years. I know it's not really fair for me

to blame her, I guess if I was in her position I might do the same thing. I

would hope that I handle it a bit different, and try to make it more of a

team effort, by including her in the different projects, but she doesn't

make any effort in that direction at all. And I hope I don't sound like I

have a big ego problem, I really don't, but I was raised that if you put in

hard work, you will be rewarded. My husband laughs at me because he says

he's never heard of a company where people fight over work. He says he

would try to get out of work! Like most normal people would I guess. But I

enjoy a challenge, and get alot of personal satisfaction from my work.

I wish someone could wave a magic wand and make this all go away. I'm

afraid if I even bring this up I'll sound like I'm whining. Maybe I could

send you the notes, and get your opinion?

At least I know I'm not alone...Thanks Cecelia for sharing your experience

with the group, and me!

Robin R.

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