Re: Wedding to Sandy

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Sandy,

Yeah, to say that I'm a proud mom would be an understatement!

She's a wonderful young woman that has always made me

proud of her, with very good reason. She's always been an

honor student, been respectful and considerate of others, never

went through any teenage rebellion, is hard working and loyal,

loves animals, and beautiful to look at, too. With all these

qualities, it's hard to find fault in her, wouldn't ya think? We feel

very blessed to have her.

The only flaw in any of this is that she considers my second

husband as her father, and has dissassociated herself from her

natural father for the past ten years, for very good reasons. She

hasn't even seen him in ten years, although they both live in the

same city. She wants my husband, (her step-dad), to give her

away. That's okay with us, because he loves her like his own

and has always treated her as his daughter, but it's causing

some problems with all of the wedding planning. My son does

still see my ex, actually he has to, because they were both

stationed at the same AF base for several years where my son

was active duty, and my ex was a Reservist. It's complicated. My

ex is also a pilot, works for the same company as my husband,

and the two men do see each other professionally on occasion.

We are goose-stepping over some of the arrangements

because of the whole situation, and I still don't know how we're

going to handle it, yet. I can forsee a lot of friction and loud

verbal posturing in the future from my ex (some of the traits that

caused me to divorce him twenty years ago), and I dread all of

that activity surfacing again. I get knots in my stomach, just

thinking about it!!

But yes, for any of you mother's with daughters out there, this is

something really special to look forward to. I didn't know how

special and bonding it would make me feel until it all offically

began. Now we're on the phone several times every day and

sending fast and furious emails back and forth. I just wish I still

lived in ton, it would be so much easier for me.

I know Weston successfully survived her daughter's

marriage with much happiness, so I'm hoping for the same.

Your day will come soon enough, so hold dear and enjoy the

years in between!

With hope and prayers,

Heidi

Heidi H. Griffeth

South Carolina

SC & SE Regional Rep

PAI, Intl.

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