Guest guest Posted February 3, 2004 Report Share Posted February 3, 2004 I am also a caregiver to a patient with chronic pancreatitis. My name is Carol, and my hubby is Bruce. Some of you may remember him. I know he has chatted with Mark several times. He is in the hospital right now with a severe attack. The CAT shows calcification and inflammation. As a caregiver, I find it extremely difficult. There are times that are good, I suppose when he is feeling somewhat better, but at times he can also be very grumpy and snap for whatever reason. It is hard not being able to do things that we like, such as dining out, visiting, making ANY sort of plans. I do miss that, as we are in our retirement years now with an empty nest. These are supposed to be OUR years. I feel robbed! But, I also know Bruce feels robbed as well. I try my best to be fully supportive but there just seems to be a brick wall that surfaces so often that we both bump against. I think we all must deal on a day by day basis, and be thankful for another day together. I miss him terribly now that he is in the hospital but I know that is where he belongs at this point in time. I hope I have been of some help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2004 Report Share Posted February 3, 2004 Carol, Thank you for your honesty. I think we sometimes need to hear the other side to fully understand. I know it is easy to feel robbed, I have been a caregiver in the past with an ex I was with for 5 years, he blew it by cheating on me though, while I supported him and his two kids! He just went on to find someone else to use though. I still talk to the kids though, they are older with families of their own now and tell me thank you all the time. I miss the girls but I certainly do not miss him! LOL Any way thank you again, I can see where you are coming from though with feeling robbed. I guess all we can do is hope for the good days to be really good so we can have quality time with our loved ones. By the way tell Bruce to get better and to be nice to the nurses! I hope he is getting some pain relief, and resting the old pancreas! Simi Valley, CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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