DEANNA

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He Deanna, Thanks for caring and thanks for letting me ramble. I

have a tendacy to do that at times. I know my daughter has been and

still is in a deep depression and I can understand that. She has a

husband with a deteriorating spine on disibility and 2 young

children ages 12 and 6 who she is not able to do the normal things

with. I think the real breaking point as far as her not wanting me

with her so much was due to the fact that she is not seeing a doctor

who specializes in the pancreas and I have been determined that she

see one. I think I pushed too hard, and I have finally come to the

realization that even if she needs another doctor, it is her life

and her decision. It has taken me a long time to come to this, but

if I have to keep my mouth shut to have a relationship with her,

then I will. She also has the problem that family members dont

think anything is really wrong with her, she looks healthy, so

people think she is. I and her Dad know how bad off she is and it

is a great worry for us. There have been some very bad remarks made

about her and to her over this illness. It is an illness that is

not easily understood or explained to anyone. Any way, things are

better between us now and that is all I can say at the moment on

it. I hope it stays that way and continues to get better. In a lot

of ways she is like me, in being very stubborn when told what to do

by people, so I really shouldnt be surprised by her reaction. With

your worries about your son, I really appreciate you taking the time

to think of me. I think of you often also and hope things get

better with him and for you. Why did we think we had problems when

our kids were little,,,,it was a piece of cake then. 's

daughter has taken over the role of caregiver as your son has done

and she is only 12. She has never gotten to be a kid. Life is just

a bowl of cherries, isnt it??? that is if you survive it....love

and thinking of you, Jean