Guest guest Posted April 4, 2005 Report Share Posted April 4, 2005 Stephany, I couldn't have put it better about the feeling " out of control " and associated anxiety. I thought I had every thing under control in terms of being determined in doing this darn surgery finally but I'm realizing that as I get closer to D-Day I am not at all calm about it. I feel like my life has to be put on hold and I get so frustrated and even more when I realize I am winding myself up all on my own! Crikey! Re: doctors that are rude, I find that absolutely unacceptable. It only took me 12 years to find the right doctor that I felt comfortable with because all the doctors I kept on seeing just did not make me feel confident about putting my life (and jaw) in their hands. Here I am less than 2 months pre-surgery and now I am having doubts again about my current surgeon and looking into potentially another one. Goes to show how delicate the relationship between doctor/patient is. Good luck to every one and happy healing to those who are already in the post-op phase. Sara > > Just thinking.... Could some of the anxiety, worry, fear we go > through be due to our feelings of being 'out of control'? I mean, we > don't have a clue as to what should happen, will happen, can happen. > We get put out, have bones in our jaws and face cut apart, wired > back together, and then when we wake up.... we get sent out the door > to fend for ourselves. > > Certainly makes me grit my teeth ;-) > > I 'hear' your conversations about not knowing where to bite, chew, > or how to close your mouth. I think I've struggled with that ever > since I got my braces. Nothing matches or feels right. So guess not > much will change after I have my surgery! > > Taking your advice, I've spent a year in braces now. However long > I'm in braces *before* surgery is how long I'm going to expect my > healing to take *after* the surgery. LOL... won't have a chance to > get frustrated then! > > About Doctors who are rude... You are in charge of your body. It's > the only one you have and if you don't take care of it, no one else > will. I had a go-around with my urologist who pulled the same thing. > I flat told him that it was my body, I had to live with it 24/7 and > if I didn't make sure things were right for me, I'd be the one who > suffered - not him. Ultimately, I got the answers I wanted *and* I > was treated like an intelligent person. So stick up for yourself. My > heart goes out to you, because I know it's hard when you are > dependent on that doctor to take care of you. > > Have been lurking a lot. But taking it all in. Later this month, I > should find out more about my surgery. > > Hang in there! > Stephany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2005 Report Share Posted April 4, 2005 Stephany, Expecting a year to recooperate is a very wise and logical thing. That has been my biggest source of stress. I expected everything to magically work again and soon but I have discovered time is of the essence! About the dr advice and story you are exactly right we live with ourselves and decisions. I really need to stick up for myself and plan to! Thanks, Papillion > > Just thinking.... Could some of the anxiety, worry, fear we go > through be due to our feelings of being 'out of control'? I mean, we > don't have a clue as to what should happen, will happen, can happen. > We get put out, have bones in our jaws and face cut apart, wired > back together, and then when we wake up.... we get sent out the door > to fend for ourselves. > > Certainly makes me grit my teeth ;-) > > I 'hear' your conversations about not knowing where to bite, chew, > or how to close your mouth. I think I've struggled with that ever > since I got my braces. Nothing matches or feels right. So guess not > much will change after I have my surgery! > > Taking your advice, I've spent a year in braces now. However long > I'm in braces *before* surgery is how long I'm going to expect my > healing to take *after* the surgery. LOL... won't have a chance to > get frustrated then! > > About Doctors who are rude... You are in charge of your body. It's > the only one you have and if you don't take care of it, no one else > will. I had a go-around with my urologist who pulled the same thing. > I flat told him that it was my body, I had to live with it 24/7 and > if I didn't make sure things were right for me, I'd be the one who > suffered - not him. Ultimately, I got the answers I wanted *and* I > was treated like an intelligent person. So stick up for yourself. My > heart goes out to you, because I know it's hard when you are > dependent on that doctor to take care of you. > > Have been lurking a lot. But taking it all in. Later this month, I > should find out more about my surgery. > > Hang in there! > Stephany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2005 Report Share Posted April 4, 2005 I agree about the out of control anxiety!! When I was wired it was so serious for me. When I was angry (at my husband) I couldn't argue and at times I wanted to scream and couldn't so I would cry- ugly cry and didn't even do that well. I couldn't control breathing either or eating. I felt caged and very out of control!! I was an emotional wreck and at times felt like a little animal that is overpowered (by the whole situation). It was a very hard time for me emotionally. I would be soo hungry then try to eat a smoothie that just overflowed all over me and wouldn't pass through my space in my mouth. All I could do at the moment was cry. I wasn't happy enough at being unwired now that I recall that time and am thankful it is over! That is a good thing to prepare others for because had I expected it it may not have hit me so hard. Thanks Jane > > > > Just thinking.... Could some of the anxiety, worry, fear we go > > through be due to our feelings of being 'out of control'? I mean, > we > > don't have a clue as to what should happen, will happen, can > happen. > > We get put out, have bones in our jaws and face cut apart, wired > > back together, and then when we wake up.... we get sent out the > door > > to fend for ourselves. > > > > Certainly makes me grit my teeth ;-) > > > > I 'hear' your conversations about not knowing where to bite, chew, > > or how to close your mouth. I think I've struggled with that ever > > since I got my braces. Nothing matches or feels right. So guess not > > much will change after I have my surgery! > > > > Taking your advice, I've spent a year in braces now. However long > > I'm in braces *before* surgery is how long I'm going to expect my > > healing to take *after* the surgery. LOL... won't have a chance to > > get frustrated then! > > > > About Doctors who are rude... You are in charge of your body. It's > > the only one you have and if you don't take care of it, no one else > > will. I had a go-around with my urologist who pulled the same > thing. > > I flat told him that it was my body, I had to live with it 24/7 and > > if I didn't make sure things were right for me, I'd be the one who > > suffered - not him. Ultimately, I got the answers I wanted *and* I > > was treated like an intelligent person. So stick up for yourself. > My > > heart goes out to you, because I know it's hard when you are > > dependent on that doctor to take care of you. > > > > Have been lurking a lot. But taking it all in. Later this month, I > > should find out more about my surgery. > > > > Hang in there! > > Stephany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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