Re: I would like to VENT!

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I am very sorry to hear this and I probably would have slapped the other mom or said somethink like 'there is nothing wrong with him. What is wrong with your manners?' I know there are a lot of moms who would be calm and explain which I think you did and that is incredibly commendable. I'm sure that other moms were shocked that she behaved in that manner. These types of comments make me incredibly angry. What if there was something wrong like a disability with him? Would that person feel bad? If you think that you can go back and be able to stand looking at that ogre mom do it but I would ask for my money back. The reason I am really defensive is that the first person who I trusted to tell about plagios and the band laughed and said my son is 'special' and I took offense. I am further angered that people use these terms so loosely because I have friends who have childen with disabilities who can't take the helmet off at the end of the treatment and they have to deal with this all their lives. Just know that you are among friends! From: "sjlprl" Date: Fri, 03 Apr 2009 17:45:13 -0000<Plagiocephaly >Subject: I would like to VENT! I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort. A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and said in a very loud voice, " What is wrong with your baby? " She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, " I know what that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a helmet and so I did. " I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal. I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like that associated with plagio. I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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Oh man, I'm sorry you have to go through that.  I think I would have ignored screechy mom, and asked miss judgemental mom pointed questions about her kid to drive the point home that every plagio case is different.  Oh, you were successful with repo alone?  What were your starting and ending numbers?  Wow that's excellent.  We weren't near as lucky, and so on.

 

I don't think you are being overly sensitive.  In fact I think you should be commended on not slapping screechy mom for pointing and yelling at your kid like that.  I hope for your sake they calm down for all future classes.  It sounds like a really fun way to help him with his tort.

 

Elaine (twinA) plagio & tort, 10mos, 2nd helmet since 1/5/09

 

On Fri, Apr 3, 2009 at 1:45 PM, sjlprl <sjlprl@...> wrote:

I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort.

A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and said in a very loud voice, " What is wrong with your baby? " She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, " I know what that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a helmet and so I did. " I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal.

I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like that associated with plagio.

I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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I give you credit for remaining so calm.  You know you come to expect the staring, annoying as it is, but for a Mom to act that way?  I'm literally sitting her shaking my head in disbelief.

 

I love the advice about printing out plagio info and handing it to her -- that would be great!  I'd do it in front of the group too, make an example out of her for being so inappropriate.  Maybe next time she'll think twice. 

On Fri, Apr 3, 2009 at 2:00 PM, Lina Gabriev <lina.gabriev@...> wrote:

Oh man, I'm sorry you have to go through that.  I think I would have ignored screechy mom, and asked miss judgemental mom pointed questions about her kid to drive the point home that every plagio case is different.  Oh, you were successful with repo alone?  What were your starting and ending numbers?  Wow that's excellent.  We weren't near as lucky, and so on.

 

I don't think you are being overly sensitive.  In fact I think you should be commended on not slapping screechy mom for pointing and yelling at your kid like that.  I hope for your sake they calm down for all future classes.  It sounds like a really fun way to help him with his tort.

 

Elaine (twinA) plagio & tort, 10mos, 2nd helmet since 1/5/09

 

On Fri, Apr 3, 2009 at 1:45 PM, sjlprl <sjlprl@...> wrote:

I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort.

A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and said in a very loud voice, " What is wrong with your baby? " She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, " I know what that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a helmet and so I did. " I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal.

I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like that associated with plagio.

I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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I would be pissed too! A lady at a playgroup pretty much did the same thing and kept noticably taking her son as far away as possible from mine. Sent via BlackBerry from T-MobileFrom: anadashmaria@...Date: Fri, 3 Apr 2009 18:00:26 +0000Plagio<Plagiocephaly >Subject: Re: I would like to VENT! I am very sorry to hear this and I probably would have slapped the other mom or said somethink like 'there is nothing wrong with him. What is wrong with your manners?' I know there are a lot of moms who would be calm and explain which I think you did and that is incredibly commendable. I'm sure that other moms were shocked that she behaved in that manner. These types of comments make me incredibly angry. What if there was something wrong like a disability with him? Would that person feel bad? If you think that you can go back and be able to stand looking at that ogre mom do it but I would ask for my money back. The reason I am really defensive is that the first person who I trusted to tell about plagios and the band laughed and said my son is 'special' and I took offense. I am further angered that people use these terms so loosely because I have friends who have childen with disabilities who can't take the helmet off at the end of the treatment and they have to deal with this all their lives. Just know that you are among friends! From: "sjlprl" Date: Fri, 03 Apr 2009 17:45:13 -0000<Plagiocephaly >Subject: I would like to VENT! I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort. A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and said in a very loud voice, " What is wrong with your baby? " She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, " I know what that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a helmet and so I did. " I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal. I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like that associated with plagio. I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am mad right there with you! How insensitive! Are they 1st time mommys? Maybe they are jsut not used to "social situations" and other peoples babies. I know I probably said a few insensitive things back when I was a new mom... but now having been there I know what to say and not to say (like asking a heavier mom when she is due! YIKES!)

OK - Look they were lame... everyone will support you in that! Does your ortho have any pamphlets? Maybe you can grab a few and bring them to the next meeting and hand then to those offensing moms. Then they can be educated. Don"t take thier ignorance to heart - see it as an opportunity for them to learn. :-)

ON an aside - Today at a baby shower we were talking about bumbo seats... a mom that I kinda butt heads with says very loudly "I was told that babies should never be in a position they can't get into themselves" and I said - "No the bumbo is a great alternative for a bouncy seat or swing so they are not on the back of thier heads" - and she said "Well, they shouldn't be in those either!" And I said - "Well, it's like another set of hands to hold your baby when you get busy or have something to attend to"... AND SHE SAID - "Oh, I never gave myself a break." And it was just the way she said it. GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!

Jen

Mom to Luli - 3 yrs old

Torticollis, Plagio, Syringomyelia

I would like to VENT!

I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort.

A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and said in a very loud voice, "What is wrong with your baby?"

She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, "I know what that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a helmet and so I did." I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal.

I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like that associated with plagio.

I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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There are always rude and insensitive people no matter where you

go! You just have to brush it off. My wife had steam coming from

her ears at times from what some ignorant people have said. I always took

a low-key comeback that proved VERY effective.

After hearing the inappropriate comment, you simply laugh and say,

“Yes, my child will be done wearing this band within the next month or so

and will really have a nicely shaped head when we are done.” Then

you stare at THEIR head, making sure to pan around a bit so that you can get a

side view, and say, “It’s really too bad that they didn’t

have this technology when we were children. Even YOU look like you could

have REALLY used one of these bands…” Give them a wink, and

your work is done! Those women will go home and stare at their head in

the mirror for weeks on end.

From:

Plagiocephaly [mailto:Plagiocephaly ] On

Behalf Of JenandLuli@...

Sent: Friday, April 03, 2009 4:00 PM

Plagiocephaly

Subject: Re: I would like to VENT!

GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am mad

right there with you! How insensitive! Are they 1st time

mommys? Maybe they are jsut not used to " social situations " and

other peoples babies. I know I probably said a few insensitive things

back when I was a new mom... but now having been there I know what to say and

not to say (like asking a heavier mom when she is due! YIKES!)

OK - Look they were lame... everyone will support you in that! Does your

ortho have any pamphlets? Maybe you can grab a few and bring them to the

next meeting and hand then to those offensing moms. Then they can be

educated. Don " t take thier ignorance to heart - see it as an

opportunity for them to learn. :-)

ON an aside - Today at a baby shower we were talking about bumbo seats... a mom

that I kinda butt heads with says very loudly " I was told that babies

should never be in a position they can't get into themselves " and I said -

" No the bumbo is a great alternative for a bouncy seat or swing so they

are not on the back of thier heads " - and she said " Well,

they shouldn't be in those either! " And I said - " Well,

it's like another set of hands to hold your baby when you get busy or have

something to attend to " ... AND SHE SAID - " Oh, I never gave

myself a break. " And it was just the way she said it.

GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!

Jen

Mom to Luli - 3 yrs old

Torticollis, Plagio, Syringomyelia

I would like to VENT!

I took to a Mommy and Me

class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's

good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of

the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort.

A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and

said in a very loud voice, " What is wrong with your baby? "

She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him

and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, " I know what

that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a

helmet and so I did. " I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly

sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet

was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal.

I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay

with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's

a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't

get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT

about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like

that associated with plagio.

I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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Wow - I'm one who can never think of these kinds of responses, but it's great.

We've been lucky - we've had no negative responses at all. We get questions and sometimes stares, but that doesn't bother me. i just do what others do - educate people.

I think that most of us on this board will have an increased awareness for other people who are different in some way. Not everyone has this opportunity to understand this viewpoint.

We ARE lucky that the helmets come off within months and some peoples' disabilities never go away.

, mom to , 19 months

19.5 months in STARband plus CST

land

I would like to VENT!

I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping with his tort.A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and said in a very loud voice, "What is wrong with your baby?"She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, "I know what that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a helmet and so I did." I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal.I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like that associated with plagio.I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

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how awful and rude. People are so rude and insenstive. I hate the stares more

than anything. We haven't had any rude comments. But the stares kill me. Just

know that you are doing the best for your son and that is all that matters!

People are just so stupid. I would have blown my top! Kudos to you for being

calm!

Robin

SW Ohio

>

> I am very sorry to hear this and I probably would have slapped the other mom

or said somethink like 'there is nothing wrong with him. What is wrong with your

manners?' I know there are a lot of moms who would be calm and explain which I

think you did and that is incredibly commendable. I'm sure that other moms were

shocked that she behaved in that manner.

>

> These types of comments make me incredibly angry. What if there was something

wrong like a disability with him? Would that person feel bad? If you think that

you can go back and be able to stand looking at that ogre mom do it but I would

ask for my money back.

>

> The reason I am really defensive is that the first person who I trusted to

tell about plagios and the band laughed and said my son is 'special' and I took

offense. I am further angered that people use these terms so loosely because I

have friends who have childen with disabilities who can't take the helmet off at

the end of the treatment and they have to deal with this all their lives.

>

> Just know that you are among friends!

>

>

> I would like to VENT!

>

>

> I took to a Mommy and Me class and I was a little hesitant because of

his helmet but I think that it's good for him to get socialized. It's a baby

gymnastics class, so it's a lot of the same things we do at PT, and it's helping

with his tort.

>

> A Mom I've never met, screeched out at me and , pointed her finger and

said in a very loud voice, " What is wrong with your baby? "

> She kept going on and on. I felt defensive and I said nothing is wrong with

him and tried to explain about the plagio. Then another mom said, " I know what

that is, my doctor told me to reposition my baby, otherwise he's have to wear a

helmet and so I did. " I felt very judged. I don't know if I am being overly

sensitive but this was too much. I did state that the worst part of the helmet

was people thinking their is something wrong with him when he's normal.

>

> I am used to questions, comments, advice, gawking, staring, etc and I am okay

with all of it. But I felt very upset when that mom pointed at my son like he's

a freakshow and kept treating him like he was mentally retarded. People don't

get that this has nothing to do with their brain. I had previously asked my DPT

about learning disabilities and she said that she is not aware of anything like

that associated with plagio.

>

> I am just mad and I signed up for a 2 month schedule!

>