RE: Re: Daycare -- while in casts/braces?

November 29, 2005

You're right, it's a hard balance to strike when a parent stays home. Imagine

when both parents stay home! LOL! My dh literally works ten feet out my back

door in his own shop. Yes it has advantages but it has draw backs too. And as

for me being the primary care taker who doesn't get a break, there are indeed

times when dh " comes home " in the evening and I just dread having one more body

in the hosue to look after and give attention to when I've had my attention

drained from me all day.

All in all I like our arrangment - but there are days!

s.

Re: Daycare -- while in casts/braces?

My husband ended up staying home with our son, partially due to the

clubfeet, but mostly because he made less than full time daycare

would cost us in San Francisco. We've moved to Sacramento, our son

is doing just fine, but I can't get my husband to start looking for

work. I kind of wish we had gone the daycare route because now it

seems so scary to send him to a center. If we have another child and

that child also has clubfeet, I won't let him stay home. It's great

for the baby to have a parent at home, but the relationship between

the grownups doesn't benefit from it.

> > > >

> > > > Has anyone had their child in daycare while he/she was

still in the

> > > > casts or brace? What was your experience?

> > > >

> > > > I'm still pregnant, but already know that our little man,

Declan,

> > >has

> > > > bilateral clubfeet. Unfortunately I have to go back to

work and

> > >put

> > > > Declan in daycare 8 weeks after he is born. I imagine he

will

> > >still

> > > > be in casts at that time.

> > > >

> > > > We're on waiting lists for a few centers, but have yet to be

> > > > " accepted " anywhere. I also haven't mentioned Declan's

clubfeet to

> > > > any of the prospective centers. Do you think I need to

tell them

> > > > about the casts/brace BEFORE he is accepted? I'm a bit

nervous

> > >that

> > > > they may consider this " special needs " or extra work and

not accept

> > > > him into the program.

> > > >

> > > > I'd appreciate any advice you may have. Also, we're in No.

> > >Virginia

> > > > (McLean/Tysons area) so if you have any suggestions for

specific

> > > > daycare centers that have experience with clubfoot babies

I'd be

> > > > interested in that as well.

> > > >

> > > > Thanks!

> > > > W.

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

December 11, 2005

I agree that the " sell everything " isn't for everyone. The things we would

need to sell would be our house and car, the two things we need the most. I

am fortunate to be able to be home for the first 5 months (FMLA which ends

1/11 :-( ) and will work pt for a few weeks before going back full time. I

don't think of club foot as special needs, just a child with special

clothing needs (no outfits with the feet! ). I brought Logan to visit the

daycare he will be attending. It was so neat to see how much he liked

watching the other children. One little girl (age 13 months) started

playing with the screws at the bottom of his shoes and his laces. Logan

started laughing. I think he thought she was going to take of his shoes.

None of the staff members have ever treated us as the parents of a special

needs child. If I had had to go back to work shortly after his birth, the

only time that I think staying home an extra few days would be good was the

transition from the cast to the shoes.

Re: Re: Daycare -- while in casts/braces?

This " Special Needs " My son has that written in his medical folders and

everyone I have talked to back home about my son would say. " So he is a

special needs child. " To me every child is special no matter what problems

they are facein in life. Just some need more care than others. And that is

how we explain it in our home. Yes Noah was born with some problems that we

have to adjust with, but his needs are then same as any other child. He just

needs alittle more. And for the 4 years of his little life he is the one

that has taught us that he is just a normal child like all the others in

this world and that even though he has to work alittle harder to do things

most other kids take for granted, he is still human full of love and

laughter and has taught us that even though you are different you still give

out the same amount of love!!

Bri

number23 wrote:

You're right, it's a hard balance to strike when a parent stays home.

Imagine when both parents stay home! LOL! My dh literally works ten feet

out my back door in his own shop. Yes it has advantages but it has draw

backs too. And as for me being the primary care taker who doesn't get a

break, there are indeed times when dh " comes home " in the evening and I just

dread having one more body in the hosue to look after and give attention to

when I've had my attention drained from me all day.