Re: robynn....i just read what you sent about the presurgery time and it hit home

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. I can't

imagine how hard that must be. And it's a good thing

that yourecognize that you've been using food as a way

to " self-medicate " ...to numb yourself, to nurture

yourself.

I think what you need to do is to figure out more

constructive ways to deal with those bad and sad

feelings: writing about it, talking about it,

exercising through it...taking a painting class or a

music class so that you can be creative when you feel

blue. There are a lot of very fun and cool things

that you can do in lieu of food...and things that are

not bad for you to boot...but rather, things that will

add positive experiences to your life.

Peel the onion. Why food? Was Mom a great cook, and

did she nurture you with food? Maybe you are trying

to recreate that safe feeling that you had when shedid

these things for you. So, maybe you can think of some

of the other things she did for you...and try to

recreate those things?

Good luck...it isn't easy, but it is so worth the

work!

Robynn

--- damaris wrote:

> yes, i need to always remember that this is the new

> me--meaning the

> new way i feed my body and that it is forever....i

> need more

> counseling on my moms death...it has been six years

> since she has been

> gone and i was 26 yrs old----yeah i was lucky to

> have had a wonderful

> mother for those 26 yrs...but once she left i was

> sooo lost that i

> turned to food...actually i turned to food while she

> was

> dying.....food was my drug of choice...i need to

> change my

> lifestyle....i overeat when i am alone---people at

> work can't see how

> i put on sooo much wt recently....so the way i need

> to eat is forever,

> vitamins, water and exercise.....i need to do this

> for me......i am

> still young to abuse this great tool.....damaris

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