Re: Really Bad Week!!! - very long sorry.

[Guest guest]

I will agree with that you need to require the school to follow

the IEP, and also that this sounds like withdrawal. I will add a few

more comments also.

You indicate your son has only been gfcf for 3 weeks, did you remove

ALL the gluten and casein at the same time? I would recommend you

consider backing off a little, let him have a LITTLE gluten/casein

during his day for a week or so, then pull it out again. He might be

having withdrawals which are very severe, and you can help with this

by a weaning period, rather than complete removal all at once.

For end-of-activity transitions, the teachers need to give him a

5-minute warning. That helps most AS children work the transition so

they do not have a meltdown when the activity ends. Some kids need a

5-minute warning and a 1-minute warning.

You need an FBA and a behavior plan included in your child's IEP. The

school should NOT be calling you to remove your child because of this

behavior. You need to agree to discipline for his behaviors, and also

positive rewards for him to meet goals of no tantrums etc.

I would recommend you not keep your son in his room after school, I

would recommend you give him chores or other physical activity instead

of just sitting in his room. Many AS kids view confinement to their

room as a reward and not a punishment. Plus you say your son benefits

from physical exercise.

> therapist, and instead of being in the self contained

> classroom most of the day and brought down gradually

> to the mainstream, they just threw him in the

> mainstream classroom (with his 1 on 1 aid) and took

> him to self contained room for short breaks - not what

> is in his IEP. When I asked about this they said that

> they wanted him mainstreamed but that if it wasnt

> working they would switch it back.

Of course they want him mainstreamed, it is easier and/or cheaper

for them. But what they WANT is not relevant, unless it is agreed by

you and included in the IEP. Enforce the IEP or agree to change it.

They also said

> that since he did good during the morning opening part

> of class they didnt want him to miss that by having a

> workout in the gym. The administrator commented that

> his summer went so well and he finds it interesting

> that school isnt going so well, and he was also amazed

> that was able to calm himself down so quickly

> once he got in the car - so this must not be a sensory

> issue, just a manipulative one.

I think he does not want to be at the school because the mainstream

class is overwhelming [eg -- not appropriate] for him, so he can calm

himself nicely once he is in your car because he knows he is going

home. This may or may not be manipulative, but if he learns that he

can go home when he loses control, it may migrate into being

manipulative. That is why I recommend the FBA included in the IEP,

and don't bring him home for this behavior.

> meeting scheduled for Monday to discuss my son and

> when I asked the administrator why I wasnt told he

> said it was a case management meeting I didnt need to

> be there. I told him it was my son and I was going to

> be there and he was pissed but told me the time. What

> do I do???

If the school has a meeting about your son and you are not present,

they cannot implement anything at that meeting if it contradicts the

IEP. So if they would have discussed discipline measures [or

placement change, or whatever], and there were already discipline

measures in the IEP, they could not implement a new measure without a

new IEP. This is why I recommend you include the discipline in the

IEP. However, sometimes a meeting will be held and you will not know,

then something will happen and they will say " we discussed this and

this is what we decided to do " , so you can consider that but don't let

them say " it is decided " because you have to agree to it or it is not

" decided " . I hope that made sense.

> scares me to death. Then to top it all off, my 2 year

> old has started to line up shoes. I mean non-stop and

> they have to be perfect and no one can touch them.

Is this an imitation of an activity that s/he has seen brother do?

Otherwise you can look at my diagnostic section to see if your 2yo

exhibits any other behaviors that would indicate further evaluation.

http://home.pacbell.net/cscomp/parentin.htm#diagnostic

And if you are concerned about your 2yo, you should refer him/her for

an evaluation.

[Guest guest]

Everyone has given some great insight on the problem. I was thinking

also, the girls you babysit will likely stimulate his imagination,

play, etc..Take it one day at a time....

Janelle