Re: Re: OT-moderator other group-venting-long

[Guest guest]

Theresa, you worded this so much better than I did on

my reply - thanks!

dee

--- Theresa wrote:

> Dear Pam,

>

> Hell NO you are NOT being too sensitive. WLS, to

> me, is about a

> process, a process of getting healthy. Sometimes,

> that involves

> direct communication about the surgery, the

> experience, the problems,

> the successes. Sometimes, it involves the

> emotional, the ups and

> downs, the psychology of being fat, of getting

> healthy, of dealing

> with plateaus, and sometimes, it just involves

> having something make

> you feel happy, when life is getting you down.

>

> Thank you for sharing your experience, and just IM

> not so HO....i

> think that moderator is a weenie. I like this word,

> and it's the

> only clean one I know, so feel free to substitute,

> relying on the

> fact that I have a truck drivers vocabulary...no

> offense to any truck

> drivers!

>

> Huge hugs,

> Theresa...(the other one!)

>

>

> > I read previously here about the non-DS WLS

> support groups

> moderators

> > monitoring everything pro-DS/non-RNY. I think

> they are on a power

> > kick and monitor everything! Following is an

> " incident " that

> happened

> > to me yesterday, after a really, really, terrible

> day.

> >

> > Someone had written in a response to an exercise

> question,

> saying " So

> > Diane bought me a tread-mill but that was a near

> tragedy. I had it

> in

> > the slowest speed walking along while I watched TV

> in the

> background.

> > Then suddenly, as before, I got so tired I could

> not put one foot

> in

> > front of the other. And the treadmill, without

> mercy, would throw

> me

> > off the back and if I did not fall clear of the

> walking service the

> > belt would try to beat me up and gave me some

> nasty rub burns!

> >

> > So now my hunting dog sleeps on it when she is in

> the house. And of

> > course I do not want to disturb her. So I don't do

> the treadmill

> > thing anymore. I have even been tempted to turn it

> on while she

> > sleeps and watch her get thrown off the back like

> I did. But I

> don't

> > want her to get hurt. I think it is just the devil

> tempting me with

> > evil...He He ! "

> >

> > I had had a rotten day, and when I read this I

> just cracked up.

> I

> > had to tell the guy how he lightened my mood and

> helped brighten my

> > day with this image. So I replied " I don't

> usually find myself

> > laughing alone, especially when reading these

> posts, but I just

> have

> > to say you were hilarious. I am sorry to say I

> laughed when you

> > described you treadmill experiences! I could just

> see this

> > happening. I am really sorry that you got hurt.

> I thought that

> > would be all the laughing, but I was wrong! That

> poor pup of

> yours,

> > if only she knew what you were thinking! I

> could imagine one of

> my

> > sons doing that when they were younger. How old

> did you say you

> > were (his name)? Thanks for the laughs. "

> >

> > I get a response from the moderator saying " Since

> this note seems

> > intended for (his name) alone, could I ask you to

> resend it

> directly

> > to him instead of to the entire list? " At the end

> of a bad day,

> this

> > was just the icing on the cake for me.

> >

> > I replied to the moderator, " Hi (So and so), my

> message was in

> > response to a posting (his name) had made, and

> will probably be

> > echoed by the group. I have seen many messages

> that were actually

> > personal to other people on the group that don't

> seem to cause

> > problems. I am very offended that one of the few

> times I respond

> to

> > something written I am rebuked. I could

> understand if I were

> asking

> > him to dinner, or talking to him about something

> that was unrelated

> > to what had been previously posted, but this was

> only a response to

> a

> > posting about exercising and treadmills! "

> >

> > The moderator replied, " I'm sorry you're

> offended.Although the

> > sentiments expressed in your note to (his name)

> are likely felt by

> > many in the group, your comments were directed

> only to him. You are

> > correct that notes that are personal replies

> appear on OSSG, but as

> a

> > rule those notes also convey information to the

> rest of the group,

> > ask for support, or otherwise advance the group's

> discussion. On my

> > reading, your note didn't do that. (his name) will

> be glad to have

> > it, but I'm not sure what the other 4400 members

> of the group are

> > supposed to make of it.If you care to resubmit it,

> we'll look at it

> > again. But the question for us is how it relates

> to OSSG as a

> group. "

> >

> > I thought these were support groups for

> individuals in a group

> > setting. I guess the fact that I was " supported " ,

> and so responded

> > to let the person know, is not sufficient in their

> setting. I was

> > really upset by this whole scenario.

> >

> > Then some one was looking for a ketchup recipe.

> I replied " I had

> a

> > recipe for ketchup. I will look for it when I get

> home from work

> > tonight if you still would like one. I hope that

> this is of

> interest

> > to enough people in this group not to get rejected

> by the

> moderators

> > like my other response to a story told did. If it

> does get sent

> back

> > to me as being inappropriate, just remove my name

> from the list. "

> > Apparently they rejected it, because I haven't

> received any more

> > postings.

> >

> > I am feeling rejected by a group I joined as a

> support group. I am

> > glad that this DS site is more open minded, and

> hope I haven't

> > offended anyone by posting this, but I felt that I

> really had to

> vent

> > to get it off my chest. Hopefully our moderators

> won't reject

> this,

> > hopefully people who don't have time to read OT

> subjects won't have

> > read it as they were forwarned, and hopefully I

> won't have offended

> > any of the good readers here by posting this. I

> am getting

> paranoid

> > about opening my mouth (actually running my

> fingers.) Please be

>

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[Guest guest]

Theresa, you worded this so much better than I did on

my reply - thanks!

dee

--- Theresa wrote:

> Dear Pam,

>

> Hell NO you are NOT being too sensitive. WLS, to

> me, is about a

> process, a process of getting healthy. Sometimes,

> that involves

> direct communication about the surgery, the

> experience, the problems,

> the successes. Sometimes, it involves the

> emotional, the ups and

> downs, the psychology of being fat, of getting

> healthy, of dealing

> with plateaus, and sometimes, it just involves

> having something make

> you feel happy, when life is getting you down.

>

> Thank you for sharing your experience, and just IM

> not so HO....i

> think that moderator is a weenie. I like this word,

> and it's the

> only clean one I know, so feel free to substitute,

> relying on the

> fact that I have a truck drivers vocabulary...no

> offense to any truck

> drivers!

>

> Huge hugs,

> Theresa...(the other one!)

>

>

> > I read previously here about the non-DS WLS

> support groups

> moderators

> > monitoring everything pro-DS/non-RNY. I think

> they are on a power

> > kick and monitor everything! Following is an

> " incident " that

> happened

> > to me yesterday, after a really, really, terrible

> day.

> >

> > Someone had written in a response to an exercise

> question,

> saying " So

> > Diane bought me a tread-mill but that was a near

> tragedy. I had it

> in

> > the slowest speed walking along while I watched TV

> in the

> background.

> > Then suddenly, as before, I got so tired I could

> not put one foot

> in

> > front of the other. And the treadmill, without

> mercy, would throw

> me

> > off the back and if I did not fall clear of the

> walking service the

> > belt would try to beat me up and gave me some

> nasty rub burns!

> >

> > So now my hunting dog sleeps on it when she is in

> the house. And of

> > course I do not want to disturb her. So I don't do

> the treadmill

> > thing anymore. I have even been tempted to turn it

> on while she

> > sleeps and watch her get thrown off the back like

> I did. But I

> don't

> > want her to get hurt. I think it is just the devil

> tempting me with

> > evil...He He ! "

> >

> > I had had a rotten day, and when I read this I

> just cracked up.

> I

> > had to tell the guy how he lightened my mood and

> helped brighten my

> > day with this image. So I replied " I don't

> usually find myself

> > laughing alone, especially when reading these

> posts, but I just

> have

> > to say you were hilarious. I am sorry to say I

> laughed when you

> > described you treadmill experiences! I could just

> see this

> > happening. I am really sorry that you got hurt.

> I thought that

> > would be all the laughing, but I was wrong! That

> poor pup of

> yours,

> > if only she knew what you were thinking! I

> could imagine one of

> my

> > sons doing that when they were younger. How old

> did you say you

> > were (his name)? Thanks for the laughs. "

> >

> > I get a response from the moderator saying " Since

> this note seems

> > intended for (his name) alone, could I ask you to

> resend it

> directly

> > to him instead of to the entire list? " At the end

> of a bad day,

> this

> > was just the icing on the cake for me.

> >

> > I replied to the moderator, " Hi (So and so), my

> message was in

> > response to a posting (his name) had made, and

> will probably be

> > echoed by the group. I have seen many messages

> that were actually

> > personal to other people on the group that don't

> seem to cause

> > problems. I am very offended that one of the few

> times I respond

> to

> > something written I am rebuked. I could

> understand if I were

> asking

> > him to dinner, or talking to him about something

> that was unrelated

> > to what had been previously posted, but this was

> only a response to

> a

> > posting about exercising and treadmills! "

> >

> > The moderator replied, " I'm sorry you're

> offended.Although the

> > sentiments expressed in your note to (his name)

> are likely felt by

> > many in the group, your comments were directed

> only to him. You are

> > correct that notes that are personal replies

> appear on OSSG, but as

> a

> > rule those notes also convey information to the

> rest of the group,

> > ask for support, or otherwise advance the group's

> discussion. On my

> > reading, your note didn't do that. (his name) will

> be glad to have

> > it, but I'm not sure what the other 4400 members

> of the group are

> > supposed to make of it.If you care to resubmit it,

> we'll look at it

> > again. But the question for us is how it relates

> to OSSG as a

> group. "

> >

> > I thought these were support groups for

> individuals in a group

> > setting. I guess the fact that I was " supported " ,

> and so responded

> > to let the person know, is not sufficient in their

> setting. I was

> > really upset by this whole scenario.

> >

> > Then some one was looking for a ketchup recipe.

> I replied " I had

> a

> > recipe for ketchup. I will look for it when I get

> home from work

> > tonight if you still would like one. I hope that

> this is of

> interest

> > to enough people in this group not to get rejected

> by the

> moderators

> > like my other response to a story told did. If it

> does get sent

> back

> > to me as being inappropriate, just remove my name

> from the list. "

> > Apparently they rejected it, because I haven't

> received any more

> > postings.

> >

> > I am feeling rejected by a group I joined as a

> support group. I am

> > glad that this DS site is more open minded, and

> hope I haven't

> > offended anyone by posting this, but I felt that I

> really had to

> vent

> > to get it off my chest. Hopefully our moderators

> won't reject

> this,

> > hopefully people who don't have time to read OT

> subjects won't have

> > read it as they were forwarned, and hopefully I

> won't have offended

> > any of the good readers here by posting this. I

> am getting

> paranoid

> > about opening my mouth (actually running my

> fingers.) Please be

>

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