Re: Looking for encouragement

May 4, 2004

RaeShel,

I have not been where you are, but I know how I feel now. I too am concerned

that when I get the weight off it will be hard. I think that we get in our

minds that the heavy person is who we are. We feel comfortable in our fat

exterior because we don't get the attention that we might when we are thin. You

mind is a powerful thing and can be overwhelming in your best efforts to get the

weight off. Even though I have not been there I can see that in my future, have

you thought about seeing a therapist. Or asking your surgeon or the

psychiatrist that you saw before you had the surgery to ask advice. I think you

are probably suffering from fear of what your life will hold once you get the

weight off. As much as we hate the weight many of us use it as a shield from

society. That is a hard cycle to break. Good luck and let me know what you

finally find out to help you, because I fear I will react the same way as well.

Dora

Looking for encouragement

Hey guys,

I don't post that often, but today I just need some encouraging

words from those who've BEEN through what I have. My family is

completely supportive but unless you've been through it, it's just

not the same.

I have done awesome with this surgery up until about 3 months or

so ago. I will be one year out on June 6th and I have lost 190lbs. so

far. The last 50lbs has been a bloody battle to drop. I would LOVE to

hit the 200lbs. mark by my anniversary. I have 10 more pounds to lose

and 33 days in which to do it in.

But here is my problem. Sometimes I think I psychologically freak

myself out! I can do great with eating, avoiding bad carbs and sugars

for days on end....but as soon as I step on the scale and see a

significant weight loss...the following 3 or 4 days are just HELL!!!!

I crave carbs, and I eat until I hurt! And it takes days to get

myself back on the stright and narrow. I know the solution would be

easy to just say... " well, stay off the scale dummy! " and I know you

would be right, but I need to get to the bottom of my fears if I am

going to get over them. The last thing I want is for this yo yo thing

to become a habit years out and eventually gain the weight back.

I've worked to hard and to long to let that happen, but I am

terrified that despite my pure intentions...it will inevitably

happen.

Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do about it? Know any

tricks I can use to fool myself? I'm desperate.

Thanks for listening to me rant.

RaeShel

June 6th, 2003

373/183/155 (hopefully after my tummy tuck in Dec.)

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May 8, 2004

My advice for you, my dear, would be to take that scale and throw it away.

Quit making yourself yo-yo! It's not good for you. You want this weight

loss for a good reason, to improve your health, lifestyle and self image.

Right? So work on those things and get rid of the scale. Weigh in with

your dr. when they need you to and just put one foot in front of the other

and work on acheiving your goals... just make them pants size goals not

pound goals. ... Just my advice.

Looking for encouragement

> Hey guys,

>

> I don't post that often, but today I just need some encouraging

> words from those who've BEEN through what I have. My family is

> completely supportive but unless you've been through it, it's just

> not the same.

>

> I have done awesome with this surgery up until about 3 months or

> so ago. I will be one year out on June 6th and I have lost 190lbs. so

> far. The last 50lbs has been a bloody battle to drop. I would LOVE to

> hit the 200lbs. mark by my anniversary. I have 10 more pounds to lose

> and 33 days in which to do it in.

>

> But here is my problem. Sometimes I think I psychologically freak

> myself out! I can do great with eating, avoiding bad carbs and sugars

> for days on end....but as soon as I step on the scale and see a

> significant weight loss...the following 3 or 4 days are just HELL!!!!

> I crave carbs, and I eat until I hurt! And it takes days to get

> myself back on the stright and narrow. I know the solution would be

> easy to just say... " well, stay off the scale dummy! " and I know you

> would be right, but I need to get to the bottom of my fears if I am

> going to get over them. The last thing I want is for this yo yo thing

> to become a habit years out and eventually gain the weight back.

>

> I've worked to hard and to long to let that happen, but I am

> terrified that despite my pure intentions...it will inevitably

> happen.

> Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do about it? Know any

> tricks I can use to fool myself? I'm desperate.

>

> Thanks for listening to me rant.

>

> RaeShel

> June 6th, 2003

> 373/183/155 (hopefully after my tummy tuck in Dec.)

>

May 8, 2004

Raeshel...i am worried about you...it sounds to me like you are falling back

into to my old problem....loving my food more than myself! please try to change

your mind set, to back when you were in control (the first 6mos. after the

surgery) if you dont....i fear you will gain your weight back....if you eat

till your stomach hurts, you are stretching it back out to what its size was

before your surgery...and this makes it impossible to reverse,once you start

stretching it...as far as advice..my scale helps me...i weigh every 3-7

days..when i see no poundage gone or a few lbs gained ....i immediately start

chugging the water and the next day bam! i see a difference....i get lax in my

water consumption and thats when i crave more and eat more and lose less.....so

think water,water,water! my scale is still my friend.my history...47 yrs

old..6mos post op...102 lbs. from size 26 to size 14..i am struggling with

sweets for the first time...so its been a battle for me too....good luck

sweetie...pam