Re: How Do I Get On With My Life?

[Guest guest]

,

I think part of this is very normal. You have lost 100 lbs in

the last year. That is an accomplishment will worth mentioning. It

seems like maybe you need validation or acceptance or just plain bragging

rights. I think part of the answer is finding an appropriate place to do

that. Guess what? This is the bestest, most appropriate, validating,

accepting place to do it and we all like bragging. Some of us even like

to hear others brag. (snicker). Seriously though, maybe this is the

place you need to come atleast until you are in a place where therapy may

help.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

479/335/???

On Sat, 12 Jul 2003 05:41:11 -0000 " "

writes:

> This is my first post here but I have been lurking for about a week

> or so. I feel maybe since most people here are over a year out you

>

> can possibly relate to what I am about to post.

>

> Well let me first start off my introducing myself. My name is

> . I am 28 yrs old, 1 yr post-op from RNY. I have lost 100

>

> lbs and doing great physically.

>

> Ok here is what I need help on:

>

> I feel I need to let the world know that I have lost weight. Seems

> like where ever I am I have to pass some sort of comment of how far

>

> I have come. Today I was in Fashion Bug and I noticed I said out

> loud that I used to shop on THAT side of the store and now I cant

> even shop on THIS side since they don't carry anything smaller then

>

> a size 6.

>

> What the heck is wrong with me? My life shouldn't revolve around my

>

> weight. I feel if I lose the " OMG look at how far I have come "

> feeling that I will fail at my success.

>

> I guess after I move and I am settled in my new home that I need to

>

> look for a therapist to help me with this. To me this is a problem

> that I cant live without thinking of weight issues all the time. I

> NEVER want to go back to what I was. NEVER EVER!!! I fear failing, I

>

> don't want to be a failure. I worked too hard to get where I am to

> fail.

>

> If anyone can relate please do share how you cope with this.

>

> Thanks In Advance!

>

>

> Age: 28

> Lap RNY 7/2/02

> Dr. - Philly PA

> Pre Op BMI - 42.2 (195 lbs)

> Post Op BMI - 19.9 (95 lbs)

> http://www.christineswlsjourney.com

>

>

>

> Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I don't have an answer for you, and you seem to be on the right

track, knowing what you have to do anyway, but I just wanted to say

Welcome!

in NJ

********************

> This is my first post here but I have been lurking for about a week

> or so. I feel maybe since most people here are over a year out you

> can possibly relate to what I am about to post.

>

> Well let me first start off my introducing myself. My name is

> . I am 28 yrs old, 1 yr post-op from RNY. I have lost

100

> lbs and doing great physically.

>

> Ok here is what I need help on:

>

> I feel I need to let the world know that I have lost weight. Seems

> like where ever I am I have to pass some sort of comment of how far

> I have come. Today I was in Fashion Bug and I noticed I said out

> loud that I used to shop on THAT side of the store and now I cant

> even shop on THIS side since they don't carry anything smaller then

> a size 6.

>

> What the heck is wrong with me? My life shouldn't revolve around my

> weight. I feel if I lose the " OMG look at how far I have come "

> feeling that I will fail at my success.

>

> I guess after I move and I am settled in my new home that I need to

> look for a therapist to help me with this. To me this is a problem

> that I cant live without thinking of weight issues all the time. I

> NEVER want to go back to what I was. NEVER EVER!!! I fear failing,

I

> don't want to be a failure. I worked too hard to get where I am to

> fail.

>

> If anyone can relate please do share how you cope with this.

>

> Thanks In Advance!

>

>

> Age: 28

> Lap RNY 7/2/02

> Dr. - Philly PA

> Pre Op BMI - 42.2 (195 lbs)

> Post Op BMI - 19.9 (95 lbs)

> http://www.christineswlsjourney.com

[Guest guest]

First of all, welcome to the group. This is a great bunch of people.

I did go through the same thing you are going through, and I still am to

some extent. I am 3 years post op, and have lost 170 lbs.

I really don't think there is anything wrong with you. It is perfectly

natural to want everyone to know that you have lost a lot of weight. You

have something to be very proud of, and most of us like to get complements

for a job well done.

Also you are only 1 year post op. Give yourself some slack, and some time

to get used to being thin. Sometimes telling other people about it makes it

more real for you. I still look in the mirror whenever I get a chance,

just to remind myself that my body has changed.

My life still revolves around my weight. I don't ever, ever want to go back

to being fat. I think it's perfectly fine to be vigilent about your weight

at all times. I spend a lot of my energy making sure I get the proper

protein, vitamins, water, etc.

You can still have a great life, but in my experience and opinion, you will

always have to spend some time and energy on staying healthy and thin.

Sometimes there is a fine line between obsessing about your weight and being

responsible for your own health.

Barbara Jean

How Do I Get On With My Life?

> This is my first post here but I have been lurking for about a week

> or so. I feel maybe since most people here are over a year out you

> can possibly relate to what I am about to post.

>

> Well let me first start off my introducing myself. My name is

> . I am 28 yrs old, 1 yr post-op from RNY. I have lost 100

> lbs and doing great physically.

>

> Ok here is what I need help on:

>

> I feel I need to let the world know that I have lost weight. Seems

> like where ever I am I have to pass some sort of comment of how far

> I have come. Today I was in Fashion Bug and I noticed I said out

> loud that I used to shop on THAT side of the store and now I cant

> even shop on THIS side since they don't carry anything smaller then

> a size 6.

>

> What the heck is wrong with me? My life shouldn't revolve around my

> weight. I feel if I lose the " OMG look at how far I have come "

> feeling that I will fail at my success.

>

> I guess after I move and I am settled in my new home that I need to

> look for a therapist to help me with this. To me this is a problem

> that I cant live without thinking of weight issues all the time. I

> NEVER want to go back to what I was. NEVER EVER!!! I fear failing, I

> don't want to be a failure. I worked too hard to get where I am to

> fail.

>

> If anyone can relate please do share how you cope with this.

>

> Thanks In Advance!

>

>

> Age: 28

> Lap RNY 7/2/02

> Dr. - Philly PA

> Pre Op BMI - 42.2 (195 lbs)

> Post Op BMI - 19.9 (95 lbs)

> http://www.christineswlsjourney.com

>

>

>

> Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

WOW! You did good, !

Now post some pictures on the site (make an album in the Photos

section) so that the lacivious ones among us can send you a " Woof! "

--Steve

At 5:41 AM +0000 7/12/03, wrote:

>I feel I need to let the world know that I have lost weight. Seems

>like where ever I am I have to pass some sort of comment of how far

>I have come.

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much! I am going to learn how to find a happy medium with

this. I have to remember there is a time and a place for things.

You are right, being thin is so new to me. I also dont want to

forget where I came from and how far I have come.

Glad to hear I am not alone with this.

Thanks again,

> First of all, welcome to the group. This is a great bunch of

people.

>

> I did go through the same thing you are going through, and I still

am to

> some extent. I am 3 years post op, and have lost 170 lbs.

>

> I really don't think there is anything wrong with you. It is

perfectly

> natural to want everyone to know that you have lost a lot of

weight. You

> have something to be very proud of, and most of us like to get

complements

> for a job well done.

>

> Also you are only 1 year post op. Give yourself some slack, and

some time

> to get used to being thin. Sometimes telling other people about it

makes it

> more real for you. I still look in the mirror whenever I get a

chance,

> just to remind myself that my body has changed.

>

> My life still revolves around my weight. I don't ever, ever want

to go back

> to being fat. I think it's perfectly fine to be vigilent about

your weight

> at all times. I spend a lot of my energy making sure I get the

proper

> protein, vitamins, water, etc.

>

> You can still have a great life, but in my experience and opinion,

you will

> always have to spend some time and energy on staying healthy and

thin.

> Sometimes there is a fine line between obsessing about your weight

and being

> responsible for your own health.

>

>

> Barbara Jean

>

>

>

> How Do I Get On With My Life?

>

>

> > This is my first post here but I have been lurking for about a

week

> > or so. I feel maybe since most people here are over a year out

you

> > can possibly relate to what I am about to post.

> >

> > Well let me first start off my introducing myself. My name is

> > . I am 28 yrs old, 1 yr post-op from RNY. I have lost

100

> > lbs and doing great physically.

> >

> > Ok here is what I need help on:

> >

> > I feel I need to let the world know that I have lost weight.

Seems

> > like where ever I am I have to pass some sort of comment of how

far

> > I have come. Today I was in Fashion Bug and I noticed I said out

> > loud that I used to shop on THAT side of the store and now I cant

> > even shop on THIS side since they don't carry anything smaller

then

> > a size 6.

> >

> > What the heck is wrong with me? My life shouldn't revolve around

my

> > weight. I feel if I lose the " OMG look at how far I have come "

> > feeling that I will fail at my success.

> >

> > I guess after I move and I am settled in my new home that I need

to

> > look for a therapist to help me with this. To me this is a

problem

> > that I cant live without thinking of weight issues all the time.

I

> > NEVER want to go back to what I was. NEVER EVER!!! I fear

failing, I

> > don't want to be a failure. I worked too hard to get where I am

to

> > fail.

> >

> > If anyone can relate please do share how you cope with this.

> >

> > Thanks In Advance!

> >

> >

> > Age: 28

> > Lap RNY 7/2/02

> > Dr. - Philly PA

> > Pre Op BMI - 42.2 (195 lbs)

> > Post Op BMI - 19.9 (95 lbs)

> > http://www.christineswlsjourney.com

> >

> >

> >

> > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> >

> > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thanks! Ok, I made an album and added my pre-op and 1 yr post-op

picture. You can find me in 's Pictures.

> >I feel I need to let the world know that I have lost weight. Seems

> >like where ever I am I have to pass some sort of comment of how

far

> >I have come.

[Guest guest]

WOOF! Woof, woof, woof!!! --Steve

At 1:34 AM +0000 7/14/03, wrote:

>Thanks! Ok, I made an album and added my pre-op and 1 yr post-op

>picture. You can find me in 's Pictures.

>

>

>

>

>> WOW! You did good, !

>>

>> Now post some pictures on the site (make an album in the Photos

>> section) so that the lacivious ones among us can send you a " Woof! "

>>

> > --Steve

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/13/2003 7:03:47 PM Eastern Standard Time,

bjeangrove11@... writes:

> You can still have a great life, but in my experience and opinion, you will

> always have to spend some time and energy on staying healthy and thin.

> Sometimes there is a fine line between obsessing about your weight and being

> responsible for your own health.

>

>

Very well said. Also, I like to spread the word but I do it quietly when the

subject comes only. There are too many people saying negatives about this

surgery and I want the positive to show.