Re: Need help with destuctive behaivor

[Guest guest]

Just some suggestions:

Have you taken all the phenols out of his diet?

Have you taken all the artificial colorings out of his diet?

If someone has aggressive behavior you NEVER hit them, it gives them

the signal that aggression is okay. Sit your child down and talk to them.

Have you started a token system chart? Get a large index card put

five velcro pieces on it, make up stickers or pictures to have velcro on the

back of them. Make sure it is something that the child likes, ex. thomas the

tank engine. Then in the upper left corner put down goal; ex. no throwing,

then in upper right corner put what he/she is working towards and put a

picture of that item. It can be a lollipop, ice cream or even a toy.

Believe it or not it works. This takes some time it will not get better over

night.

I am not criticizing you I am trying to point out some mistakes that I

and others have made along this wild road. There are more curves in our

lives then straight paths.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

At 06:51 PM 8/3/01 +0000, you wrote:

>My son Nicky has been GF/CF for several months and has improved

>drastically. He went from virtually never making eye contact, no

>words, and very selective hearing to always responding to his name and

>saying ~ 50 single words.

That's great.

> We are very thankful for the improvement but are at wits end to stop his

> destructive tendencies.

Our son does stuff like that too and it's gotten much better. His ABA

pre-school stopped him from peeing on their floors by making him clean not

only the bathroom in his class but in several others too. Of course the

teacher did this hand over hand with him. And they told us what they wanted

to do first and got our consent.

Judging from our experiences at home, and each child is different... I

think one of the problems is in choosing a consequence wisely. For

instance, my son actually likes using the mop, and we have two other kids

so it's easy for him to take advantage of two parents' inability to be in

three places at once.

I think you should find something immediate that he really wants and likes

and take it away. Give a warning first. Like pick a time when your son is

calm and will look at you and listen to what you're saying. Sit down with

him and explain that the next time he breaks something you will not

__________ (let him watch his favorite video, ride his bike, get his

favorite dessert etc...).

Sometimes we take our son to his room, but that can backfire as well since

he'll get the undivided attention of either me or my wife. I hope this

helps, I think our kids have so much catching up to do and I've found my

attitude towards my son has to change as quickly as his abilities which

since the diet have just been booming.

One more thing. I, and I believe others too have found after the first few

months that things change; in a variety of ways. It might be time to start

explaining about the reason for the diet to your son. And really watch for

cheating, and finally to realize that after some months, much smaller

amounts of gluten and casein may have dramatic affects on your son's behavior.

All the best,

Marty

Gluten & Casein Free Recipes and Resources

Contributed by Families on the GF/CF Diet

http://www.newdiets.com

[Guest guest]

> Just some suggestions:

> Have you taken all the phenols out of his diet?

> Have you taken all the artificial colorings out of his diet?

Yes, highly phenolic foods do cause aggression in some children. Here

is more information on that, if you are interested.

http://home.pacbell.net/cscomp/phenol.htm

[Guest guest]

I've found that my kids' destructive behaviors and/or whining depends a

lot on what supplements they're getting. Right now, I'm only giving them

Probio Gold, and reduced glutathione. Every time I try a new vitamin

supplement, no matter how highly recommended, it causes all kinds of

weird behaviors from stimming to tantrums to hyperactivity and

destructiveness. While I don't particularly see the behaviors in my sons

that you are seeing in yours, it could be related to whatever else you

might be giving him.

Hope this helps.

( & Malachi's mom)

[Guest guest]

Folks,

Thanks for all of the useful insight. I am looking into the phenols.

Nick does like Bananas and eats friutty pebbles regularly. Maybe this

is the problem ?

Keep the info coming it is great!!!

Thanks,

Greg Fanelli

> > Just some suggestions:

> > Have you taken all the phenols out of his diet?

> > Have you taken all the artificial colorings out of his

diet?

>

>

> Yes, highly phenolic foods do cause aggression in some children.

Here

> is more information on that, if you are interested.

>

> http://home.pacbell.net/cscomp/phenol.htm

[Guest guest]

It is my understanding that fruitty pebbles are GFCF. I beleive that

they are on the list of acceptable foods. Anyone else??

Thanks,

Greg

> *

> Greg- is Nick on a GFCF diet? Cause fruity pebbles aren't gf are

they?

> (LJs mom)*

> On Sat, 04 Aug 2001 20:00:22 -0000 gregory.fanelli@p... writes:

> . I am looking into the phenols.

> > Nick does like Bananas and eats friutty pebbles regularly. Maybe

> > this

> > is the problem ?

> > Greg Fanelli

> >

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