Guest guest Posted September 10, 2001 Report Share Posted September 10, 2001 >I don't want to start a debate as I am pretty new to this list and >don't know if there have been past issues with this topic. >I am just curious about WHY those of you who homeschool choose to do >so. I worked 10 years in the public school system, and had a child who loved learning (was reading by 3yrs., and loved all learning) in the system. I saw some very bad teachers do some very permanent damage to children's self esteem and love of learning, including my child's. I'm not saying that there are not some very good teachers, I knew those as well. I just decided I didn't want to gamble. > Have you been happy? Not every day! But who is? Certainly not teachers, certainly not parents. But on the whole, yes! With my decision to homeschool- yes. >Do you worry about decreased socialization? No. I don't see how not being around 20 kids their own age is a natural tool of socialization. I don't see how 20 kindergartners can teach other kindergartners socialization when they are all learning these skills. It seems like blind leading blind. I also believe all we accomplish by leaving kids to teach each other how to socialize is to allow a pecking order to exist, and peer pressure to form. I do believe that children should be taken around their peers for play time. Just not for half of their waking hours. Our kids learn from those who have something to teach, older kids, adults of all ages. >If you homeschool are your kids more severe on the ASD? No, mine are not severe. It takes more supervision to work with them, and more time, but they are able to learn equivalent to NT kids. > Did you have >any special training to learn how to help your ASD child? No, just the training that comes with observance and creativity. For example I taught my 3 year old to speak. He had never made any other sound than a grunt, so I had to start with phonetic sounds. It took a year for him to be able to say words, and sentences, but now you can't even hear the hesitation while he's forming these words. I realize that my opinions on socialization may cause some hurt feelings. I'm not, in any way, saying that others are doing wrong by putting their kids in school. I know that we are all doing what we know or at least pray to be best for our kids. And I have no doubt that everyone is watching closely to see that their kids are getting the best of what is offered to them. A good, or great teacher can do absolute wonders for a kid, and can guide children in kindness and good socialization skills. Being an involved parent can insure your child is not damaged, and being a squeaky wheel helps. Lolita Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2001 Report Share Posted September 10, 2001 Hi Janelle, Alyssa is only 4.5, but I already know that I plan to homeschool her. These are my reasons... I have never been to the school special ed class where the kids were doing anything but sitting at there desks with their heads down like nap time or something. No matter what time of the school day it was. I figure if she's just going to sit there then she doesn't need to be there. Also, my school system is not supportive to say the least. I truly feel as though I have lost out on two years of good therapy time by listening to those goofy people and made no progress with her in doing so. So I believe that Mommy's know best! I know that no one cares about how she progresses the way that I do. And that no one will put for the effort that I know that I will. I don't work and she is my only child so I pretty much live my life for her anyway. As for the socialization questions. I don't have that problem b/c of my 25 neices and nephews that I can always round up. But you could take " field " trips to daycares and stay with him/her. Make playdates with other kids in the community and so forth. This is what I plan to do. I don't know if this helps and this is just from my own experience with my school system. April Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2001 Report Share Posted September 12, 2001 April Trust your instincts - Mommy does know best! I didn't and my son was physically and emotionally abused by a one on one aide for a year before she was removed. Although I suspected something I had no proof and finally the school psycholigist did some spying to solidify evidence. Tina taught my son fear and hate. Here we are 2 years later and he is talking and in most areas at grade level. He remembers Tina and will remind me now and then that he never wants to go back to school w/Tina. The fact is that Americas schools do not understand the needs of our children and they consider our children to be a stress and inconvinence. Aides and teachers are not educated about why our children are the way they are, nor how to communicate w/them or meet their needs, academic, social, emotional or physical, so how can we trust them w/our precious children. Miriam, Homeschool Mom and Loving It! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2001 Report Share Posted September 12, 2001 * Miriam- The following things you wrote that I took from your posts is so very UNTRUE. Maybe in the area where you live, and the schools your children have attended, but here on Long Island New York my son attends the BEST program. The teachers are highly trained and also the aides that work with the children. They totally have worked in the best interest of my son. I know what I am talking about too as I am trained in ABA, worked in other district briefly as a 1 on 1 aide, and have taken MANY ABA instruction courses. Yes, my constant efforts with my son and this GFCF diet have worked wonders with my son, but also it is the EXCELLENT schooling that he is receiving. He is shown love and caring at school. He is treated as an individual with individual needs. My son is precious to me too, as mentioned in your post, and because I love LJ so much I have gotton him the BEST education he can be receiving right now. on Long Island New York (LJs mom) * On Wed, 12 Sep 2001 14:54:05 EDT K6@... writes: The > fact is that Americas schools do not understand the needs of our > children and > they consider our children to be a stress and inconvinence. Aides > and > teachers are not educated about why our children are the way they > are, nor > how to communicate w/them or meet their needs, academic, social, > emotional or > physical, so how can we trust them w/our precious children. > Miriam, > Homeschool Mom and Loving It! * * \l/ * * * ( @ @ ) * * ---------o00--( _____ ) --00o--------- * * HAVE A GREAT DAY !!!!!!!!!!!! ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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