Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 It was bad with in casts for 6 months, living in a small city, lots of strangers to stare at us and make remarks. But with Everett, the first 3 weeks of casts were in Iowa - Home of the Clubfoot King - so no one said a word, and back at our home town for two weeks everyone knew us and knew the condition so there were no rude remarks. Some times with though I would deliberately cover his legs just to avoid the non-sense while we were out. s. Re: Re: Isabella's 1st outing In a message dated 11/17/2005 8:32:46 AM Pacific Standard Time, novemberfable@... writes: > If I were to see > someone staring too long or judge too quickly, I wouldn't be able to > keep my mouth shut. Actually I see her doing this also. DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 8:32:46 AM Pacific Standard Time, novemberfable@... writes: > If I were to see > someone staring too long or judge too quickly, I wouldn't be able to > keep my mouth shut. Actually I see her doing this also. DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 Deedee you must have a pretty good relationship with your daughter in law to be able to give her so much advice and she still speaks to you! LOL! You know the old Mother In Law jokes about mil's knowing everything and telling their daughters in law how to live their lives.... Does she ever come over to your house and get on the board here herself? s. Re: Isabella's 1st outing In a message dated 11/17/2005 10:43:36 AM Pacific Standard Time, joybelle15@... writes: > > Yes, I do sometimes. Grant has spina bifida, and he has a shunt. Between > the > visible scars and lump (shunt) on his head, I use to deal with that with my twin sons. One has spina bifida & one did not. When they were newborn, Trevor had his head shaved for the shunt surgery, and everyone would comment about one twin having so much hair, and the other one no hair (he had it, it just got shaved ), and then they would see the shunt, and just be shocked. I use to have a hard time with that. Sometimes I worry I am not as sensitive to my dil, because I have been thought it all in the past, and maybe I forget it is all brand new for her. I just love her so much, and want to be there for her. I know it was so painful when my son was born, but that was 21 years ago ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 I can see why she would say that. With all the crazy things that take place nowadays, you almost have to prove your innocence even though you've done nothing wrong. It's too bad. If I were to see someone staring too long or judge too quickly, I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. > > My dil took her shopping with her yesterday, and then came over to visit a > little later. She made the comment she was glad the outfit she had on her had > feet in them, so no one would think she had hurt her someway and that was the > reason she had casts on her little feet. Did any of you feel that way with your > newborns in casts ? > > DeeDee > California > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 DeeDee, I never really worried about that, but then I just figured if someone was ignorant enough to think that and actually say something I would just come up with some smart a** answer. I know it does happen, I think there are other parents who have had to deal with people making rude comments. I hope your DIL doesn't let that worry her too much, she should try to just enjoy her time w/ Isabella and not fret over what other people might think. > > My dil took her shopping with her yesterday, and then came over to visit a > little later. She made the comment she was glad the outfit she had on her had > feet in them, so no one would think she had hurt her someway and that was the > reason she had casts on her little feet. Did any of you feel that way with your > newborns in casts ? > > DeeDee > California > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 I felt the same way, and actually had a much more difficult time with the shoes at first. But now, when people stare, I just say, his name is Aleksander and he's x months old. Usually they'll ask about his feet then, and I explain what the shoes are for. Otherwise, I just smile at them to let them know I saw them staring, and move on. It does get easier, and by the time you get used to it, they no longer have to wear the shoes as long, and you are rarely in public with them on. > > My dil took her shopping with her yesterday, and then came over to visit a > little later. She made the comment she was glad the outfit she had on her had > feet in them, so no one would think she had hurt her someway and that was the > reason she had casts on her little feet. Did any of you feel that way with your > newborns in casts ? > > DeeDee > California > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 LOLOLOLOLOL.. I thought I was the only one.. -------------- Original message -------------- I imagine once she gets further along in the treatment of Isabella, > she'll be proud to show off her baby's little feet and casts. > > Joy Ain't that the truth??? I turned into the " Clubfoot Bore " :-) People were lucky if they asked about Ava's treatment or feet and escaped in only 15 minutes! Usually you'd get the whole history of CF, treatment options, lectures about the ridiculousness of unnecessary surgery and the greatness of Dr. Ponseti, detailed explanations of castings/tenotomy up to that point, expected prognosis, and brace wear explanations. It's a wonder I didn't draw up charts & diagrams!!! hehehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 10:43:36 AM Pacific Standard Time, joybelle15@... writes: > > Yes, I do sometimes. Grant has spina bifida, and he has a shunt. Between > the > visible scars and lump (shunt) on his head, I use to deal with that with my twin sons. One has spina bifida & one did not. When they were newborn, Trevor had his head shaved for the shunt surgery, and everyone would comment about one twin having so much hair, and the other one no hair (he had it, it just got shaved ), and then they would see the shunt, and just be shocked. I use to have a hard time with that. Sometimes I worry I am not as sensitive to my dil, because I have been thought it all in the past, and maybe I forget it is all brand new for her. I just love her so much, and want to be there for her. I know it was so painful when my son was born, but that was 21 years ago ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 10:47:16 AM Pacific Standard Time, samomma@... writes: > I spoke > to her mgr & lets just say she won't make any more comments like > that. Good for you ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 10:43:36 AM Pacific Standard Time, joybelle15@... writes: > I imagine once she gets further along in the treatment of Isabella, > she'll be proud to show off her baby's little feet and casts. I certainly hope so. DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 11:30:51 AM Pacific Standard Time, redskline123@... writes: > Tell your daughter to start learning to throw some big > terms around like " talipes " and " equinovarus " ...that'll not only shut > people up but make them sooo impressed by this wonderful educated > mommy! I love it ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 12:27:31 PM Pacific Standard Time, leenernd@... writes: > Kathleen, why are davids legs so heavy and so hard?!? " LOL ! Love it ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 sounds just like me too, lol. I have a feeling that a lot of us fit into this category. > > LOLOLOLOLOL.. I thought I was the only one.. > > > > -------------- Original message -------------- > I imagine once she gets further along in the treatment of Isabella, > > she'll be proud to show off her baby's little feet and casts. > > > > Joy > > > Ain't that the truth??? I turned into the " Clubfoot Bore " :-) People > were lucky if they asked about Ava's treatment or feet and escaped in > only 15 minutes! Usually you'd get the whole history of CF, treatment > options, lectures about the ridiculousness of unnecessary surgery and > the greatness of Dr. Ponseti, detailed explanations of > castings/tenotomy up to that point, expected prognosis, and brace wear > explanations. It's a wonder I didn't draw up charts & diagrams!!! hehehe > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 3:51:47 PM Pacific Standard Time, m_kitaki@... writes: > > Send your DIL hugs from us! Thank you, I will do that ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 3:51:47 PM Pacific Standard Time, m_kitaki@... writes: > If I broke one or both of my child's legs, > would I still be in possesion of that child?? HECK NO!! CPS would > take them quickier than I could say boo! > Well not always. My granddaughter's birthmom broke her little arm when she was 10 mos old. She then did not seek medical treatment for 3 days, documented by her daycare provider. My son contacted CPS, and they did nothing. So we had our attorney intervene, and he got temp full custody. Once she was medically cleared, her mom was given back 50% of custody. Finally her mother walked away, and has never looked back THANK GOD ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 Deedee- My favorite thing to do was to put in a onepiece footed outfit, then hand him off to somebody to hold. It was so much fun to me to see the reaction people had when they felt the casts!! Most were concerned that something worse was wrong with him-once i explained the situation and the treatment-I felt like I was doing a service by spreading the word about Ponseti. My favorite was " uh Kathleen, why are davids legs so heavy and so hard?!? " After a while you forget the stares or questions and you often forget why people may be staring!! hope this helps, kathleen > > My dil took her shopping with her yesterday, and then came over to visit a > little later. She made the comment she was glad the outfit she had on her had > feet in them, so no one would think she had hurt her someway and that was the > reason she had casts on her little feet. Did any of you feel that way with your > newborns in casts ? > > DeeDee > California > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 You can add me to this list, too! (Glad I am not the only one!) > > > > LOLOLOLOLOL.. I thought I was the only one.. > > > > > > > > -------------- Original message -------------- > > I imagine once she gets further along in the treatment of Isabella, > > > she'll be proud to show off her baby's little feet and casts. > > > > > > Joy > > > > > > Ain't that the truth??? I turned into the " Clubfoot Bore " :-) People > > were lucky if they asked about Ava's treatment or feet and escaped in > > only 15 minutes! Usually you'd get the whole history of CF, treatment > > options, lectures about the ridiculousness of unnecessary surgery and > > the greatness of Dr. Ponseti, detailed explanations of > > castings/tenotomy up to that point, expected prognosis, and brace wear > > explanations. It's a wonder I didn't draw up charts & diagrams!!! hehehe > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 5:25:07 PM Pacific Standard Time, m_kitaki@... writes: > > How disgusting! It is so fortunate that she finally left! It sure was. As bad as I hate that woman, I am thankful she left this baby girl. She would have been so messed up had that woman stayed around. DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 In a message dated 11/17/2005 6:11:50 PM Pacific Standard Time, number23@... writes: > Does she ever come over to your house and get on the board here herself? No, she isn't really into the internet. I always share a lot of info from her with her. Her & I have always got along very well ! She is more like a daughter, than a dil. I have not only been blessed with wonderful children & grandchildren, but also a wonderful daughter in law ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 It is funny, how we become paranoid about this, and how some people actually can think this! If I broke one or both of my child's legs, would I still be in possesion of that child?? HECK NO!! CPS would take them quickier than I could say boo! Alot of people on here have gone thru this, and alot have come up with some really great catty replies for both the casts and the brace when ignorant people make stupid comments. Now that Kai is older, when he is in a casting session, we are CONSTANTLY hearing " Oh, poor little guy! How did he break his foot? " *sigh* Then we have to explain that it ISNT broken. Honestly, I found it easy to put footed sleepers over the casts, and if it was visible, I found that most people assumed it was either a birth injury or defect of some sort. Send your DIL hugs from us! We have all been there and know how tough it can be! Angel > > My dil took her shopping with her yesterday, and then came over to visit a > little later. She made the comment she was glad the outfit she had on her had > feet in them, so no one would think she had hurt her someway and that was the > reason she had casts on her little feet. Did any of you feel that way with your > newborns in casts ? > > DeeDee > California > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 I did feel this way because of the inflection in people's voices when they asked, " What did she do? " . Fortunately, it was cold outside when we were going through most of the casting so her legs were covered. I definitely found it worse when she had casts on again as a newborn. SHe had them on again when she was around 12 months and people we encountered were not quite as accusatory then. I did find however that when I explained that she had a birth defect, they tended to get pretty apologetic in tone then. Jenni angelmommy23 wrote: It is funny, how we become paranoid about this, and how some people actually can think this! If I broke one or both of my child's legs, would I still be in possesion of that child?? HECK NO!! CPS would take them quickier than I could say boo! Alot of people on here have gone thru this, and alot have come up with some really great catty replies for both the casts and the brace when ignorant people make stupid comments. Now that Kai is older, when he is in a casting session, we are CONSTANTLY hearing " Oh, poor little guy! How did he break his foot? " *sigh* Then we have to explain that it ISNT broken. Honestly, I found it easy to put footed sleepers over the casts, and if it was visible, I found that most people assumed it was either a birth injury or defect of some sort. Send your DIL hugs from us! We have all been there and know how tough it can be! Angel > > My dil took her shopping with her yesterday, and then came over to visit a > little later. She made the comment she was glad the outfit she had on her had > feet in them, so no one would think she had hurt her someway and that was the > reason she had casts on her little feet. Did any of you feel that way with your > newborns in casts ? > > DeeDee > California > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 How disgusting! It is so fortunate that she finally left! When I was young my sister's father had twin foster daughters, one whose father has broke her leg so badly that it would never grow correctly and was permanently several inches shorter than the other. It is horrific what some people will do .... Angel Re: Re: Isabella's 1st outing In a message dated 11/17/2005 3:51:47 PM Pacific Standard Time, m_kitaki@... writes: > If I broke one or both of my child's legs, > would I still be in possesion of that child?? HECK NO!! CPS would > take them quickier than I could say boo! > Well not always. My granddaughter's birthmom broke her little arm when she was 10 mos old. She then did not seek medical treatment for 3 days, documented by her daycare provider. My son contacted CPS, and they did nothing. So we had our attorney intervene, and he got temp full custody. Once she was medically cleared, her mom was given back 50% of custody. Finally her mother walked away, and has never looked back THANK GOD ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2005 Report Share Posted November 18, 2005 In a message dated 11/18/2005 10:25:27 AM Pacific Standard Time, jngrush@... writes: > > Yeah, we just usually told them Tenny broke his leg skiing. lol ! DeeDee California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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