Re: Husband nervous about tenotomy

[Guest guest]

My husband is SO not a rock when it comes to that stuff (or his other tendency

is to trivialize the situation). As scared as I was to be there for the

tenotomy, I didn't want my husband there with me because I knew I'd be worried

about how he was reacting and I needed to concentrate on Hayden. And it was SO

fast that it was over before I knew it. That's why I don't understand when

some people are saying their doctors are putting their children under general

for the procedure because I would be ten times worried about that.

If I need extra moral support, I call my mom - she had three sons in 3 and a

half years and between the three of them they have broken or had stitched every

part of a human body. She's seen it all, so I feel confident having her with

me! One of my brothers had his face beaten in a couple of years ago and had to

have plastic sugery to repair several breaks (jaw, eye socket and cheek bone).

I thought if she could watch her son go through that and not lose it, then she

is the epitome of ROCK!

number23 wrote: My then-5 yr old was with us,

so I stayed in the hall with him, but my husband did go in with Everett for the

tenotomy. If I was alone, I would have done it instead if necessary.

Dh was quite facinated by it all and had this great conversation with the

doctor's during the procedure that almost made me jealous I wasn't in there to

hear the actual conversation! lol...

It could go either way - if your husband really isn't comfortable with the

idea, well...men aren't always the rock we want them to be...but if it's

anything like Everett's, then it's so fast and minor it's little more than

another casting. They brought him right out to me in the hall way and he was

crying but soon calmed down and that was the end of it.

Lucas' life is going to be full of thse awful things - getting a tooth

pulled, getting stitches...and as parents I think we ought to be there with

them. A few months ago I had to help hold down for stitches and wow, he

screamed so hard my ear hurt the next day - but it had to be done, kwim?

Dr. Ponseti's clinic will not insist he go in though.

s.

Husband nervous about tenotomy

Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The one he

had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc said it

was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so on.

So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

(without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure the

parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in there

to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there, he

said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him he

needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I want

to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first time

he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any advice?

Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they took

molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on the

phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

Jenn

[Guest guest]

Dr. Pirani gave me the choice of leaving the room for the tenotomy, but I

declined because I knew if I had to hear him crying that hard outside of the

room I would have been more freaked out. Tell your hubby it's a SUPER fast

procedure no matter what.

volng8r1 wrote: Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is

scheduled for the 18th. The one he

had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc said it

was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so on.

So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

(without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure the

parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in there

to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there, he

said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him he

needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I want

to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first time

he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any advice?

Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they took

molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on the

phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

Jenn

[Guest guest]

Hi Jenn,

Your husband could always look somewhere else while

the cut is actually being done I guess...

I watched it when my son had it done and I expected it

to look much worse than it did. They didn't really

want me to stay by the way but I really wanted to (I

didn't want my son to feel abandoned or so). I

thought they were probably worried that I might faint,

so I told them that I never faint and that if I did

feel queezy I would simply sit down on the floor and

they could ignore me. (The baby was on the bed in

case you're wondering.) That seemed to have done the

trick and they let me stay. I don't know what it's

like in Iowa though, maybe they want the parents to

stay anyway?

All the best,

with (3y)

and Alister (3y, RCF, Ponseti method, UK)

--- volng8r1 wrote:

> Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the

> 18th. The one he

> had before (here) was done under anesthesia because

> the doc said it

> was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the

> baby....and so on.

>

> So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City

> with Lucas

> (without me ) and he's worried about the

> tenotomy. Said he

> wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was

> pretty sure the

> parents were there too, but I'd double check. So,

> were you in there

> to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to

> be there, he

> said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I

> told him he

> needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard,

> sometimes I want

> to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is

> the first time

> he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been

> the bad guy

> putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc....

> He said he

> didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting

> him. Any advice?

>

> Some good news- we're going to the s!

> Apparently they took

> molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts

> and my

> husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

>

> Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said

> hi to me on the

> phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see

> him.

>

> Jenn

>

>

>

>

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Oddly enough, my husband is horrible when it comes to stuff like this

too. He's had two open heart surgeries and a cyst removed from a

very delicate area (below the belt) and can't handle watching

anything medical on TV. I love that stuff, even though I get woozy

at the sight of my own blood or needles that are intended for me.

But if it is for someone else, I can detach and handle it quite

well. Had I been given the option, I would have even wathched

's second heart surgery. I think it is absolutely facinating

that he's had someone touch his heart twice in his lifetime. Amazing

stuff - medicine!

Despite 's inability to handle watching medical procedures, he

was there for the tenotomy, and had no problems. He was anxious for

sure...more than I was. But I suppose he's not used to being on that

end of things....he's always the one having stuff done to him...not

watching someone he loves having things done! He didn't pass out,

didn't freak out, and actually did better than I expected. It is

extremely quick, there is very little blood and it really isn't that

much different than a casting procedure. I think the worst part was

waiting for the numbing agent to take effect....you are anticipating

something horrible, and lots of screaming. Then it actually happens,

and it is over before you know it.

We too had the option of not being in the room for the procedure, but

we both wanted to be there for Aleksander. I also believe we will

have to deal with far worse as he gets older and falls and possibly

breaks things. Life's full of bumps, bruises and hard times. Might

as well get used to it early on!

My then-5 yr old was with

us, so I stayed in the hall with him, but my husband did go in with

Everett for the tenotomy. If I was alone, I would have done it

instead if necessary.

>

> Dh was quite facinated by it all and had this great conversation

with the doctor's during the procedure that almost made me jealous I

wasn't in there to hear the actual conversation! lol...

>

> It could go either way - if your husband really isn't comfortable

with the idea, well...men aren't always the rock we want them to

be...but if it's anything like Everett's, then it's so fast and

minor it's little more than another casting. They brought him

right out to me in the hall way and he was crying but soon calmed

down and that was the end of it.

>

> Lucas' life is going to be full of thse awful things - getting a

tooth pulled, getting stitches...and as parents I think we ought to

be there with them. A few months ago I had to help hold

down for stitches and wow, he screamed so hard my ear hurt the next

day - but it had to be done, kwim?

>

> Dr. Ponseti's clinic will not insist he go in though.

> s.

> Husband nervous about tenotomy

>

>

> Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The

one he

> had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc

said it

> was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so

on.

>

> So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

> (without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

> wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure

the

> parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in

there

> to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there,

he

> said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him

he

> needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I

want

> to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first

time

> he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

> putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

> didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any

advice?

>

> Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they

took

> molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

> husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

>

> Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on

the

> phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

>

> Jenn

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You know my DH gets quite queasy at the site of blood and when it

comes to these types of things he always says he doesn't know if he

can do it, but he always does it for the sake of me or the kids. He

really thought he would have a hard time with the whole childbirth

thing but was awesome through both deliveries. He kind of gets a

little green afterwards if he thinks about it too much, like when

Jenna had her eye surgery, he had to lay down in the recovery room

with her, I think it is mostly just mental, thinking about what could

happen to your little baby etc. Although I have to say he watched

with great interest when we got to see the tenotomy during the

symposium in Iowa and it didn't phase him at all.

I would tell him to just try his best to be there but if he should get

to feeling like he can't do it, tell someone right away because they

probably don't want to have to deal with a parent passing out during

the procedure, lol!

>

> My then-5 yr old was with us, so I stayed in the hall with him, but

my husband did go in with Everett for the tenotomy. If I was alone, I

would have done it instead if necessary.

>

> Dh was quite facinated by it all and had this great conversation

with the doctor's during the procedure that almost made me jealous I

wasn't in there to hear the actual conversation! lol...

>

> It could go either way - if your husband really isn't comfortable

with the idea, well...men aren't always the rock we want them to

be...but if it's anything like Everett's, then it's so fast and minor

it's little more than another casting. They brought him right out to

me in the hall way and he was crying but soon calmed down and that was

the end of it.

>

> Lucas' life is going to be full of thse awful things - getting a

tooth pulled, getting stitches...and as parents I think we ought to be

there with them. A few months ago I had to help hold down for

stitches and wow, he screamed so hard my ear hurt the next day - but

it had to be done, kwim?

>

> Dr. Ponseti's clinic will not insist he go in though.

> s.

> Husband nervous about tenotomy

>

>

> Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The one he

> had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc said it

> was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and so on.

>

> So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

> (without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said he

> wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure the

> parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in there

> to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there, he

> said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him he

> needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I want

> to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first time

> he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad guy

> putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

> didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any advice?

>

> Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they took

> molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

> husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

>

> Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on the

> phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

>

> Jenn

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much everyone! I will let him know how fast it is. I guess

he watched a video that was in the RMH about Dr. Ponseti - Dr. P was

commentating it... anyway he saw a tenotomy being done on the video

and saw what they used to do it with. Said it looked like the saw

that came in our pumpkin carving kit. So...I think it freaked him

out.

One thing I learned- didn't know they numbed the area! That's good

to know.

Thanks again for sharing your experiences!

Jenn

> >

> > My then-5 yr old was with us, so I stayed in the hall with him,

but

> my husband did go in with Everett for the tenotomy. If I was

alone, I

> would have done it instead if necessary.

> >

> > Dh was quite facinated by it all and had this great conversation

> with the doctor's during the procedure that almost made me jealous

I

> wasn't in there to hear the actual conversation! lol...

> >

> > It could go either way - if your husband really isn't

comfortable

> with the idea, well...men aren't always the rock we want them to

> be...but if it's anything like Everett's, then it's so fast and

minor

> it's little more than another casting. They brought him right

out to

> me in the hall way and he was crying but soon calmed down and that

was

> the end of it.

> >

> > Lucas' life is going to be full of thse awful things - getting a

> tooth pulled, getting stitches...and as parents I think we ought

to be

> there with them. A few months ago I had to help hold down

for

> stitches and wow, he screamed so hard my ear hurt the next day -

but

> it had to be done, kwim?

> >

> > Dr. Ponseti's clinic will not insist he go in though.

> > s.

> > Husband nervous about tenotomy

> >

> >

> > Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The

one he

> > had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc

said it

> > was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and

so on.

> >

> > So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

> > (without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said

he

> > wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure

the

> > parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in

there

> > to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there,

he

> > said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him

he

> > needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I

want

> > to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first

time

> > he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad

guy

> > putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

> > didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any

advice?

> >

> > Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they

took

> > molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

> > husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

> >

> > Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on

the

> > phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

> >

> > Jenn

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Yup, dh said it was a teeny tiny scapel, almost a needle.

s.

Husband nervous about tenotomy

> >

> >

> > Okay everyone, Lucas' tenotomy is scheduled for the 18th. The

one he

> > had before (here) was done under anesthesia because the doc

said it

> > was barbaric not to. No sense in traumatizes the baby....and

so on.

> >

> > So, as most of you know, my husband is in Iowa City with Lucas

> > (without me ) and he's worried about the tenotomy. Said

he

> > wasn't going to be in there for it. I'm said I was pretty sure

the

> > parents were there too, but I'd double check. So, were you in

there

> > to hold and comfort? After I told him he may have to be there,

he

> > said he didn't think he could do it, for his sake. I told him

he

> > needed to be there for Lucas' sake. It's so hard, sometimes I

want

> > to tell him to suck it up and be there!!! This is the first

time

> > he's had to deal with everything- usually I've been the bad

guy

> > putting on the brace, taking him to appts, etc.... He said he

> > didn't want Lucas to think he was the one hurting him. Any

advice?

> >

> > Some good news- we're going to the s! Apparently they

took

> > molds of Lucas' feet last Friday in between casts and my

> > husband " forgot " to tell me until yesterday.

> >

> > Just a week and a half!!! I can't wait. Lucas said hi to me on

the

> > phone! I'm going to squeeze like crazy when I see him.

> >

> > Jenn

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >