RE: looking at others :-))))))))))))

[Guest guest]

,

I hate to say it, but I'm the same way in public now. My husband has to

tell me to shut up about it, we talk about it so much. It's amazing to

me...We went to Golden Corral for lunch on Saturday and had the

buffet..I had about 2 bites of meat loaf (yuck) and 1/2 of a

hamburger...while I saw this other lady who was bigger (than me! I've

never had that happen!) who I saw go up to the buffet 5 different times,

then go back for dessert (a piece of pie, some banana pudding and

chocolate cake!). I was looking at my husband like, 'can you believe

that!' with my eyebrows raised and he said, " Don't forget, you used to

do that too! " Which brought me to Earth real fast! It amazes me though.

T.

Lap RNY 6/20/03

432/235/170

Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman

Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/

" I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I

can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most

anywhere to feel like I belong. "

[Guest guest]

I too have always and am always the biggest person in the room. And I know that

people look at me and watch what I am eating. It isn't fair, but that is the

fact of life. But you have to keep in mind that it was you not long ago. These

people just are not as informed as you are and may not know that there is a tool

available to them to help them out. Be proud of yourself, but be careful not to

become one of the people who have hurt your feelings in the past by watching and

talking about you. I think that is something that everyone who loses a bunch of

weight will struggle with at some point or another. It is just like people who

smoke. Reformed smokers are much worse about telling people how bad it is and

those who have never smoked.

RE: looking at others :-))))))))))))

,

I hate to say it, but I'm the same way in public now. My husband has to

tell me to shut up about it, we talk about it so much. It's amazing to

me...We went to Golden Corral for lunch on Saturday and had the

buffet..I had about 2 bites of meat loaf (yuck) and 1/2 of a

hamburger...while I saw this other lady who was bigger (than me! I've

never had that happen!) who I saw go up to the buffet 5 different times,

then go back for dessert (a piece of pie, some banana pudding and

chocolate cake!). I was looking at my husband like, 'can you believe

that!' with my eyebrows raised and he said, " Don't forget, you used to

do that too! " Which brought me to Earth real fast! It amazes me though.

T.

Lap RNY 6/20/03

432/235/170

Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman

Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/

" I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday if I

can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go most

anywhere to feel like I belong. "

[Guest guest]

hey i understand everything you were saying... i watch

people eat too now. and it is amazing to watch people

eat and take big bites...ohwell. that will never be

me. kinda sad sometimes. NOT!!! i can cross my legss

too...nora 85 pounds gone forever in 4 months...

--- monica hornsleth wrote:

>

>

> For those of you who have had the surgery and been

> thru liquid and pureed and our little ozs of food,

> when you go to a social occasion and lets say its a

> buffett...Doesnt it blow your mind how *much* food

> people can put on their plates!!!! We could eat

> whats on their plates for a week! ( and yes, that

> was me before the surgery but things are different

> now.... ;-)

>

> Okay and now Im on a roll( not iterally), I saw this

> lady pick up a forkful of scrambled egggs that

> should have choked her ,it was so huge!!! Im

> surprised she could lift the fork.

>

> hope this makes you chuckle and makes your day.

>

> monica the observer

> who can now cross her legs.

>

> I was at a wedding and I had to pin my dress on cuz

> it was too big. I wore that dress last year and I

> couldnt breathe in it. yipee yippee yippee

>

=====

Freedom Prevails Because Hero's Serve.

- Trulock Family

[Guest guest]

>

>

> For those of you who have had the surgery and been thru liquid and pureed and

our

little ozs of food, when you go to a social occasion and lets say its a

buffett...Doesnt it

blow your mind how *much* food people can put on their plates!!!! We could eat

whats on

their plates for a week! ( and yes, that was me before the surgery but things

are different

now.... ;-)

>

> Okay and now Im on a roll( not iterally), I saw this lady pick up a forkful of

scrambled

egggs that should have choked her ,it was so huge!!! Im surprised she could lift

the fork.

>

> hope this makes you chuckle and makes your day.

It doesn't. It's not funny. Remember, that was YOU once. And me. And every one

of us who

has had to resort to surgery in a desperate attempt to gain something of a

" normal " life. If

it weren't for the surgery, that would still be you. And me.

I try not to judge when I see how much others eat, though sometimes I feel sad

for

someone who is large (like me) and who is trapped in his or her habits of eating

badly and

far too much. Rather than thinking about what the other person is eating, I look

at what I

eat and think, " I remember when this amount was NOTHING to me. " Yesterday I was

able

to eat an entire Mc's cheeseburger, though I felt uncomfortably full

afterwards. But

I thought, as I ate the thing slowly, how it used to be NOTHING for me to go to

the drive

through and order three or four big sandwiches and a big order of fries.

I have to remind myself of that because there is the fear that someday I will be

back there

again. And that I am already able to eat an entire cheeseburger is an indication

that this

future may be out there. That's a path I've been on before, and God help me,

could be

again unless I can control myself. That's why I can't criticize others for how

they eat.

Dep

525/440/230

Open RNY, Jan. 9 '04

Dr. Millikan, University Surgeons

Rush University Medical Center, Chicago

[Guest guest]

Good thread...

Unfortunately, I do not have to go out to dinner to see the larger

portions being consumed. I look at my growing children and see the

amount of food on their plates and often say to my self, there is no

way that I could finish that, and I tell them that.

As for looking at others, the first thing I thought of when I began

to read the thread was, that was me just 14 weeks and 90 pounds ago.

As someone has alluded to, I feel sorry for those that are as big as

I was and eat like there's no tomorrow. Maybe its my own shame that

I feel knowing that I was just like them. It was nothing for me to

eat a 16 oz steak, large sweet potato with butter and sugar

cinnamon, a large salad, mini loaf of bread then top everything off

with a slice of pie and ice cream, in all about 3500 calories in one

sitting. And honestly, without the surgery, today, I'd probably

still be doing the same amount of eating.

Even though I've had the surgery, it was not without sacrifice and

pain. Not being able to eat my favorite foods still bother from time

to time. The occassional bouts of nausea are also a reminder of the

commitment and surgery. I know this is way off the inital topic, but

this is the type of emotion such a thought can stir inside me.

Again, great thread because it make us think of who we were, are and

can become without the intervention of WLS.

-Ray

>

>

> For those of you who have had the surgery and been thru liquid and

pureed and our little ozs of food, when you go to a social occasion

and lets say its a buffett...

[Guest guest]

your message made me laugh. okay maybe we were that way too but we

have earned the right to notice. and i guess it teaches us some

lessons but sometime we just gotta see the humor in life. if that

lady has surgery, she will notice all this too.

> ,

>

> I hate to say it, but I'm the same way in public now. My husband

has to

> tell me to shut up about it, we talk about it so much. It's amazing

to

> me...We went to Golden Corral for lunch on Saturday and had the

> buffet..I had about 2 bites of meat loaf (yuck) and 1/2 of a

> hamburger...while I saw this other lady who was bigger (than me!

I've

> never had that happen!) who I saw go up to the buffet 5 different

times,

> then go back for dessert (a piece of pie, some banana pudding and

> chocolate cake!). I was looking at my husband like, 'can you believe

> that!' with my eyebrows raised and he said, " Don't forget, you used

to

> do that too! " Which brought me to Earth real fast! It amazes me

though.

>

> T.

> Lap RNY 6/20/03

> 432/235/170

> Houston, Dr. Adam Naaman

> Visit my homepage at http://users3.ev1.net/~leeds/

>

> " I will find my way, I can go the distance. I'll be there someday

if I

> can be strong, I know every mile will be worth my while, I would go

most

> anywhere to feel like I belong. "

[Guest guest]

my boss told me " of course you know crossing your legs isnt good

for you " but i said i had to cross them for awhile more and enjoy it

and ill stop later.. :-)

> >

> >

> > For those of you who have had the surgery and been

> > thru liquid and pureed and our little ozs of food,

> > when you go to a social occasion and lets say its a

> > buffett...Doesnt it blow your mind how *much* food

> > people can put on their plates!!!! We could eat

> > whats on their plates for a week! ( and yes, that

> > was me before the surgery but things are different

> > now.... ;-)

> >

> > Okay and now Im on a roll( not iterally), I saw this

> > lady pick up a forkful of scrambled egggs that

> > should have choked her ,it was so huge!!! Im

> > surprised she could lift the fork.

> >

> > hope this makes you chuckle and makes your day.

> >

> > monica the observer

> > who can now cross her legs.

> >

> > I was at a wedding and I had to pin my dress on cuz

> > it was too big. I wore that dress last year and I

> > couldnt breathe in it. yipee yippee yippee

> >

>

> =====

> Freedom Prevails Because Hero's Serve.

> - Trulock Family

[Guest guest]

I really like the way you put this.

>

> Again, great thread because it make us think of who we were, are

and

> can become without the intervention of WLS.

>

> -Ray

>

>

>

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > For those of you who have had the surgery and been thru liquid

and

> pureed and our little ozs of food, when you go to a social occasion

> and lets say its a buffett...

[Guest guest]

I find myself amazed at things like that too. My MIL was here last night,

they NEVER come here, and they stayed for dinner ( I made shepards pie) and she

ate 3 large plates, WOW, i was amazed she could hold that much in. She actually

should not even eat like that since she is diabetic and has had open heart

bypass years ago, she made herself overheated and tunred on the a/c behind her

where she was sitting to cool down.

God Bless,

Robin, NorthEastern, NY

Age- 41

EDD- July 27th, 2004

IT'S A BOY!!!!!!

Mommy to:

&

(twin boys 8 years),

Madison, daughter, 5 years and

Wife to Pup 15 years (October 31, 1988)

Gastric Bypass Surgery-

October 18th 2002

Start-378, current- 246(pregnant)

goal 170 after baby

It's a BOY!!!!!

Emerson Roger