Re: How much should you tell?

[Guest guest]

Here's a guy's perspective:

1. if the guy faults you for trying to better yourself, he's not

worth your efforts...

2. you're probably going to be more attractive when your ortho

surgery journey is complete... you may find yourself dating better

looking guys in the future ... i'm not implying that you're going

for looks exclusively, but you'd be surprised what braces and

surgery can do for your looks...

i was dating a girl for about 3 weeks before i was to get my

braces... i told her 2 days before...i waited a while to tell her

because i didn't think it was a big deal... she thought it was

great that i was doing it; however, some guys think

differently....this may be hypocritical, but I really wouldnt want a

gf to be in braces... (yeah, i know that sounds bad!!) ... i look

for someone with already good teeth, since i have nice teeth now....

having said all this, i would avoid telling him till you're more

comfortable with each other...

Disclaimer; i'm not relationship expert... I'm just giving my

opinion as a guy ...

ps. let us know what happens....

>

> I have a personal question to ask related to this entire process.

I

> will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then eventually

> having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I was

hoping

> to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little bit

due

> to needing dental work first.

>

> Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started dating

> someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very well

yet,

> but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common. Because

we

> have not known each other very long, I have not told him anything

> about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous about

> telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It would

be

> different if we had been friends for awhile first or something.

When

> I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

notice.

> My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him? Also,

> has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how did

you

> handle it?

[Guest guest]

I think I'd just tell him, simply, what's ahead -- braces and jaw

surgery, but without a lot of details. That the braces are imminent,

but that the surgery is a ways off...

If he wants to know more, he'll ask. Otherwise, I think he'll

probably take it at that, at least until you get further into it.

Cammie

>

> I have a personal question to ask related to this entire process.

I

> will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then eventually

> having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I was

hoping

> to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little bit due

> to needing dental work first.

>

> Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started dating

> someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very well yet,

> but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common. Because we

> have not known each other very long, I have not told him anything

> about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous about

> telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It would be

> different if we had been friends for awhile first or something.

When

> I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to notice.

> My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him? Also,

> has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how did you

> handle it?

[Guest guest]

I'd be careful how much you reveal initally. Unless you guys get

serious it's irrelevant and too much to be divulging during the

beginning stages of a relationship can and often will be seen as " baggage "

I do understand the desire to tell all... when I first found out I had

to have braces and surgery, I too had just started dating someone and

it was a real struggle trying to decide just how much to tell him. I

did end up telling all and regretted it - not because I was

embarrassed, but moreso because I put him in an awkward situation.

How was he supposed to act or react - here I am, just this girl he

wants to get to know a bit, date, etc and I hit him full in the face

with all of my *Problems*.

Short version, in hindsight I wish I would have only divulged what was

neccessary and kept the rest to myself until I knew where the

relationship was going

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your post! I am actually starting to chicken out from

having this whole thing done though I am really starting to like

this guy and I keep thinking, if I get the braces on right now it

might ruin everything! I think I have decided to put off the braces

for another month or so because I want to have a chance to get closer

to him so maybe he would be ok with me getting braces. Right now I

don't even want to bring it up. I feel like it is a silly reason to

postpone braces, but honestly, I would rather wait and see what

happens with him first. Also, my surgery is more preventative for

problems in the future and right now I am not having problems with my

bite. Other than not liking how it looks, but its not something I

would do just to fix that. Does it sound crazy of me to postpone

it?

> >

> > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

process.

> I

> > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then eventually

> > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I was

> hoping

> > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little bit

> due

> > to needing dental work first.

> >

> > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

dating

> > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very well

> yet,

> > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common. Because

> we

> > have not known each other very long, I have not told him anything

> > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous about

> > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It would

> be

> > different if we had been friends for awhile first or something.

> When

> > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> notice.

> > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him?

Also,

> > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how did

> you

> > handle it?

[Guest guest]

My gosh! Please listen carefully. I've very reluctant to give advice

on this forum, but I'm going to make an exception.

Do not postpone this surgery. You are doing this surgery for you,

not him or anyone else. If you focus on yourself, everything else

will fall into place, including a good relationship. This may sound

rather flowery, but it's so true.

Even if this relationship ends, you're in a much better position in

the future with a better smile and looks. Do not let anyone delay

this event one single day.

When I was 17 my dentist told I needed braces and surgery. I avoided

doing anything for about 15 years!!! Like you, I didn't want it to

affect my social life. I wish I would have done it sooner because

the braces significantly improved my looks (yes, I did it solely for

cosmetic reasons).

Get the braces ASAP and thank me later. Even if this guy leaves,

you'll be dating much better quality men in a few years, if not

sooner...

The challenges faced with the braces (if any) are worth the

investment...

Truthfully, I wouldn't date a girl with braces (or with bad teeth),

but that's just me... however, if you make this investment, you'll

be in a much better position much sooner...

Bottom line: focus on you and your needs - everything else will fall

into place... don't let this guy, or any guy change what is

important to you (and this is very important)...

Just make sure you have a very good orthodontist that will ensure

you get optimal results from your braces...

PS. maybe this guy has a braces fetish and he may like it.... you

never know...

PPS. Guys will look at other physical attributes before they even

get concerned about braces…

> > >

> > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> process.

> > I

> > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

eventually

> > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I was

> > hoping

> > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little

bit

> > due

> > > to needing dental work first.

> > >

> > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

> dating

> > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very well

> > yet,

> > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

Because

> > we

> > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

anything

> > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

about

> > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

would

> > be

> > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

something.

> > When

> > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > notice.

> > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him?

> Also,

> > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how

did

> > you

> > > handle it?

[Guest guest]

I meant to say " Do not postpone the braces! " :-#

> > > >

> > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > process.

> > > I

> > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> eventually

> > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I

was

> > > hoping

> > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little

> bit

> > > due

> > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > >

> > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

> > dating

> > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

well

> > > yet,

> > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> Because

> > > we

> > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> anything

> > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> about

> > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

> would

> > > be

> > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> something.

> > > When

> > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > notice.

> > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him?

> > Also,

> > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how

> did

> > > you

> > > > handle it?

[Guest guest]

Hi!

I was in a similar situation as you when I first met my boyfriend. I

had already decided before meeting him that I was going to have the

braces and surgery, and like you had the fun task of telling him what

the near future held. He was very supportive of either my having the

braces or not. He accepted me regardless. I think he did feel a

little bit strangely about it at first, but handled it beautifully. I

took care in how I presented the whole idea to him. " What would you

think of my getting braces.... etc. etc. " I made sure the whole thing

was couched a certain way and then I could ascertain his reaction. I

think he also reacted well because I didn't present it to him as if I

was dropping a bomb in his lap. It's ALL in marketing and

presentation! Anyway, the way I've always viewed is is that the

sooner the braces are on the sooner they will be off again. Period. I

actually had a little bit of dental work to be done before I got them

on, so there was a delay of a month or two between our meeting and

when the braces were put on, but I regretted not having that work

done earlier... cause they could have been coming off sooner! That

was a year ago. He and I are still together (he inspects my mouth and

orthodontic progress all the time! I am scheduled for surgery in 3

weeks, and then hopefully everything will be off by the end of the

year. Tell him about them!! Just take care how you tell him! Like

everyone else has said, if he's a keeper and as into you as you are

into him, he will be cool with it. And you will feel better about him

and your relationship with him knowing that he was fine with it and

supported you through this process. It will contribute to your

relationship. You would feel worse if you couldn't tell him about it

or anything. And I'd be up front so he knows what to expect and can

adjust before hand. Good luck and keep us all posted about how it

goes. But really, they aren't forever and the outcome makes them 100

times worth the bother and the time that they are on. Sooner on =

sooner off!! Katja

[Guest guest]

I 2nd that, DO IT! Braces are not a big deal! They're temporary things with

life long benefits. Has this guy discouraged you, have you asked his opinion?

You may be worring for nothing.

P.S. Zulu, why would you not date a girl with braces?? You've beent throught

this process, where is your compassion for the situation??

zulu1967 wrote:

I meant to say " Do not postpone the braces! " :-#

> > > >

> > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > process.

> > > I

> > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> eventually

> > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I

was

> > > hoping

> > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little

> bit

> > > due

> > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > >

> > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

> > dating

> > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

well

> > > yet,

> > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> Because

> > > we

> > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> anything

> > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> about

> > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

> would

> > > be

> > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> something.

> > > When

> > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > notice.

> > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him?

> > Also,

> > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how

> did

> > > you

> > > > handle it?

[Guest guest]

Hi Miranda,

Yeah - I know it sounds hypocritical, but I really wouldn't date a

girl with braces. Would any single people here date someone with bad

teeth and/or bite after they got their teeth and bite fixed?

I believe it is not a coincidence that both Tova and Katja are

dating guys with perfect teeth. My current girlfriend has an

incredible smile and perfect teeth. I don't think that any of us

consciously set out to find people with great teeth, but we

subconsciously were thinking about nice teeth and bite and found

ourselves gravitating towards people with nice teeth and bite....

It's the power of focus... when we're focusing on certain things,

we're very cognizant about it everywhere. I now find myself looking

at everyone's teeth and bite. I wouldn't be surprised to hear that

ortho surgeons are continually looking at peoples bite. My surgeon

told me about his analysis of some of the contestants on that TV

makeover show called " The Swan. "

I would definitely not date anyone with bad teeth or bite now. I may

make an exception with someone in braces, but i doubt it...

regardless, they should be doing it for themselves, not for me or

anyone else....

That's why I think the girl that's worried need to focus on herself.

If she takes care of herself, everything else will fall into place.

She should not let others' opinions dictate her life decisions

(especially if they are not family members). I wouldn't be surprised

if she finds herself dating better quality guys after the braces…

the sooner she does it, the sooner she can reap the rewards.

> > > > >

> > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > process.

> > > > I

> > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > eventually

> > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I

> was

> > > > hoping

> > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

little

> > bit

> > > > due

> > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > >

> > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

started

> > > dating

> > > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

> well

> > > > yet,

> > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> > Because

> > > > we

> > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > anything

> > > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> > about

> > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

> > would

> > > > be

> > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > something.

> > > > When

> > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > notice.

> > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

him?

> > > Also,

> > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and

how

> > did

> > > > you

> > > > > handle it?

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

While I hate to admit it... he has a point. I would definitely date a

guy with braces because at least he's " in the works " but I will admit

that my last boyfriend, whom I dated for a year and a half, really

needed braces. At the beginning, I just was not so attracted to him. We

started dating when I got to know his personality and his teeth began

to matter less and less.... eventually though- especially when other

things started annoying me, I found myself looking at his teeth and

thinking " he really should get those fixed " ... mind you, I was not

wearing braces but his were cosmetically a lot more distracting than

mine were. I felt bad that I thought that but, well, I did. After that

relationship ended, when I started dating again, nice teeth were a very

big plus. I don't think that moving forward, if I ever was single

again, I would feel comfortable dating someone with bad teeth... (maybe

if they were european... but even then...) I invested the time and

money to work on my smile because as an adult who owns a mirror, it is

important to me. It's weird to me to think that an otherwise a smart,

ambitious & social person would not be interested in fixing his

messed-up teeth. It just doesn't add up.

One more thing... just to make me sound a bit more shallow... if

possible...

My ex-brother-in-law was a doctor- really high-up in his field and well

respected and all that. He had NASTY teeth (some were pushed back and

gray- others twisted) and I could never stop thinking.... If this guy

can't even take care of his own mouth, why would any of his patience

think he is diligent enough to take care of their whole bodies? I could

never understand how my sister kissed him and even if I thought he was

a great guy, (which I didn't) I could never, ever, ever have dated him.

Again. I know it's shallow & judgemental and I hope I don't offend

anyone here but I figure we are all in this forum because we are aware

of how distracting bad teeth can be...

Tova

>

>

> Yeah - I know it sounds hypocritical, but I really wouldn't date a

> girl with braces. Would any single people here date someone with bad

> teeth and/or bite after they got their teeth and bite fixed?

>

> I believe it is not a coincidence that both Tova and Katja are

> dating guys with perfect teeth. My current girlfriend has an

> incredible smile and perfect teeth. I don't think that any of us

> consciously set out to find people with great teeth, but we

> subconsciously were thinking about nice teeth and bite and found

> ourselves gravitating towards people with nice teeth and bite....

>

> It's the power of focus... when we're focusing on certain things,

> we're very cognizant about it everywhere. I now find myself looking

> at everyone's teeth and bite. I wouldn't be surprised to hear that

> ortho surgeons are continually looking at peoples bite. My surgeon

> told me about his analysis of some of the contestants on that TV

> makeover show called " The Swan. "

>

> I would definitely not date anyone with bad teeth or bite now. I may

> make an exception with someone in braces, but i doubt it...

> regardless, they should be doing it for themselves, not for me or

> anyone else....

>

> That's why I think the girl that's worried need to focus on herself.

> If she takes care of herself, everything else will fall into place.

> She should not let others' opinions dictate her life decisions

> (especially if they are not family members). I wouldn't be surprised

> if she finds herself dating better quality guys after the braces…

> the sooner she does it, the sooner she can reap the rewards.

>

>

>

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > > process. 

> > > > > I

> > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > > eventually

> > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite.  I

> > was

> > > > > hoping

> > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

> little

> > > bit

> > > > > due

> > > > > > to needing dental work first. 

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

> started

> > > > dating

> > > > > > someone I was set up with.  We don't know each other very

> > well

> > > > > yet,

> > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common. 

> > > Because

> > > > > we

> > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > > anything

> > > > > > about the braces/surgery.  I am actually a little nervous

> > > about

> > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him.  It

> > > would

> > > > > be

> > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > something. 

> > > > > When

> > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > > notice.  

> > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

> him? 

> > > > Also,

> > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and

> how

> > > did

> > > > > you

> > > > > > handle it?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

The part of Zulu's " I wouldn't date a girl with braces " that I don't

understand is -- why would you let something temporary and purely a

matter of appearances keep you away from someone you liked and/or

loved?

Once my first husband asked me, " Would you still love me if I were

bald? " I thought it was a dumb question then, and I still do. What I

loved was the person -- not the head of hair!

Cammie

> > > > >

> > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > process.

> > > > I

> > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > eventually

> > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I

> was

> > > > hoping

> > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little

> > bit

> > > > due

> > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > >

> > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

> > > dating

> > > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

> well

> > > > yet,

> > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> > Because

> > > > we

> > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > anything

> > > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> > about

> > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

> > would

> > > > be

> > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > something.

> > > > When

> > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > notice.

> > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

him?

> > > Also,

> > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how

> > did

> > > > you

> > > > > handle it?

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I too find that people don't seem to care that I have braces. I have had some

interest in me but it's actually me that is not wanting to pursue anything. I

guess I have a slight problem with them, I want them off first and then get into

something. Not sure if I would date a guy with them on - it would depend on the

guy. I can't say why - it really does depend on the individual for me.

One thing I will say is that once you do get them on you will wish you had them

on sooner because you will want it to end. I can understand that you want to

have time with this guy but I probably wouldn't postpone for a relationship.

Experience tells me that you need to look after you and I would say that you

should really get them on.

Zulu has some good perspectives but I wonder whether it would depend on the

person Zulu as to whether you would or would not date them?

Tova Friedman wrote:

I could not agree more. I dated a lot with crooked teeth and so I

figured if these guys liked me and thought I was cute, what was the

point of fixing them? I was sooo nervous to get the braces on and so

sad because I thought they looked ugly. I will tell you something... in

retrospect- braces will never, ever look worse than visually bad teeth.

It honestly took about 6 months before I stopped thinking " I have

braces... they're looking at my braces " but at the same time I was

thinking " good, they know I take pride in my appearance and am

concientious (sp?) about correcting my teeth in the proper way. " ( I

would be more self-concious about awkward looking veneers than I have

ever felt about braces- and these are temporary) Most people could not

care less. Anyone who felt free to comment was either family or just

jerky human beings. Men - good looking men - did not stop being

interested in me (though I had a boyfriend, the positive reenforcement

I rec'd when out with friends was pretty clear) and as Zulu noted,

there are some men... not gross men and probably more than will admit

it... who have a thing for girls in braces... it reminds them of their

first crush or makes them feel young. Also, I'd bet if you'd have asked

my boyfriend before he met me if he'd date a girl with braces, he'd

have said no.... well look at that.... I guess sometimes people aren't

really as shallow as they think they are. Unfortunately, my boyfriend

is not one of those braces fetish guys and the both of us really are

ready to get these things off my teeth (it's been over 2 years) but

every penny of the $6,500 I spent for these braces was money well

spent. there is nothing better than feeling good about how you look

when you smile. And I say that while still wearing my braces. Even with

them, I smile wider and more sincerely than I did with my bad teeth.

Tova

>

>

>

>

> > > > >

> > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > process.

> > > > I

> > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > eventually

> > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I

> was

> > > > hoping

> > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little

> > bit

> > > > due

> > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > >

> > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

> > > dating

> > > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

> well

> > > > yet,

> > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> > Because

> > > > we

> > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > anything

> > > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> > about

> > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

> > would

> > > > be

> > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > something.

> > > > When

> > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > notice.

> > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell him?

> > > Also,

> > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how

> > did

> > > > you

> > > > > handle it?

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I really think that generally if anyone met someone they truly liked for

whatever reason they would look past the braces. I would and I must say that I

look at the aesthetic side of things.

ceast36532 <no_reply > wrote:

The part of Zulu's " I wouldn't date a girl with braces " that I don't

understand is -- why would you let something temporary and purely a

matter of appearances keep you away from someone you liked and/or

loved?

Once my first husband asked me, " Would you still love me if I were

bald? " I thought it was a dumb question then, and I still do. What I

loved was the person -- not the head of hair!

Cammie

> > > > >

> > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > process.

> > > > I

> > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > eventually

> > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite. I

> was

> > > > hoping

> > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a little

> > bit

> > > > due

> > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > >

> > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently started

> > > dating

> > > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

> well

> > > > yet,

> > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> > Because

> > > > we

> > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > anything

> > > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> > about

> > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him. It

> > would

> > > > be

> > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > something.

> > > > When

> > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > notice.

> > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

him?

> > > Also,

> > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and how

> > did

> > > > you

> > > > > handle it?

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey,

Granted braces aren't the most enjoyable thing, they are something

that will help you in the long run. Take it from a person who has

had health problems from a terrible bite, it's not worth it. I'd say

that even though you don't have any problems now, be preventative,

and get the show on the road ASAP. If this guy does like you enough,

he'll stick around, and if he doesn't, maybe he's not the kind of

top quality guy you want.

I've had my braces on for about 10 months and have dated people in

the meantime. I am self conscious at times, but you get over it and

realize that it's a point in your life and it will soon be back to

normal. I would like to think though, that people aren't as

superficial as we fear they are. If it were me, I'd tell the person

I was dating even if I hadn't been with them for a while.

Good luck with your situation. I hope it all works out for the best!

~

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this entire

> > > > process.

> > > > > I

> > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > > eventually

> > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an underbite.

I

> > was

> > > > > hoping

> > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

little

> > > bit

> > > > > due

> > > > > > to needing dental work first.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

started

> > > > dating

> > > > > > someone I was set up with. We don't know each other very

> > well

> > > > > yet,

> > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in common.

> > > Because

> > > > > we

> > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told him

> > > anything

> > > > > > about the braces/surgery. I am actually a little nervous

> > > about

> > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm him.

It

> > > would

> > > > > be

> > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > something.

> > > > > When

> > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going to

> > > > > notice.

> > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

him?

> > > > Also,

> > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine and

how

> > > did

> > > > > you

> > > > > > handle it?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

A potential explanation as to why someone not might want to get

surgery--a friend of mine got braces on when he was in high school

but had to have them promptly removed. As it turns out, the

movement of teeth associated with braces was causing the roots of

his teeth to dissolve. Runs in the family. Just thought I'd throw

that one out there!

also, my surgery is coming up 3/3/05, and you all have been very

helpful with your comments and sharing experiences and what not.

Just a question--did everyone find it useful to sleep inclined? my

surgeon hasn't mentioned that, and my orthodontist said that it

might not be necessary to do that. Just wondering about other

people's experiencs. Thanks!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this

entire

> > > > > process. 

> > > > > > I

> > > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and then

> > > > eventually

> > > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an

underbite.  I

> > > was

> > > > > > hoping

> > > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

> > little

> > > > bit

> > > > > > due

> > > > > > > to needing dental work first. 

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

> > started

> > > > > dating

> > > > > > > someone I was set up with.  We don't know each other

very

> > > well

> > > > > > yet,

> > > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in

common. 

> > > > Because

> > > > > > we

> > > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not told

him

> > > > anything

> > > > > > > about the braces/surgery.  I am actually a little

nervous

> > > > about

> > > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm

him.  It

> > > > would

> > > > > > be

> > > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > > something. 

> > > > > > When

> > > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously going

to

> > > > > > notice.  

> > > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not tell

> > him? 

> > > > > Also,

> > > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine

and

> > how

> > > > did

> > > > > > you

> > > > > > > handle it?

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

I had my surgery about 3 and half weeks ago and nothing was said to

me about being inclined while I slept. I just kind of felt my way

through it. I found it to be more comfortable to put a couple large

pillows behind my back at a slight incline for the 1st week. After

that I just used my normal pillow but got one of those foam neck

pillows which worked wonders. I still sleep with it because it

supports my neck really well and is comfortable against my cheeks

and jaw.

Good luck with things...keep us posted on how you're doing.

~

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I have a personal question to ask related to this

> entire

> > > > > > process. 

> > > > > > > I

> > > > > > > > will be getting my braces on in a month or so and

then

> > > > > eventually

> > > > > > > > having upper and lower surgery to correct an

> underbite.  I

> > > > was

> > > > > > > hoping

> > > > > > > > to already have the braces on, but had to delay it a

> > > little

> > > > > bit

> > > > > > > due

> > > > > > > > to needing dental work first. 

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Here's where my question comes in...I just recently

> > > started

> > > > > > dating

> > > > > > > > someone I was set up with.  We don't know each

other

> very

> > > > well

> > > > > > > yet,

> > > > > > > > but so far we have hit it off and have a lot in

> common. 

> > > > > Because

> > > > > > > we

> > > > > > > > have not known each other very long, I have not

told

> him

> > > > > anything

> > > > > > > > about the braces/surgery.  I am actually a little

> nervous

> > > > > about

> > > > > > > > telling him because I am afraid it will overwhelm

> him.  It

> > > > > would

> > > > > > > be

> > > > > > > > different if we had been friends for awhile first or

> > > > > something. 

> > > > > > > When

> > > > > > > > I get my braces on in a month, he is obviously

going

> to

> > > > > > > notice.  

> > > > > > > > My question is, How much should I tell him or not

tell

> > > him? 

> > > > > > Also,

> > > > > > > > has anyone else been in a situation similar to mine

> and

> > > how

> > > > > did

> > > > > > > you

> > > > > > > > handle it?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >